Here I have a very juicy story for you.

A girl and a guy has been in texting terms for quite some time. The guy normally starts off asking stuffs and the girl will normally reply and explain on her end of the deal on the question. Seems like a healthy relationship? Well not so apparently as the guy is the superior of the girl at work and the girl has a boyfriend.

At first the guy's constant questioning has gotten the girl somehow interested? And then slowly, the girl started initiating conversations even telling the guy about how bad the boyfriend has been to her. Not sure if this was brozone or friendzone but the girl did spill a lot of beans of her daily lives to the guy. The guy and the girl can be texting almost the whole day at times. The guy at first when he was trying did not know she has a boyfriend but half way through, he heard about the boyfriend thing from other colleagues.

So the thing came when one day, all of a sudden, the girl texted the guy asking why is the guy treating the girl so good and all and caring for her well being all like what a boyfriend would do. The guy answered that he sees her more than a friend, more than a subordinate. The girl went silent for 2 days until after that, the girl started to initiate conversation with the guy again and slowly snooping in personal lives again. She even one time asked if she looks funny with her hair chopped down to shoulder length.

Now clearly the boyfriend may not be in knowledge of this but after you see this story. do you consider the girl cheating on her boyfriend already?

Edit: My friend is the friend of the guy so yeah.

This post has been edited by redracer2004: Feb 20 2024, 10:40 AM

Technically, emotional cheating coz this friend wants to cangkul her from boyfriend. Girl likes the attention. If progress further becomes full blown cheating if girl belanja siham

You think the girl is allowing the superior (guy) to cangkul her from her boyfriend? I mean in this story la, coz there's another TLDR version.

I wouldn't consider that cheating per se, but I will say that this is a non commitment to her existing relationship.

If it is a toxic relationship, be it due to herself or the guy; or an unhealthy one, she should leave. Not getting herself involved with the 'superior' while she is in a relationship.

While for the guy, he is probably experiencing the thrill of being able to obtain attention from the girl who had a partner.

Not saying that she should mend the relationship if she hasn't or don't want to; or it is wrong for the guy to pursue her, its the condition that they are in that makes the whole thing morally incomplete.

Never underestimate female psyche. If potential suitor comes along with moneybags she will consider changing partner.
My previous company colleague did just that, was engaged with ex-fiance but a top dog managed to cangkul her as his wife. For her she upgraded.

I dunno much about the girl side but the guy side, from what I heard, went in too deep before getting to know girl got boyfriend. And when he knows, he already 1 foot in. And thinking that the girl actually complaining about the boyfriend makes him feel he may have a chance to this.

Also, I do wanna ask this since I am curious myself, why did the girl suddenly ask him "Why are you treating me so good like boyfriend?" and then ghost him for 2 days+ then come back and find him again? So weird.

Woah, interesting.

Let's just say she's a ladyboss with comfortable lifestyle. Never looking back. But her reputation in the company took a massive hit. Small sacrifice in her mind coz she left the company not long after.

1 foot in or not, a guy should know when to walk. As for me, I would think that if this is indeed the situation, and the girl somehow 'seeks' an alternative outside of an existing relationship while being in one, I would then ask myself this:

- If she can do it to someone else now, what makes me think that if we have a rainy day one day, and she does this to me too?

As to your question of "Why are you treating me so good like boyfriend?" and then ghost him for 2 days+ then come back and find him again?'

It could be anything, it could be that she happens to reconcile with the boyfriend, and then after 2 days, the refraction period with the boyfriend's reconciliation period cooled down and she's emotionally available elsewhere again.

So you are implying that she needs to reconcile with the boyfriend on a regular basis? Interesting.

You call this juicy ?????

No, she does not need to.

What I am saying is that, it could be that the boyfriend was the one that reconciled with her; but it can also happen vice versa.

It does not need to happen regularly, but we can't simply rule out the other parties can take action and make changes.

Think of it this way. This is just one of the many possible simulated examples that can happen.

1. Boyfriend and girlfriend argues.
2. Girlfriend is upset, as the boyfriend offends her for the same reason again.
3. Girlfriend needs a place to vent, superior happens to be the listening ear.
4. They texts and exchange thoughts.
5. Superior feels attracted.
6. Boyfriend reconciles and have a road trip with girlfriend.
7. Girlfriend ghosts superior as she now reconciled with the boyfriend as she feels happy that she got the trip she wanted.
8. The pair returns from trip, girlfriend feels that the situation is slowly back to status quo.
9. Girlfriend reverts to the superior.

Again, this is just one of the simulations. It could be any other possibilities.

But if you dissect the situation, you may find previous responds of the girlfriend 'finding provider for her needs - be it emotional or material or physical' relevant.

to the supervisor in question, unless he got hold hands, go for one on one dinner, movie, etc there does not seem to be a relationship so it's not cheating.

this superior acted like nice guy dont dare to take her onto bed? looks like want cangkul but scare his job gone away

Iml, what i see is whether the girl willing to open her legs at the end of this, having a bf or not is not important

Beta male. Dont be surprised

Sad part the beta ex bought for her japanese car using his savings as gift for engagement. She upgraded to merc once she found better option. Alpha makes the rules while beta follows it. The only consolation is the ex dodged a bullet. I doubt she will remain faithful even if they get married.

Shes already addicted to the attention given by the male

Higher chance shes gonna dump her bf to be with the guy.

Usually guy confess, if the girl is not interested she will ghosted the guy totally. Will ignore him.

But she come back for more attention from the guy. Theres feeling there already.

If only bf level, not married - all bets are off lo, may the best man win kinda of scenario, but like this the guy need to beware, if the guy's own boss berkenan and show interest, he gonna get dumped.

The girl kinda like losima syndrome, upgrade partner like career jumps.

Now the superior says to his close friends that the girl in question is actually gazing at him when they are working and when he looks at her, she twirls and plays with her hair.

Already pm you on the likely scenario how this will play out and how to handle it.

If your friend not strong emotionally and do as what I recommend, the women will sense your friend as a weak/Lower Sexual Market Value guy and proceed to dump him.

Office romance with superior is potent. Its satisfy women hypergamy/dating up nature.

But this is the first time I see after a guy rejects, the girl didn't answer and then the girl continues as usual.

I agree - especially with the part of the unequal balance of authority in this relationship. All will be well in the honeymoon stage, but once reality sinks in and the nitty gritty of a relationship starts to float to the surface, that guy is setting himself up for a world of pain.

Last time I was a junior staff in my firm.

So we all share the same desk sitting together.

This young boy always stick to glue to this kakak. The kakak everyday complain about her boyfriend to this young boy. At first we all thought they were just pet brother and sister type rship. Mana tau the boy fell in love with her. What is worse, in the office he got one blur girlfriend also our colleague, she so blur she doesn't know her young boy bf fell in love with the kakak.

So one day, he went over to the kakak boyfriend, told him off, that the kakak is in love with him not with her bf. Her bf became so angry confronted her, she cried like hell. Even came to office also we saw drama, she crying, then call all the colleagues to comfort her and share story about young boy.

She cried because her boyfriend came to her and told, her to make a choice: HIM OR YOUNG BOY, else he walk out.

So kakak in end chose back her boyfriend.

then young boy machiem kena obstracized in office. Eventually he resigned. Then when his girlfriend found out, she left him for another guy.

then he fled to singapork to work.

This post has been edited by hoonanoo: Jul 19 2024, 05:59 PM

And now he makes more money than the kakak, kakak’s bf and his ex gf combined, so everyone got happy ending.

Where's the obligatory parts of "the kakak slept with me already" or the parts of "the kakak gave me some naughty favors"? Hahaha
Anyways, this kakak also damn attention seeking la.

Which girl/woman/kakak doesn't like it when the spotlight is turned on them? Put them on a pedestal, have a bump of office simps salivating over her, and boom ... recipe for office disaster.

not sure if he had a happy ending

but due to that incident he made all 100 of all colleagues enemies.

yeah she's attention seeking.

the boyboy also another oxymoron.

my colleagues claim she was using him to pressure her boyfriend to propose marriage.

101% YES!!!!

This girl seems to develope a close, emotionally intimate relationship with her superior, which she isn't sharing with her boyfriend. The constant texting, sharing personal details, and seeking validation from him are all red flags. It might not be physical, but it does show a lack of boundaries and respect for her current relationship.

If you're interested in more intriguing stories, you might want to check out an untold story about Teresa Fidalgo. It's fascinating how certain stories can capture so much attention and spread widely. But back to this situation, I think the girl's actions are questionable, and it’s important for her to address these feelings honestly with her boyfriend.

This post has been edited by arobd: Jul 25 2024, 08:56 PM

even telling the guy about how bad the boyfriend has been to her

Take this advise from me, if you felt in love with a person and encountered the above situation, the best you can do is listen and advice logically. I know what you're thinking, this is your chance right? That you going to be the perfect one who will never failed or disappoint them. Taking down all the notes, what to and not to do, what they like and dislike, anyway to impress that person and make you make your move. STOP, high chances this aren't going to work. No matter how much they complain about their lover, at the end they'll still be together. Sorry to say, you just a person they wanted to talk or cry to. Even if you confess to them at this kind of time, they might say they still love them, that you're the only person who listen to their cries etc. Ugh...I feel like throwing up now thinking how much of a simp and loser i am many years ago, at the end i gained nothing but depression. That's my advise, and stay away from someone else's gf/bf/wife/husband, don't you ever think about the consequences when get caught?

Asked the girl, is she willing to tell her bf what is she doing?

If she said no, then it is obviously cheating at emotional level because she knows she is cheating.

If she said ok, then for her its not and she sincerely just enjoying the attention. Probably still immature and blur girl type and just venting out her frustration to her bf.