Bro, "WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND"! Be ready for it!

I just another idiot!

kinda fucked up yall still living under the same roof, hope ur days become better and ur children too

Honestly, it will have -ve impacts.

1) The conflicts to choice of lifestyle will arise due to the earning gap.

2) One of the female”s weakness is they wants to feel proud of their choice of the life partner. I doubt the male earning less will make the female feel proud.

3) We are living in the judgemental society, the public words itself will be enough to gas up the conflict easily.

I know a few cases where the relationship was affected negatively.
1 classmate's wife started earning more, then it got into a negative spiral. She started being meaner to him and harping at him, and he started losing confidence, and focused on gaming to get away from her constant bitching, and ended up with ED. Says he hasn't had sex in years.

2 relatives' marriages ended as well when the wife outstripped the husband's salary.

For me, when I got married, I think her salary was about 80% more than mine. My wife isn't materialistic, so it wasn't an issue. She even offered to pay a higher portion of bills, loans, etc.

I think the most important part is the character of the partner.

May I ask, how long have you guys been together? Maybe you can share a bit more about how you both managed your conflicts or how you both approach your marriage? Thanks

Married for 10 years now. We seldom have conflicts and always manage to talk things out. One of the reasons I married her. Had previous experience with ex-gfs where they get emotional and angry instead of trying to resolve or act proactively.

10k 30k no diff?
i would say only if it's 100k and 300k then no diff...
or mainimum 50k, 150k

When I was a doctor in the service (in Singapore) and still taking specialist exams, waifu made heaps more as she was an accountant with one of the big four companies (also in Singapore - we both pendatang'ed across the Causeway almost as soon as we graduated). She continued to climb up the corporate ladder while I continued to slave away in the public sector until I cleared all my exams (that took nearly 10 years, from 1st paper until all exit papers were completed). She took care of the bulk of the expenses.

Of course, things are different now, she took early retirement last year and I'm the one left holding the fort - so in our case, it was fair: early days, I took shelter under her umbrage (the original meaning, not the new mistranslation), while she's now enjoying the fruits of her labour in the form of a grateful husband who became a success in the latter years in no small part due to her hard work in taking care of the finances and freeing his time and mind and energy to pursue his studies.

So, even if it's $500,000 or even a million per month difference, I say stick with it - because we did it, and we're more successful together as a couple than we could have been apart and alone.

oh i'm not questioning that a couple should stick together.. fully agree
just disagreeing that a 2k and 10k has a diff, but 10k, and 50k has not diff

OIC, thanks for your clarification.

as a man we are so called " head of family" regardless earn more or not doesnt matter.. most important is not to lose your job / income. unker been thru this and its sucks.. sorry had to use the language.. trust me however faithful your wifey is ( 10 yrs marriage/ 15 yrs marriage, 30 yrs marriage) if really no income as a man the woman will leave you unless she herself also no value la... seriously no joke!! just sharing its a life experience

true true

Bro r u still a dr now?
can i dm you? wanna ask you something personal

I am going to be unemployed in 4 months' time ... if you want to PM me, by all means, and I'll try to answer what I can.

oh god.. what happen?

I’ve decided (after a lot of soul searching) to retire early

Retire completely or partially with part time consulting work ?

wow! have a happy retirement. god bless you and ur wife

Part time consulting work, probably no more than a couple of days per week ... this is to keep my mind sharp and stave off dementia for as long as I can ...