That is not 100% correct. Some people need to around other all the time no matter what age. That's why they have gatherings. Got younger people just do not like to socialize and like to avoid other by giving excuses.

of coz there are exceptions.

for many of us.. the older we gets... the more we are selective on who to dedicate time and effort towards.

Exceptions would be those who need to be dependent on others for daily rituals like OKUs or poor self image (attention seeker). Socializing means showing ourselves to the world in hope they're impressed and pay attention to us. Nobody socialize and go " I dont give a damn how they think of me" . those DGAF adults already minimized their socializing .

This post has been edited by alanyuppie: May 13 2025, 04:24 PM

When people getting old, they found out they can't keep up the pace with younger crowd. staminal also can't compete. All they need is to keep their own unique pace and tempo at their best.

Unker old liao dun like go shopping mall weekend many people young crowded

During COVID time, this is called Social Distancing; it's good actually, avoiding toxic people.

Getting older and talking less is because we talk too much when we are younger..so we are chilling out now.

Im already old during my younger years.

I enjoy my quiet time and I dont need to talk a lot...

already avoid ppl long ago..too many sohai out there lol

That's normal, we call them extroverts and introverts.

You don't really avoid all people as you age.

You try to avoid STUPID people the older you get because you realize it's just a waste of time and energy.

I avoid ppl because i finally got the autonomy to do whatever the fuck i want.

Always been the awkward kid in class. But good thing my confidence level is sky high and very direct when talking thanks to ADHD. My whole life i will mind my own business and always seems to be very into whatever i do so i am naturally end up very good with what i like to do. Turns out being confident, no faking and really blunt in communication is perfect recipe for good life especially in all boys school.

as introvert avoided ppl since borne

depend on character maybe.
Introvert love to be alone. feel like recharge.
Extrovert love to meet people. feel like dying when cannot talk to others

you'll realize that ppl does change along with age and experience, mindset + attitude

the one that you mentioned is habit which is really hard to change

just my 0.02cents

nothing to avoid when there is nothing to begin with.

I don't think I have changed. experience, mindset + attitude are stagnant.
I think you need external forces to change you. I just don't expose myself to any external forces.

as you grow older you will realise time is limited and you will start to prioritise... like food if i need to queue, its not worth it...

Minna san, totemo furui hito desu nehh? 🫩👴🏻👵🏼

This post has been edited by max_cavalera: May 13 2025, 05:10 PM

I remember when I was young, my friends are like my world. How they view me is important. We have fun together. Go out often, home is boring.

Now that I have age, I couldn't care less what others think of me. I am most happy in my own space and can find fulfillment myself. I prefer alone time.

I think usually is because they developed some underlying illness or socially awkward conditions due to old age. If still healthy and fit with confidence and still can competitive/piaps, whats there to avoid regardless of age.

This post has been edited by Penamer: May 13 2025, 05:13 PM

i don't think it's about avoiding "stupid" people, it's more like you regard people who don't share your values/view points as stupid, i.e. you don't have any energy to entertain differing viewpoints anymore.

older people tend to be more conservative/conforming, and young people more liberal and want to try new things/become contrarian.

people are too dangerous.
Watch many zombie apocalypse movies, the most dangerous are no zombies but human.

I actually feel like connecting with old friends back, since my kids is getting "older" and need less attention from me.

Summary 6 pt pls..

And you'll realize the old friends of yours are not the friends that you knew back then

The older I get, I want my peace and quiet .. of course at times; my same "internal close circle" of friends will always meet up for gathering for bi-weekly ..

external force - incidents and life experiences

That's what I am afraid of too..

I did reconnect with my best friend in class few years, and like you said, we don't actually think in the same wavelength anymore. It's been more than a year since I last hang out with him, probably wouldn't see him much other than kenduri or hari raya.

Now my plan is to reconnect with my close friends in dorm (I was in boarding school), who mostly have the same personal interest with me.

Yah meh. You not avoiding also. Seem like more thread everyday.

1 thing that I noticed about myself other than avoiding people is I've no longer have interest to spend so much on craps that I don't even need in the first place.

Example, shop for clothes, pants or shoes. My clothes, pants are still in good condition. I've only wear them If I go out on weekend or on my offday. My sport shoes are still in a good condition.

I've no idea why many adults out there spending tons of money on every weekend buying craps that they already have at home.

When you read articles, books regarding overconsumption, over consumerism, minimalism, it changes a lot of your perspective when it comes to your spending.

This post has been edited by xpole: May 13 2025, 06:04 PM

I notice some reunions or office gatherings, tend to have Aunties that love to boast about their children work in overseas and married to ang moh.

Better to avoid. Not to attend to boastful gatherings.

or those toxic ones that tend to cucuk other people

As I grow older, I find my Bullahit Threshold getting lower and lower. Coupled with almost everyone constantly talking about the latest online theory, trend, news etc, on top of trying to convert you to their point of view, well it's a no brainer I like to spend time with myself.

Also, I notice people nowadays just can't seem to shut up and enjoy a campanionable silence. I blame this on the short attention spans most online sites like Tiktok/Douyin inculcate in people nowadays. They just can't be at peace with themselves.

i for one, is getting more interested in knowing more ppl now days.

well, to be honest, always like that even during my younger days, but recently its getting more rampant.hahah

love to know about new people. especially cute hawt ones.

old ppl is wierd

nani xirawpe?

Yes. I prefer not facing crowd hence choose to brain rot here

The older you get, the less free time you have to spend on socializing with people.

So very selective, only those that bring in the right vibe and mindset.

I don't have time to waste on listening to gossip, drama, bullshits and backstabbing.

This people said Makin tua makin gatal

Ktards say avoid people when getting age

But the truth is they keep on coming back at /k arguing babi and racing Type M C & I all the time

OWAI

this one i cannot deny..

a bit scary. hahahaha

yesterday saw my son's teacher,(young teacher 23 yold) after jog, the urge to flirt is like so high up there.

had to recite doa to control myself..


HAHAHAH