Indeed. What doesn’t kill you will only make you stronger

let it happen naturally , after awhile maybe no need ask you already know your status, are you scared to lose her

Let's hear from TS to see if there's any update on the status?

Things aren't getting worse, but they're not getting any better either. We chat from time to time, and every time, I'm the one starting the conversations and trying to keep them going smoothly. However, I feel like she's not really that interested, so maybe its time for me to move on. I don't want to act like some desperate guy who keeps chatting even when she's not interested.

Sounds like feelings are degrading due to not initiating physical contact.
You can try to save it by holding her hands next outing. Be a man.. there is nothing to lose by being bold.. in fact quite the opposite.

This is just my interpretation of the situation, as you've described and shared with us... bro, I think you're reading it correctly: that she's not really interested and is just trying to maintain a good/harmonious working/professional relationship.

The fact that you've taken the effort and time to share your thoughts with us is a good sign that you're NOT desperate and NOT trying to see something that isn't there - I reckon the best move forward is to remain professional colleagues, for now, and see where that takes you naturally in the course of work.

Bro

Its not getting better because nothing interesting is happening or has happened.

And let me guess your conversation is u asking her what shes up to?

Erm I am not the office relation ts haha, she's not my colleagues

Ah, sorry, sorry ... my mistake.

that's true

Usually, we talk about various topics, and during the conversation, I ask how she's been recently, I will end the conversation if I feel that she's not really interested.
I take it as friend relation now, so i do what friends do.

Things happened naturally

When you try to engineer a relationship. Usually it won't be sustainable

Time will tell if both of you share same or similar mindset/frequency in life

This post has been edited by lopo90: Jul 14 2024, 12:38 PM

Dis u manage to go out with her since the movie date?

Haven't asked since then... planning to ask again soon. Any good suggestions?

Good luck and keep us posted!

"How are you" is a terrible question to a stranger because if I (as the recipient) know it's a courtesy question from you, and I don't care about you (yet).

Honestly, I don't ask that question to a friend on text chat. Even in person, I'd ask if I haven't met that person in a while but for a stranger, I'd say there are better things to ask. I think, for someone to be on dating app, chances are the person isn't having a shitty life (at least free enough to care about looking for a partner) -- you won't be getting any plot twist level of answer.

Does she/you drink? If yes, will.make things easier.

Unker like me prefer comfort and chill.

For eg I will go for italian dinner, and after dinner move venue to a nearby comfy bar, like a whisky bar and just chill n chat. The risk here is crickets, those awkward silence moments. You can manage this by having the right frame of mind and being very relaxed.

Another alternative is u can do the happening route, like going to those small packed speakeasy bars or a club. This solves the cricket problem as the two of u will be people watching. It has the advantage of being forced to be close to talk to each other and gives a lot of chance to hold her hand.

Or you can do the adventurous things like hiking as some suggest here.

Up to you.

Whatever it is, u need to break the touch barrier.

Wow... *furiously taking notes* ... pearls of wisdom right there bro.

But, can I just kaypoh and ask... did you mean the above before you were married, or do you still do the above with your waifu now that you are? (Assuming you're married), or (scandalously so), are you doing the above with fresh fish?

No bro..I sadly found myself divorced in my mid 40s and made the decision not to be foreveralone. Hence I started dating again. I also decided that its no point to go for women my age and went for women between 25-35.

I like your attitude. Divorce is not a death sentence, but can be a fresh start for survivors

Not a death sentence, but a big fine 😆