I personally know 2 people. I believe here are people who face this syndrome.

Friend no.1
He had a 7 year abusive relationship with his girlfriend. His girlfriend always belittle him, that he drove a small car. She always complain his salary low, he not rich, he not gentleman enough, etc etc.

Everytime go out dating he has to carry her handbag. Then drop her off her house, have to open door for her then escort her to door.

She left him for a richer guy,

Then he was so heartbroken, went search for new love. Along the way, many girls liked him because he is hard working, tidy and smart person. But he rejected them, because they weren't same like her: meaning not treat him like carpet mat.

Then he met this one, pretty girl, but very princess, also quite action one. He said she is the one, then married her. Cook for her, clean the house, iron and wash her clothes. No children, because he is too busy taking care of her. HIs friends also scared to mix with him, because of her fiery temper, she don't like him mixing with his friends. So he dedicate 100% of his life to her.

Friend no.2
Met a girl 7 years younger than him. Got married and have 2 some. But the wife suddenly became very smart, took courses and do her own business. She also very good in make up and make herself very pretty. She then slowly outshine him, became successful earn 3x more than him. She divorced him, after 10 yrs marriage took the kids to live with her. Heck she was so successful, she could even do her own business while taking care of the children with hired maid. He didn't even spend a cent.

Then he met another woman with a daughter. Turned out she is a gambler. She spent all his savings. His savings, he had to sell his house in a very good location in klang valley. But you know what? he married her.

But he never lives with her, and everytime he goes visit her, he has to bring back his laundry to wash by himself.

ConclusioN:

Why WHy? Some men do for this kind of relationships??? Is it because of past hurts cause them to want to be a DOOR MAT ???

This post has been edited by hoonanoo: Nov 23 2024, 03:33 PM

I believe, once a person becomes a doormat to toxic relationships, suddenly they face some sort of blackout.

As if they completely blinded.

they think happiness is to satisfy someone else.

I notice they don't look far in life.

The second friend, I really felt sorry for him, so much so, I try to be there for him, but he is very stubborn. His kids have disowned him and he has a lot of fights with his own family n friends.

the 2 friends are not abusive people.

the issue is that they are door mat to their wives.

I don't see their wives as being physically abusive, just that they suck their finances dry and do not contribute much as a wife.

I hope I am wrong, but till today, I am still puzzled as to how these friends fell in love with their wives in the first place.

Even when I have had the opportunity to mix with them, I notice their wives don't social or speak much.

1st wife left him

1st wife left him, because she is more successful than him.

she can even support the 2 kids without his income.

yes they both are very defensive.

But for the second friend, I feel even more sorry for him.

The way I see it, its better to be single than to have a money sucking wife that don't care about you.

I do have one friend who migrated to Australia.

Wife working but he stay at home as house husband take care of kids.

how about this ? is this paradise to you?

the 1st friend still ok ok, because he is very smart and earn high salary

2nd friend, very suffer, he is now almost penniless but still stick with the new wife. I don't know how he survive, but he go dating then spend a bomb but don't stay overnight with new wife and her step children, instead he goes back to his house.

I hope so too