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 What went wrong?, I have been in these situations a lot

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RocketPiki
post Nov 7 2024, 09:52 AM

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Why This Happens:
-Early Excitement Drops: Initial interest can fade once they realize they’re not fully compatible or ready for a deeper connection.
-Parallel Conversations: Many people chat with multiple matches and may shift focus if someone else stands out more.
-Avoiding Direct Rejection: Ghosting often feels easier for them than explaining a loss of interest.
-Quick Compatibility Checks: Some people dive in fast, but back off once they realize the fit isn’t there.
-Friendliness vs. Romantic Interest: It’s tough to tell if someone’s just polite or genuinely interested at first.

How to Move Forward:
-Don’t Take Ghosting Personally: It’s usually more about them than it is about you.
-Look for Patterns: Consistent interest and engagement over time is a better sign of genuine interest.
-Ask Directly if the Momentum Shifts: A light question like, “Are you still interested in chatting?” can clear things up without adding pressure.
-Prioritize In-Person Connections: Meeting face-to-face can clarify chemistry better than texting.

Figuring Out If They’re Vibing or Just Friendly
This is tricky! Look for signs like:
-Consistent communication over time
-Asking personal or thoughtful questions about your life, not just surface-level chatting
-Showing genuine excitement to meet up or take things off the app
-Making an effort to connect emotionally, not just on common interests but deeper values and goals

It's natural to feel frustrated, but remember, this is part of the process. The right connection often builds at a sustainable pace, without these hot-and-cold patterns. It sounds like you're being thoughtful about how you approach people, so hang in there! This experience is building a good foundation for when you meet someone who truly matches your energy.

-ChatGPT-
RocketPiki
post Nov 10 2024, 10:32 AM

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QUOTE(novblaze @ Nov 10 2024, 02:57 AM)
People choose. you  were only shortlisted but did not qualified for the job in the end
You choose people, people choose you.
don't tell me you swipe right on land whale.
man up and accept defeat.
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We want the perfect partner, but conveniently think our crush wouldn't do the same.

 

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