I have one ex subordinate exactly with the criteria of what u mentioned.

The only way u can win this type of people is not to fight them and you yourself must be very professional. You must not retaliate by anger because if you do, she will like it becoz you proof that you are the problem not her.


Trust me this person is very anxious and the way she reduce anxiety is to by "gaslighting"' you.

So how you deal with this type of person? Make everything transparent, all emails, communication, work update, projects, make it all official and formal, and try to reduce to minimum any personal contact with her. She will feel very terrible and upset when you put the spotlight on her.

Basically you are dealing with a narcissist that play victim. Their behavior is purposely to make you questions your reality and when you submit to them, they win.

To know more, google about the topic of
1. Passive aggressive behavior
2. Narcissistic that play victims
3. Narcissist gaslighting

You will get a lot of tips from above topic.

Stay calm, dont get angry (I know you're angry, that is what she purposely wants from you).. record and exposed her, demand her perfection in work, she will get stress at the end.

This post has been edited by sp3d2: Jul 7 2024, 08:29 AM

This kind of person to that TS is dealing is kind of cunning but no so cunning. As we can really predict their next moves.

TS is the boss here, so he should be more careful.

I had one subordinate like this before, I chose not to fight, but to put back the pressure on him, then finally he resigned.

so you win already.

the fact she treat you like that is just because you allowed her to behave like that. thats all.

trust me. she is playing with your mind and will try her best to make sure you lost your sanity.

keep your friends close and your enemy closer. micromanage her activities and monitor her every single daily movements and activity. she will get frustrated. trust me.

well, if the job is lousy, of course you need to micromanage. it is your right. nothing in company said micromanage is wrong. its a preference of boss.

Keep us posted.