I am not sure how long you are married but usually women are driven by emotions, not logic. hence you have to take care of her feelings and balance this marriage.

for now, try to have a long talk with her and have an open talk but dont judge her as both of you have different perspective and might not see each other's concern. remember relationship is mutual.

paging Takudan for more advise

from your sharing, it seemed like both of you dont understand each other's need and concern, maybe understanding about each other isn't strong and deep enough to have a strong relationship. try to avoid communication when both are defensive and emotional

there are other options if you really want to save this relationship, perhaps can consider therapy or counselling session

this is one of the best article I have come across for Relationship Advise for Married Couples

1. BE TOGETHER FOR THE RIGHT REASONS
2. HAVE REALISTIC EXPECTATIONS ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS AND ROMANCE
3. THE MOST IMPORTANT FACTOR IN A RELATIONSHIP IS NOT COMMUNICATION, BUT RESPECT
4. TALK OPENLY ABOUT EVERYTHING, ESPECIALLY THE STUFF THAT HURTS
5. A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP MEANS TWO HEALTHY INDIVIDUALS
6. GIVE EACH OTHER SPACE
7. YOU AND YOUR PARTNER WILL GROW AND CHANGE IN UNEXPECTED WAYS—EMBRACE IT
8. GET GOOD AT FIGHTING
9. GET GOOD AT FORGIVENESS
10. THE LITTLE THINGS ADD UP TO BIG THINGS
11. BE PRACTICAL, AND CREATE RELATIONSHIP RULES
12. LEARN TO RIDE THE WAVES

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relationship is mutual effort, a lot of times we will play blame game instead of look within