Tell us what is your regret is old dating memories?
If goes back to the time, what would you do?

could it be that when she was out with you to the cinema, that's the down time between her bf and her, so she was looking for companion, just normal companion to forget things for a while. but when she settled with her bf, they were back together and feel it is inappropriate to go with you anymore.

TS. You still got meet her as friends?

Mine also almost one year no longer in contact but still keep remembering her. I can contact her if want to but i respect her decisions to forget me. I want to delete all our photos and videos but scare because once delete it, i afraid will no longer have photo of us as memories. Just hoping my current wont find where i hide the photos. Having sex few times with her make it worse i guess.
Its the memories that count and their relationship also not just 1 cinema outing but also talk few times more

Dei u 35 dy why dei why? I feel embarrassed you longing for that woman and wasting all your God given opportunities to  be the best version of yourself. Life is a gift. Heartbrake is normal take time and heal but not 13 years long. Do you realize by longing the Ah So how many opportunities in life u lost? Potentially to further your career, enhance your looks fitness learn new skills earn more money. Dont be a pussy and wake up.

The woman moved on its not you mourning a person who loved you dearly .She made her bed and lay in it while you crying here and expecting a different outcome.

I can tell you this , as a serial dater back in the day I broke heart and got heart broken . But over time I realise when I want something serious I need to take myself seriously and I need to respect myself before expecting ppl to love and respect me. Be the best man you can be and stop being a pussy. Good luck. Someday you may end up with the right woman for you but you need to be the best version and respect yourself. Not all woman are bad, see carefully what you like and don't like before pursuing any relationship far. Be cut and dry . You got no time to waste and be honest.

You try to talk to other women. Bunga bukan sekuntum.

So TS saw fish
Fish look tasty
One day canteen accidentally serve TS fish
TS ate fish once
Sedap
TS went back canteen want to eat more fish
Canteen say sorry no fish for you

And since then TS trauma and don’t date to eat fish anymore. Memories of the canteen say no hurt TS badly.

Ok… TS, can we agree
1. There’s more fish in the sea
2. That’s not the only place serve fish… mcd got, Gerai got, Michelin restaurant got…

But because of that bad memory hurt TS he swore off fish, but actually deep down he like fish. So tamau fish because the process to get it is painful, cause may kena reject.

Ok.. did I understand YOUR FEELINGS correctly?

Ramjade is telling you to just keep asking until you numb. And if you ask 300 girls 1 will say yes because statistics. That’s the correct playbook but doesn’t address how you feel about it.

Let’s explore it further
Why you feel like vomiting/sick/nausea when girls reject you?

Why is it such a big deal when someone says no to you? Are you secretly royalty related to Kim Jong Un and growing up nobody said no to you cause if they do their families get shot and their heads get chopped off? Need more context as to why you feel so strongly.

OR the other option just buy a mail order bride from Laos or Cambodia. As long as you pay her family money she won’t reject you. Make sure you got money lah.

So TS saw fish
Fish look tasty
One day canteen accidentally serve TS fish
TS ate fish once
Sedap
TS went back canteen want to eat more fish
Canteen say sorry no fish for you

And since then TS trauma and don’t date to eat fish anymore. Memories of the canteen say no hurt TS badly.

Ok… TS, can we agree
1. There’s more fish in the sea
2. That’s not the only place serve fish… mcd got, Gerai got, Michelin restaurant got…

But because of that bad memory hurt TS he swore off fish, but actually deep down he like fish. So tamau fish because the process to get it is painful, cause may kena reject.

Ok.. did I understand YOUR FEELINGS correctly?

Ramjade is telling you to just keep asking until you numb. And if you ask 300 girls 1 will say yes because statistics. That’s the correct playbook but doesn’t address how you feel about it.

Let’s explore it further
Why you feel like vomiting/sick/nausea when girls reject you?

Why is it such a big deal when someone says no to you? Are you secretly royalty related to Kim Jong Un and growing up nobody said no to you cause if they do their families get shot and their heads get chopped off? Need more context as to why you feel so strongly.

OR the other option just buy a mail order bride from Laos or Cambodia. As long as you pay her family money she won’t reject you. Make sure you got money lah.

But you still continue to go for job interviews and get a job? Then how is it different with girls bro? Why you are especially sensitive because it's a girl rejecting you?

You need to understand that in life, 99% of the time you do not get what you want, with the exception of royalty that's the 1%. Being rejected is the norm, not the exception. Talk to sales people, in insurance, standing in malls asking you to sign up credit card, property agents, etc. they get rejected all the time.

YOU, need to understand and internalize to yourself that it is absolutely NORMAL to get rejected. And moving forward you will be rejected. You suggest having McD for lunch and your friends reject you, they want KFC. It is not that big a deal. More often than not, they reject you have nothing to do with you.

The girl reject you, because she already set in stone she wants the other guy. Does that mean you are lesser? Inferior? No lah, she just wants the other guy. I want McD ayam goreng today, but tomorrow I want KFC. Does that mean 1 is inferior to the other? Nolah, they are just different. Some days I prefer the kick of McD spicy with that thick batter, some days I don't. So should McD spicy ayam feel nausea and vomiting cause the chicken died for me and I don't want to eat it? Takkan right.
That's the lucky one. Little that they know Ramjade is sitting on a mine of exponential growth hidden from plain sight. hahahaha. Exactly, you want the girl who likes you for who you are, not what you have.

Have power & influence? You will lose it over time, look at Mamakthir. Have fancy CEO title? Can't work forever, will soon be forgotten. Young 20 year old F1 fans won't know who is Jim Todt except he's Michelle Yeoh's husband.

Main order bride? She can be with you for 10 years but once the money dries out she will be on the next flight back to where she came from.

am in no position to advice anything.....
plus....all the good advice is all laid out right above

just wanna know...
what movie was it?

dowan to talk bout it, totally understand

but you better understand this one other thing too
yes, she's left this one huge impact on your life
you feel she's the best thing that's ever happened in your life
we've all gone through this
normally we'll snap out of the first when we hop on to the next

fret not young man
the right partner will swing by
when you least expect it

I laughed hard here. Skip rope? What are you? A loser?

Courtship, simplified, is just doing sales.

1. To get the girl (buyer) to like you, YOU (salesman) must FIRST KNOW what the buyer wants.

1A. Why the fish you trying to impress her or make her like you when YOU DONT EVEN KNOW WHAT SHE LIKE? You clown? Trying to entertain everybody? Cause that’s what clowns do, they come up with material to appeal to Semua lapisan masyrakat.

2. She doesn’t give a shit about you or your car la. Only you you think you are cool with your Honda. If she thinks your car is damn cool you don’t want her anyway. Or the next cooler car show up you’re history.

You think highly of yourself when in fact you’re nobody. You’re just another unique human being; fact: there’s 2 billion unique human beings out there how unique do you think you are? Unless your family got networth upwards of RM100 million, you’re seriously habuk, so take your head out of your ass.

3. When trying to get a girl, watching movie is the dumbest thing to do because you are not interacting with her. See 1A. You’re supposed to talk to her, ask her what she look for in relationship, what’s her biggest fear, what’s her dreams, what she thinks about starting a family, what she wants to achieve, which countries she wanna go and why, what is on her “to do” list before she dies. All these questions help you know more about her. Shit, how much do you know about her? Do you know what’s her favorite food? What’s her favorite color and why?

Or you just like her cause she’s pretty and that’s all just on surface level?

I think your first problem is not that you cannot get girls. You’re immature and shallow. Grow up buddy.

You know why people go to cinema as first date last time?

Its for "accidental" physical contact (hand touch when eating popcorn) or even more hanky panky stuff. Nowadays with all the surveillance, people don't go there for initial dates anymore.

Convince yourself about your "ancient love" all you like, but know that it is a delusion. Its only something you tell yourself to make yourself feel better.

There are 2 things you need to do
1) Learn more about yourself so you become more confident in your own skin
2) Learn more about women and how to court them

Going extreme in either (1) or (2) is bad, but you do need to know how to do both and find your balance point. People like ramjade is very clear about who he is and also very clear about what he wants in a partner. However he's not so stupid to not put effort into some courtship and romance.

I am cheap guy. I either bring the girl to a public park or go sushi (free green tea refill). If you talk for a long time, you will get thirsty.

The Eastern Philosophy guide to doing well in human relationships is Ren 仁 (Chinese: 仁, meaning "co-humanity" or "humaneness").

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Ren 仁 is the core of Confucius’s moral thought, encompassing three primary levels:

“Self-love,” which means cherishing and respecting one’s own life.

“Filial piety and fraternal duty,” i.e., love for one’s parents, siblings, spouse, and children.

“Loving others” means loving everyone in society and filling the world with love.

In Confucius’s moral thought, Ren is a moral sentiment and practice. He advocated cultivating one’s inner self and fostering benevolence to achieve harmonious social relationships.

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If you are able to understand & cultivate Ren 仁,

The attempt to build relationships will be effortless.

The relationship form will be long-lasting.

Yet, in this modern day, do the public still know Ren 仁 @ (人二 = more than 1 人 = living with another human)?

Or do public now only know how to live as Ren 人 (singular) only?

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Modern-day humans have already forgotten the way of living as humans. This world still got long way to go.