Hi all, I'll try to feed in as much information and as detail as I can, but apologize if the sequence and some details is blur. I also appreciate feedback from persons who is a police officer or in the police force.

It all started when my girlfriend was looking for a carpool from JB to SG for daily work travels, she found one that is the cheapest compared to others, probably cheaper by 10-20 ringgit. At first, there is no red flag of any kind, cut to few months later, during these few months tenure, my girlfriend and the lady boss, let's call her A from now on, have been chatting on and off, talking about normal stuff like whether she reached her workplace and stuff like that, their friendship is at best mediocre, she also at times ask my transfer to help transfer / top up VEP autopass for the driver, and A would pay her back in cash, which she really did for the first few times. After some digging, including a WhatsApp group where A is also inside, we found out from others and ourselves, she also owes a lot of other people's money, including her carpool drivers, and she is also a gambler.

And as a result, my girlfriend started to believe and gain her trust, so to the latest transfer, she transferred a total of SGD 1500, and now she's having trouble getting the money back, despite A saying that she will return her the money with cash, and that she have the cash ready, that is what made my girlfriend did the transfer. My girlfriend knows people like this exist, but just didn't thought that she would meet one, I did warn her way back but she kind of refused to listen, for example, she paid for a full 1 year carpool money when A suggested her to do so, and she only told me AFTER she already made the payment. I told her that for this time, if you can't get back your money ( which is highly unlikely she is getting a cent back ) although I will try to help her, but if she can't, then take this as a huge lesson to NOT trust anyone, even if the feeling or vibe is right, and especially when it comes to money issues, let me know first and discuss with me before doing anything, which obviously she did the opposite.

Anyway, I would like to seek for advice here, as of today, it's been a few days that A is delaying, giving lame excuses which I am well aware of ( I've had my fair shares of encounter of people like A ), I took charge of this and got a brief message going on with A, she told me that she will be free to listen to my call at 5 PM, which again I know it's just an excuse, but either way I'll wait till 5 to speak to her. My goal is of course to try to get back at least some amount of money, but if I can't, I would like to know what else can I do from here ?

Basically we have her IC, her house address, she lives in JB, I too live in JB, going for a police report is in my mind but I doubt the police would even bother with small cases like this, so any advice and suggestions are more than welcome, thank you!

This post has been edited by Sotsotzaii: Jun 18 2025, 03:45 PM

cannot do anything...

Srill make report if I were you

nothing can be done legally. it's akin to giving money away and then saying you regretted it. no black and white.

as to the illegal ways to obtain the money.. that leave to your imagination.

as to the thing you can do to help feel better:
1. treat to a pre-purchased spa package
2. treat to a short local holiday
3. buy a big big indoor neon sign with "I told you so" and place it at the living room

Read up "small claim court".

I lol'ed at the last point, but yeah I did told her so, trust me, I just told her that multiple times. Anyway, as a way to make her feel better, I will be gifting her cash to aid her in whatever she may need, not to compensate her or not to pity her, but as a gift.

As for ways to obtain back the money through illegal methods, I have a few, but I don't plan to act on those until as my last resort.

Nvm ba 1500 sgd small money to you. Sgd x 3.2 sap sap sui. Lesson lesson learned move on.

This post has been edited by skyblack4492: Jun 18 2025, 05:17 PM

Didnt i read lady boss ?? will she have impact on ur gf at work ??

Anyway not hard, see how far u willing to go, no need report polis, just tell her, she dont payback then her face and the chat record will be all over social media

If I'm you, I'll be more worried about your gf carpooling with strangers across causeway. Imagine 1 fine day a passenger carried some illegal stuff. Fyi, carpooling is not legal across causeway

make police report, have a visit to the house

There's nothing much you can do right? Just take it as a lesson ba.

Penny wise pound foolish. 1.5k is not that much. Can easily earn back after working a month. Just a failed investment ba.

give money voluntarily or for a service ? Voluntarily - can bring to small claim court .

Still carpool everyday? If yes, just continue loh and consider it as advance payment. And at month end, pretend no money or forgot purse and ask to 'borrow' ten twenty dollars for lunch.

The lady is based in SG? You need to report SG police since transacted in SGd I think

This. But carpooling is illegal.

You most likely won't able to get anything from A ....... their so call "service" have no legal grounds. If she is still asking for next payment, I'd say stop using A's service ... at best maybe can ask ppl be aware online make her loose business ....... gambler have a habit of loosing money fast so she won't able to survive long if her service is taking reputation hit.

Also report A to SG side so pulis can make A's life a living hell when they get blacklisted.

To be honest it will most likely be you paying the bill to score GF points ...... maybe can get some ass slapping costplay moment but you will have to burn your wallet for it ........ unless you wanna do the opposite.

Is the carpool even legal in the first place? Unless if you want to go another route - report to SG police to rat ladyboss out because she does carpool service from JB to SG, provide as much evidences, but take the SGD 1500 as a big lesson.



This post has been edited by WongTheThief: Jun 18 2025, 11:34 PM

Yes the good thing about sg is the law is strict... so always use the law to ur advantage...