TLDR story.
My friend recently found out that her gf texting a guy (superior from work) at 2-3am in the morning telling the superior she can't sleep and might be on MC for work. The superior replied to her that she needs to sleep and that it's not good to skip work like this. He found this kind of chats twice within the same month. The chats even involved things like the gf asking the superior as to why is he still awake and that he should also sleep.

My friend's brother is telling him that the gf is considered to be having an affair with the superior (emotionally). My friend is still refusing to accept that fact. The brother said "Will you message another girl at 3am in the morning telling her he can't sleep?"

So, the question here is.... Do you consider the gf as in cheating on my friend already?

not in an open relationship sense
If he doesnt know this kind of behavior before he gets exclusive with her, he just wants to lock in for fast sex under bf gf term thats it

low class game

From what I know, they are not in any of those open relationship kind of thing. He did admit that the gf did express that she doesn't feel he is doing enough in the relationship. He said to me that he can't do much extra cause he is too tied up with work (which I told him was an excuse) because like he didn't even like go pick and send the gf to work when the gf needed to attend work on weekends. His excuses were he was too tired and he wouldn't wake up on time for her.

Its not only one gesture that contributes to cheating
there are lots of accumulation that hasnt been communicated
If a girl wants to cheat and have emotional votality it cannot be a good long term material

My friend is considering whether to break up with her but ppl around him (his family and all) feels like he is holding on to the wrong girl. They feel he is keeping her around just for the sake of keeping her.

just let him be
whats your relationship status now
why you so kepo with other people stories?

No, in a relationship no one will do this. She could just send a msg tell the superior tired, will MC and thats it. There is no need to know what he is up to. Maintain the relationship to superior as colleague 0 personal thing, no need to how why the dude is still wide awake or has he drink water before he sleeps.

I will assume the girl is still young and inexperience. This could accidentally lead to something that will open up all kind of worms, unless she knows where to cut the boundary.

The GF need to put a stop to this.

I am kepo coz I dun have anyone and bored. So listen to his stories.

most young girls are not equipped to have long term relationship unless if they were raised in good family, even conservative ones are not necessarily good

Yeah, when young most want to "explore" around. Which is normal, who does not explore around when they are young.

Young yes, but not inexperienced from what I heard. But not so young also since she is mid twenties.

My friend suspects that they shared a lot more personal stuffs already with each other.

Like one time he accidentally peeked over her phone and saw she was showing what she cooked for dinner to the superior. My friend got some of the photos only and the superior was consulted as to how the cooking was supposed to be done.

There was also once where she was texting someone (my friend suspects it's the superior) when she was out dinner with him.

He needs to start laying the law down.

Women who got lost emotionally is basically a goner.

I will dump the gf. Not worth my time to deal with this type of women.

THAT IS TREASON

LEAVE

Time to dump the girl. She obviously know no boundaries when in a relationship.

She thinks its fine to text her coleague at 2 3 am.

Reverse the situation, sure she will explode.

if ur fren likes to wear green hat, so be it

If you are a true friend, tell him to dump her. And cite to her that her ‘too friendly’ behaviour towards that superior is unacceptable.

She will probably bawl and beg for forgiveness, but he needs to stay resolute. Because as long as she is working with that superior, the hanky-panky will grow stronger.

Base on my experience,

101% confirm. Please ask your friend dump her.

Congratulation, you friend have a new gf soon!!!!!

There are a couple of ways to look at this, and it always about the nuances of degrees. One may argue physicality isn’t in the picture hence it’s not unfaithfulness in the strictest sense of the word. Another may counter that infidelity of the mind/heart is as hurtful as any other form of adultery.

Yet a third may challenge that premise by asking just how much of a person’s thoughts should a partner control, or should it be restricted at all in the first place?

If there were easy answers to matters pertaining to the heart, then relationships wouldn’t be as complex as they are in reality.

I can only say this as it pertains to myself, my values and my character - no, I wouldn’t do that (texting) with a person of a different gender because I know how much that would hurt my wife. After all, I wouldn’t like it if she did it behind my back and one of the bedrocks of a long lasting relationship is to always have each other’s backs.