So TS saw fish
Fish look tasty
One day canteen accidentally serve TS fish
TS ate fish once
Sedap
TS went back canteen want to eat more fish
Canteen say sorry no fish for you

And since then TS trauma and don’t date to eat fish anymore. Memories of the canteen say no hurt TS badly.

Ok… TS, can we agree
1. There’s more fish in the sea
2. That’s not the only place serve fish… mcd got, Gerai got, Michelin restaurant got…

But because of that bad memory hurt TS he swore off fish, but actually deep down he like fish. So tamau fish because the process to get it is painful, cause may kena reject.

Ok.. did I understand YOUR FEELINGS correctly?

Ramjade is telling you to just keep asking until you numb. And if you ask 300 girls 1 will say yes because statistics. That’s the correct playbook but doesn’t address how you feel about it.

Let’s explore it further
Why you feel like vomiting/sick/nausea when girls reject you?

Why is it such a big deal when someone says no to you? Are you secretly royalty related to Kim Jong Un and growing up nobody said no to you cause if they do their families get shot and their heads get chopped off? Need more context as to why you feel so strongly.

OR the other option just buy a mail order bride from Laos or Cambodia. As long as you pay her family money she won’t reject you. Make sure you got money lah.

But you still continue to go for job interviews and get a job? Then how is it different with girls bro? Why you are especially sensitive because it's a girl rejecting you?

You need to understand that in life, 99% of the time you do not get what you want, with the exception of royalty that's the 1%. Being rejected is the norm, not the exception. Talk to sales people, in insurance, standing in malls asking you to sign up credit card, property agents, etc. they get rejected all the time.

YOU, need to understand and internalize to yourself that it is absolutely NORMAL to get rejected. And moving forward you will be rejected. You suggest having McD for lunch and your friends reject you, they want KFC. It is not that big a deal. More often than not, they reject you have nothing to do with you.

The girl reject you, because she already set in stone she wants the other guy. Does that mean you are lesser? Inferior? No lah, she just wants the other guy. I want McD ayam goreng today, but tomorrow I want KFC. Does that mean 1 is inferior to the other? Nolah, they are just different. Some days I prefer the kick of McD spicy with that thick batter, some days I don't. So should McD spicy ayam feel nausea and vomiting cause the chicken died for me and I don't want to eat it? Takkan right.

That's the lucky one. Little that they know Ramjade is sitting on a mine of exponential growth hidden from plain sight. hahahaha. Exactly, you want the girl who likes you for who you are, not what you have.

Have power & influence? You will lose it over time, look at Mamakthir. Have fancy CEO title? Can't work forever, will soon be forgotten. Young 20 year old F1 fans won't know who is Jim Todt except he's Michelle Yeoh's husband.

Main order bride? She can be with you for 10 years but once the money dries out she will be on the next flight back to where she came from.

I laughed hard here. Skip rope? What are you? A loser?

Courtship, simplified, is just doing sales.

1. To get the girl (buyer) to like you, YOU (salesman) must FIRST KNOW what the buyer wants.

1A. Why the fish you trying to impress her or make her like you when YOU DONT EVEN KNOW WHAT SHE LIKE? You clown? Trying to entertain everybody? Cause that’s what clowns do, they come up with material to appeal to Semua lapisan masyrakat.

2. She doesn’t give a shit about you or your car la. Only you you think you are cool with your Honda. If she thinks your car is damn cool you don’t want her anyway. Or the next cooler car show up you’re history.

You think highly of yourself when in fact you’re nobody. You’re just another unique human being; fact: there’s 2 billion unique human beings out there how unique do you think you are? Unless your family got networth upwards of RM100 million, you’re seriously habuk, so take your head out of your ass.

3. When trying to get a girl, watching movie is the dumbest thing to do because you are not interacting with her. See 1A. You’re supposed to talk to her, ask her what she look for in relationship, what’s her biggest fear, what’s her dreams, what she thinks about starting a family, what she wants to achieve, which countries she wanna go and why, what is on her “to do” list before she dies. All these questions help you know more about her. Shit, how much do you know about her? Do you know what’s her favorite food? What’s her favorite color and why?

Or you just like her cause she’s pretty and that’s all just on surface level?

I think your first problem is not that you cannot get girls. You’re immature and shallow. Grow up buddy.

Why you cannot learn? You dense or what?

In my post above I said, find out what THE GIRL likes. Why you care if Ramjade brings his girls to kopitiam and I bring girl go high tea at Ritz Carlton?

You are not me or Ramjade. Why don’t you just ask the girl what she likes, does she like cafe hopping, or prefer quieter new places, or she dislike all these fancy place and like manak.

Sigh. I do encourage you to seek help, but there’s no point if you don’t implement and don’t learn.

🤣
It is a good idea if it’s Ramjade’s girl.
You bring my girl go have sushi and walk in park, she will ask you fly kite in the park yourself.

Then you depress again.

Hahaha never mind lah. You too dense cannot be saved already. Good luck ok. Share good news after you succeed.

Or you trolling us, really that dense meh. Anyway thanks for the entertainment.

Actually… me being neutral party to both your conversation. Effectively what will happen is that you’ll know Ramjade is not the guy for you… and you won’t follow up.

He will think, hey cool, this lady offer to AA and ok with cheapo place. Got potential.

It’s not a trick lah. It’s a filter test. You offer AA, the guy accepts, you will AA and sayonara the guy.

If it’s the first time meeting, I will always foot the bill, even if I don’t have any intention of seeing her again. If she offers to AA, I’ll say sure, the next time we meet — if I want to meet her. Else I’ll say, it’s okay the pleasure is mine. But hor, I heard across the causeway, all AA one. lol.

This post has been edited by Jason: Mar 28 2025, 05:46 AM

Most Malaysian guys still ok la. Relatively gentleman. You try Singaporean guys and see. The Malaysian snowflake generation like TS I don’t know lah.

If the guy’s mindset is thinking the lady is out looking for a free meal then… the guy’s mindset is very very poor.

Likewise *some* female think the guys are only out there to get in their pants, usually from past interaction with the lapsap.

Don’t AA lah. It strip us of our chivalry. I mean if the guy’s intention is towards a romantic relationship… then yeah should pay. If friends then of course AA loh. My female friends don’t expect me to pay.

That’s your experience? Interesting
Maybe an age group thing. I’m ancient.

I’ve not used any dating apps. lol. So it’s just friends of friend whom I met in person and went from there. Malaysia culture also very odd to chat up random person on the street — that’s easy to do in Australia.

We talk about the weather
Nah kidding

Go to city often? What’s a nice place to grab food etc. ask for recommendations, really genuinely wanting to know. Chat normally. The ones who are introvert will be on their books or phones - usually Asians.

I usually ask lol. The foreigners not the locals.