Something so wrong in the family education nowadays. Family education burden cannot be left to be taught by school or religious entity; it must be taught by the family themselves.

Modern school can only give the most basic exposure; the real cultivation is at home. We should stop blaming the school for moral etiquette guidance; this stuff should be guided by the family. School should focus more on other subjects.

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This is the extract of the Chapter 1 from Chapter 1 (序致篇) of The Yan Family Instructions (颜氏家训) ~ one of the most extensively written family instruction for Yan's lineage / clan:

Insight from Chapter 1: Cultivating Virtue Through Daily Practice
Core Insight:

Yan Zhitui emphasizes that virtue is not merely theoretical knowledge, but rather a set of behaviors and values cultivated and reinforced through daily practice. He identifies key virtues—such as sincerity, filial piety, humility, respect, frugality, kindness, generosity, and harmony—that must become habitual and natural, woven seamlessly into one's everyday actions and interactions.

Why it Matters:
Virtue becomes authentic only when it is consistently lived out. By intentionally embedding virtues into daily life, these values move from abstract ideals to concrete realities, shaping character, guiding decisions, and stabilizing family relationships.

Modern Application:
Today, people often struggle with aligning their daily actions with their stated values. Yan’s instruction reminds us to bridge the gap between knowing and doing. Regular self-reflection, practical rituals (such as family meetings or deliberate acts of kindness), and clear teaching by example can transform family dynamics and positively shape future generations.

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