I think what TS is trying to ask is whether a purely platonic relationship can exist between 2 heterosexual members the opposite sex.

In a professional sense, of course - some of my colleagues and I have passionate arguments over the best course of treatment for a particular patient and my wife knows better than to get between 2 dogs fighting over a bone (she is - was (retired last year) - a chartered accountant).

In a social setting, only if the lady is married - then, the boundaries are clearly defined and drawn. The group of Uni classmates from medical school I still hang out with have their wives (a few are fellow doctors, most are not) join us, and as usual, like personalities will gravitate towards each other, but we also know that when it's time to go home, we go home with the correct partner.

In any other setting, especially if alcohol is involved, a flat outright NO.

Very difficult to shake of 300,000 years of biological hardwiring.

There can be love between the 2… platonic love, meaning, they care deeply for each other, but just not in a sexual way.

Oh dear... is that the reason for the divorce? Platonic turned into something else?

Aiyo. Sorry it ended that way.

I always ask myself. Would I behave the same way with a female friend if my wife were next to me?

If yes, then yes, it’s purely platonic.

If no, then better not pretend that it is.

This post has been edited by hksgmy: Jun 23 2024, 04:05 AM

Yes, that would work. If you can’t honestly say that you’d be happy for them, then it’s not only platonic.

Bro… not very nice leh….

Neither my phone nor my wife’s phone is personal password protected. Both our faces unlock each other’s phones so I’m surprised you think what you said is par for the course in a healthy and loving relationship.