OK, me and my friends are discussing among ourselves.

If your bf/gf already with you for some time maybe more than 6 months, but she still representing herself as single, like in FB she put status single, in IG don't have photos of you and him/her, would it be a red flag to you all?

Just curious.

My wife prefer not to be presented on my main IG. She sees how crazy some of my follower DMs are. She don't want to be harassed.

FYI I have over 80% male follower and on my account and I think 60% of those are gay.

Never an issue with my wife as we were friends really long time before we are married, and if she has any concerns she can access any of my devices. It also helps I always show her the scary, cringe and funny thirsty tweets and DMs people sent to me with her.

I also have private accounts strictly for friends and family and she's ok with being shown there.

This post has been edited by emino: Mar 4 2024, 08:53 AM

Geez you never watch those videos I linked so frequently? If the girl or guy does not acknowledge means you are not official.

It's is a major red flag. He/she is keeping you around until someone better comes along.

It means you haven't made the cut to be her exclusive, so she's still keeping her options open in case somebody better comes along.

Either that, or she values her popularity as a single unattached girl on socmed more than you.

6 months is nothing.

I'm not big into social media so I'd prefer a guy who isn't as well. And I couldn't care less if our relationship is not officiated on socmed. I personally would not post any photos of him either.

It depends on the person really and how they are acting on their social media. If she's still actively representing herself as single to get all the attention, then you'll need to have a talk with her to communicate how you don't feel comfortable with her doing that. That's definitely a red flag if he/she is being defensive about it. Communication is key.

It can be a red flag, but it also depend on how active that person is on social media.

Recently, my GF pointed out that my status on FB was still single (we hv been together for nearly 2 years). I showed her my last update was about a year ago and that was to inform family and friends that my dad just passed away. Im not active at all.

I do appear on her instagram, but more like cameo appearances here and there. Interestingly, all photos with me has far less likes (from her male and female followers alike). Maybe I have face problem 😅.


This post has been edited by Cubalagi: Mar 4 2024, 11:26 AM

We all know why la. A girl who is represented as single will attract more attention than a girl who is taken, period.

Whether a girl puts single or married status, she will still get hit on by many directions

will i care? probably if her overall smv is greater than mine in a big gap

however, i knew im able to get other girls if i put in the work

so why would i put myself in this kind of overthinking state? It doesnt serve me.

No.

totally agreed with you , she still searching for the right one

TS, I hope you'll find a partner one day, who can discuss all these hypothetical topics with you freely. Everyone has different values/expectations so it's not fair to assume one's intentions without having a discussion.

Say, if you're insecure, then be forefront about it: ask if it's ok to post photos together or whatever, if she's cool then good, if not then ask why. It is only when she beats around the bushes or get defensive somehow that it becomes a red flag.

Please do not be obsessed with social validation. What matters is real time.

Does she invite you along when she is with some of her closest friends. If she does, it's a positive sign. Does she talk about her family in front of you. 6 months? Don't know your race; Deepavalli has passed, CNY has passed and Hari Raya is around the corner. If there is/was no invite to her family house during these occasions, it's something to be said. Have you brought her to see you family? Bring her out with your closest friends? Please don't tell me 6 months is for self-discovery and there has been no gathering between friends on both side of the divide.

I'd say if the above are done, then forget social. But if you're invisible to her social life, then you have indeed failed. Social media is just a persona, an image one wants to be portrayed.

I would think it is strange, as ppl usually use fb/ig to share their lives. I am not saying everyone should share their status in socmed, it is just strange that one post alot about life but not his/her life with another half