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What went wrong?, I have been in these situations a lot
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TSredracer2004
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Nov 7 2024, 08:36 AM, updated 2y ago
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OK to cut story short.
First, I am a guy that has been looking for a partner through multiple platforms whether dating apps or real life meeting people etc.
This is a very common occurrence for me (it happened like 5-6 times out of the 8 girls that peeked my interest) where at first when we know each other, the conversation, the texting is very smooth, we both were very participative in our communication where I will ask her preferences, she will ask me back etc.
This could last like maybe days or a week or two.
Then suddenly the momentum changed, she started to not read / reply (not sure if she read cause she has blue tick off) and for the first 1 or 2, I did try and double text and the reply that came are very dry. Those after that which I did not push on never replied me after, even those that we actually bump to each other for real made it like nothing happened.
What the heck actually happened here though? I feel quite frustrated with this kind of behaviour like, if you didn't intend to like even be friends, why string me along?
Also, I think even at my age and my so many failed experiences atm, I do not know if the girl is really vibing with me or she just being friendly. Though, it doesn't make much sense for both to suddenly ghost me like this, so I wonder what went wrong.
NOTE: I was just playing along the conversation and did not show any signs of desperation or aggression before they ghosted me and the conversations were very smooth.
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TSredracer2004
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Nov 8 2024, 07:21 PM
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QUOTE(Cubalagi @ Nov 8 2024, 02:27 PM) Did you ask these girls out? Dont drag the texting too long. Get a first date. Thats the reason for the text. Its not to "get to know" one another. After the first date, then the second date if there is chemistry, then you score. It's just the first few days, so fast ask them out? I dunno if it will be too fast or not?
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TSredracer2004
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Nov 9 2024, 11:50 AM
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QUOTE(YUNG_NIGGA_DRACO @ Nov 9 2024, 09:06 AM) no kidding since i started reading about your post here i've already been in and out of 2 relationships weh, still struggling ke. not flexing but you need to really look at yourself in the mirror. at your age, you're very likely low income or very short (older women who want to settle down and have kids see no future with you). also if youre going after younger girls, you might also be ugly. how is your hairline, is it straight or what. all white hair or what, have you done braces? straight teeth or smoker black and yellow teeth. income how much? height? at this age, cannot blame and keep asking and saying women confusing already. no they aren't. they just want a richer/taller/better looking man. you must also compete, having a job is no longer a sure win ticket to get a wife. btw texting for 2 weeks is insane weh, by that time she already matched with 20+ guys already, ofc la lose interest.
When you know the girl really isn't responding positively to your "going out" invites, is it time for NEXT? Cause some people told me, if the girl within first few days we chat doesn't agree to go out with you, then I can just find NEXT, she isn't interested.
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