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Advice Wanted how to "naturally" pursue girl?

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TSPolice4896
post Nov 11 2024, 10:19 PM

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QUOTE(silverhawk @ Oct 31 2024, 01:13 AM)
Dei, how many compliments you think she gets in a day? If she's pretty & trendy, that's pretty much a normal tuesday for her.

Asking her out directly is the best way.

Yes, you may get rejected, and because of your inexperience the probability is very high. Though you'd be surprised how the awkwardness + courage is endearing to women. Either way, the chances of a direct approach is much higher than whatever it is you're doing now.

Though its much better if you go out and practice on other people first. Not saying you should date other people, but go out and randomly talk to strangers. Can even start with guys and then work your way up to women.
You need to build the self confidence so that its natural when you do actually ask someone you really like out.
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good idea, excluding her theres 2 other girls im somewhat interested in as well. 1 of them in same club as me, but i dont really know her very well, and i will be in that club for until at least next year june and i dont want to make it awkward for the next half year just in case i fail. the other one i never even talk to, but have mutual friends and seen her a few times before when i go find my friends, planning on trying to get to know her. like this enough baskets to spread my eggs over?

QUOTE(Captain89 @ Oct 31 2024, 03:18 AM)
Purposely bump into her in uni if you know where she likes to go. Give more genuine expression when talking but not overdo it
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yeah i have, i notice that she always study at the same place, and know approximately when her classes end and where they are, so i try to go those places more. but trying to talk to her when she's studying is a bit hard since she has a big friend group, all seniors, seems quite close, only when i see her alone then i talk, but thats rare

QUOTE(-mystery- @ Oct 31 2024, 12:11 PM)
I was in your shoes during my earlier days of studying. Dont waste those years man, if you want to improve your social skills just try and do it as earlier as you can. Unless you will be working in communication related field later, most of the time you wouldnt have much time to socialize after you went out from the school

and i saw those introverted and shy term you labelled yourself, i would say those are fucking bullshit man, same as horoscope or personality test. Don't limit your potentials.
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thanks man, taken to heart, i actually feel a bit more confident

QUOTE(seinganchai @ Oct 31 2024, 12:16 PM)
The secret is u need to be outstanding so that she wants to talk to u. U see everyone wants to be friends with superstar and no one wants a strawberry.
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well i have noticed that she likes to talk about ppl with high gpa, and sticks around them as well. she herself is like 4.95/5 so i think my best shot is to try get as high gpa as possible for this sem, but not going that well. i think i will need to top score for every exam, but some of my midterm exams do about average only. the rest are all above average, have to seriously buck up for final exams

QUOTE(HokkienMee_Lover @ Oct 31 2024, 12:57 PM)
Damn i really gotta say thats skill issue

Dont only follow steps to chase a girl, focus on how to link with strangers, or any girls

Do u have female friends? Just ask them out to chill with u or go around somewhere, as a friend, and try to communicate with them like how u would if u r bringing a girl on a date

Make friends with anyone n just go with the flow ur good

Also, read some books, those provide concepts, not just steps
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female friends i have 1 that i am somewhat familiar with but the rest not very close, if i was closer to them maybe i could. i think i should try getting closer to them

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post Nov 12 2024, 10:09 AM

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QUOTE(Police4896 @ Oct 29 2024, 01:08 AM)
ok got it, if i am in date with her i just let her talk and just chill out, easy enough. usually when i talk to her shes the one monologuing, because everytime i just ask her about school stuff and she always has a lot to say. but then the problem is even when i try to small talk with her usually a bit awkward as well, can tell from facial expression she does not really enjoy talking to me, probably just okok no feeling, how to fix? i can try to joke but only when other ppl are around since i have more material to build on, if im the only one there then dont know how.

actually very often my conversations with friends is just 1 line interjecting jokes when other ppl are talking, i really have to learn
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When talking to girls, you need to expand the topic beyond boring topics (like school) to more personal topics. Things like relationships, their dream of the future.

Ask questions and probe deeper. Be attentive and encouraging. You can start by asking abt her friends that you mutually know, then family stories before moving to even more personal stuff.



 

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