So recently I have been trying out sugar dating. Like from my previous post in kopitiam (a lot of weird reply) so here I am trying to get best logical answer here (hopefully)

Backstory

I have been trying this sugar dating platform la coz seen the ads ma. Then met a few but nothing of them ngam except for this sweet young thing who is bout 16 years younger than me a college girl, cute petite and nice body. On our first meeting, I was busy right after the meeting (kinda working halfway) and im quite keen with her la. Told her I would love to meet her again for movie and makan first (hopefully to build the chemistry first before anything). Right after I said that she look disappointed, my first thought was "I think she was hoping to get fast cash" so was disappointed in the end.

Right after she cabut and I continue my work, I got her message saying she thought can meet me privately, hinting for "ahem" then I told her lo I might not be the daddy youre looking for. Coz I am not as wealthy as 20k ktards level. to my surprise she reply me with "I prefer mentorship and companionship and she like older guys" wow....

so long story short we met and ahem ahem, she treat me like a bf after that. Apart from dating meals, she get me meds when I am sick. took care of me like real gf, and her sugarbook account is no longer active.

So my question is, can this kind of relationship lasts? should I put my heart into it?

Albeit she is kinda childish at times, but still within the tolerable range la. Other than that all ok, and she's from kinda well to do family

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This post has been edited by empstar2: Sep 17 2024, 02:14 PM

reminder: not kopitiam

Thanks for reminding them, the reason why I move here is to avoid kopitiam replies.

this kinda of relationship is based on only 1 thing => cash... you think someone 16 years younger would fall for you? Be a bit realistic... They are here for the moneh..

can make multiple accs no?
all the best for your new-found companionship

How much you spend on her?

I am not ultra rich la, normal SME senior manager. But she seem true hahaha

True geh but often time I check, her face not found. 404. Actually im the naughty one, who's still going to the site flirting lol

less than 500 to date, only meals and 1 movie outing

chinese said, starting is wrong, confirm no ending point

new era explain, as long as, nothing to lose, just continue

LOL DUDEEEEE say jo = no say

You want to test very easy. One of these days being her go jalan2 in the park, go kopitiam, give her economy rice. Do it few times.

See if she cabut. If 3rd time don't cabut, can be keeper.

Great idea let's see see, but so far my house nothing special. Cheapo loft house. Messy bachelor pad also she ok

She is interested in the cash in your bank account.

untung la if ady ahem....

but yeah...most of the time is want your money only

did she know u ady have any assets?

I dont have much and she knows about it, sort of hinting her that I am not sugar daddy quality rich.

ahem ad, young girls is of different league lol drain me out... she knows I have no assets lol

dont think so much

just enjoy the relationship, u never know, it may just work out

16 years difference is just a number, I can see why young girls nowadays prefer older man, young male nowadays....

all the best in your new found relationship

All the best bro .... don't think so much, just enjoy the ride. And if the ride ends, at least you have good memories.

TS

I second the good doctor. Uni students usually wont really know what they want yet. So don't t you go crazy and put too much hope long term. Be prepared to let go, if necessary. But do enjoy the moment.

As for age difference, its not that big a deal. My gf is 17 years younger and we have been a couple for abt 2.5 years.

So here is a tip to attract/keep much younger women. Be healthy, fit and strong.

Thanks for the encouragement bro, yeah I notice young male nowadays. Dont even know how to man up

True that, now trying to enjoy as much as I can. But I tell you, young girls nowadays really drain you up like crazy. I wonder how older man lasts. Medication?

Yup im strong and fit in fact im a multi sport coach/instructor on the side. Btw bro how u keep up with younger girls, if you get what I mean. Meds? or just because youre fit? mine is quite demanding and she's into some rough play.

Oh another sugarbook story, maybe perhaps I'll share mine later today

What bout your story bro lai lai tell more, my first time dating a sugar baby. hahaha not sure if she's consider sugar baby or not now lol

if u not paying her every month then its not sugar baby la

I am not paying her every month a fixed amount la but on n off I give her few hundred like last week I was not free I told her go have fun on weekend. Go movie or something I transfer 500 to her. Else I will bring her out then no money. Consider sugar baby or not like that?

if you are giving out money freely why just limit yourself to one girl?

THATTSSSS the thing, actually there is another girl quite close to me hahaha, thinking to have 1 more. Am I an axehol for having more than 1?

not really. how sure are you that your sugar baby is not seeing other guys too?

Dont think so coz I know. dont ask me why I know. Is just my job to know haha

Just wanted to say bro, "rock on" and more power to you!

monitor ur investment towards her during ur time of courtship, might not know what her true intention until much more time spent together, though currently she gave off good vibes, but still, beware of love scam in the long run, who knows she wants something bigger and not just ur the current money u can provide, such as tying u down

True that thanks!!


So far still ok, I "tie her down" most of the time. Young girls nowadays are into "it"

depends what u want from her lor

normally sugar baby for those married ppl la, u single, not a problem la, just tat u feel that u much older only

Now is wild wild exciting time still la, quite happy with that. Future not sure, yet. Just wondering if anyone here have experience of bringing this beyond sweet period or not

If u are in your 30s healthy and fit, u dont need anything extra la. If at all anything, I will just take zinc supplement and make sure eat the veggies for sufficient nitric oxide.

Maybe only once u reach uncle stage of mid 40s and beyond can consider some intervention for the special occasions.



First 6 months to a year mmg syiok. After that things will calm down. Then u see whether the relationship can really last.

walk on the sideline and observe what happens if she would pay up for the meals

Well this is cheap and yes you are a sugardad.

Marriage can also be considered as love scam

If you gonna bring in another girl

Dont put your heart in any relationship

Married life is not for you

But hey...enjoice while its last

Haha i guess so if such the case

I feel marriage is the biggest scam and the law protects them

hehe true that. We flying to Jpn next week wee~~~

U sponsoring the whole trip?

Standard like how u go with GF, i book flight and hotel + food most likely, thats about it. Maybe will create another thread to talk about my Jpn trip as a blog.

Btw anywhere to suggest where to go to have some unique "fun" in Jpn?

Their love hotel?

she's from kinda well to do family and sugar baby.. doesnt seem to add up

Ya love hotel but those not comfy so only planning to "experience and experiment"

Family rich not her

i never seen b4 rich family with poor child.. enough to spend la but not to the extend of doing sugar baby..
rich already got status.. thats why i feel doesnt really add up.. pls be careful

Never been to Japan with GF or SB. Only with family. Dont think Disneyland and Universal Studio are what you are thinking.

16 years old younger than you, and a college girl. I assume you're in your mid 30s? College age usually 18-21 ish, diploma student.

30s and go sugarbook, then get a teenage or early 20s girl who's into older man.

Now that she been treating you well, and you kind of confused about the next step.

If she's decent then why not? Assuming you did pretty well for yourself, got a house maybe or probably a small business.

I am in my early 40s, shes ok but with normal young girls immaturity which i can handle. Yes i am pretty well

Dont think it will last, esp. for someone at her age where plenty of life changes ahead. She might meet new people, relocate to new places, have new priorities etc. For me i would say just enjoy the moment but always remind yourself to have realistic expectations.

Yeah I agree, but of coz i hope this will last. Trying to adapt to her changes and be there for now for now. Anyone else have any advice on dating younger girls esp when youre middle age vs college girl

Should go ahead and do whatever you want. Since this is the reality you believe in, whatever people say here probably won't go in your brain now. You just seeking for validation for your 'right' choice.

At the end of the day, you might get a lesson, the world get some nice story, the money will circulate. Take one for the team bruh, just do it!

Taking your post from Ralna's thread here as I feel it's more relevant here...

Our human brain will react to stimuli and sometimes, those reactions aren't "the right things" -- they're basically your impulses or "evil temptations". The best you can do is to minimise such stimuli by reducing the potential triggers;
1. Tell your existing matches, "sorry, I am currently committed to one girl so I don't want to continue leading you on for now. Bye"
2. Uninstall the apps

Simple isn't it? But here in this thread, you've implied that you're NOT looking to commit. It sounds contradictory because on the other thread, you said you want a "serious relationship". So think again what do you really want?
- polygamy/open relationships with several ladies?
- one committed relationship with your current sugar baby? (i.e. change to bf/gf relationship)
- maybe all this while you don't want to commit because you feel that she isn't someone you can settle down with? Why not?

Whatever you decide, I think you should clarify with the girl, otherwise it will be considered unfaithful/cheating/leading one on if you both have different expectations for your relationship.

You reacted to such level of bait? It is the works of the an internet marketer.

A person with the lust for younger girl trying to get more ppl to same app to compete with his activity make any sense? No right - it will not benefits him at all with the competition. Ppl already given him advise or advise , yet he still goes around boasting his success story of getting younger girl = marketer selling the result.

On which platform ? Specifically mentioned the specific platform over & over again = promoting the platform. It is indirect way of a internet marketer doing their promotion.

K's do not give him the quality / target market he wanted. He moved it to serious section- the serious section also didn't give him the target market he wanted. He moved it to this segment, the ideal platform because there are readers with emotional weakness ready to be exploited.

Lust + greed is the lowest form emotional exploit, with the best success rate. Majority will falls.

The next easy to exploit is the scarcity of "love", that is why the love scam is so rampant.

Read what is hidden.

This post has been edited by nihility: Oct 7 2024, 10:45 PM

Aiya... Usually I can catch trolls by copy pasted text or low effort posts, this time didn't trigger my alarm haha. Oh well I'll just leave it there..

I think you're doing the best already. One thing is that you seemed to not know really what you actually want. A serious relationship? If so, don't think of getting another SB or flirting with other girls. Maybe not now, but some time later you'll need to make a decision to commit as serious BF/GF relationship. On dating significantly younger partner, it's always the the usual advice..be interested in their interests and hobbies..

Oh well, shall leave it there then since you guys think this is what i am doing

Will do so thanks for the advice, shall refrain some commenting here since getting more opinion will be deem as marketer

Thanks for the reply!

tell la abit your ahem experience with her?? good? she experience?

Will last as long as you are rich and keeps on giving money.

Anyway can share with me what app you use to find sugar baby? Asking for a friend for research purpose