Hi,

What are the specific key words a guy want to hear from his other half,
when his business careers of 10 years of dedicated hard work, learning and expertise, crumbled into ashes within a few months ?

And, it's "both " careers.

Kindly share you guys, or you guys' friends and family members experience.

Thx in advance.

that you are not shallow enough to leave me just because of such failure
that my character is not defined by what happened but by what I choose to do next
that you will still be by my side the next time I make it

If you're in a serious relationship or marriage, the best bet is to encourage the other half even you do not know how to advise him in terms of business strategies

I believe in you.

I believe you can rebuild it all again and be even better.

I will be with you all the way, supporting you.

This post has been edited by Cubalagi: Jan 4 2024, 08:26 PM

I'll give you an alternate comment which will not be pleasant. The bolded statement is untrue statement. Life experience last forever till the eternity, no one can ever take it away from you, neither it can crumbles into ashes. Only the material resources can be taken away. Similarly in life, when you are at the end phase of your biological life, you cannot take the wealth you accumulated in this realm with you but only the life experiences.

Since the ancient time, it has been made known, that to be able to keep or guard the treasure or beauty, you must have the capabilities or abilities be it in form of strength, wisdom or intelligence. If you do not have the capabilities, it is the matter of time the treasure or beauty will be taken away by brute forces or tricks. This statement resonated well with the modern days idiom " a fool and his money will soon be departed".

Example of the such event - blood diamond. Those who fallen into calamity by the possession of the blood diamond, do not have the ability to protect it & themselves. If the blood diamond was possessed by individual like Putin, chances of the calamity to happen decreases greatly because ppl like Putin has the ability to protect the treasure.

Likewise in the present days, why so many cases of scammers happening to the individual with the inheritance from their late parent / spouse. It is because they do not have the ability or capability to guard the wealth.

Your partner case, you have to convey the hard fact to him. He failed because there is something missing in his journey. He need to unlearn all the things he know in the past and start learning again. Being remorseful about the past will not change any state until you put effort to make thing works again. The sooner he let go the past & start working on himself again, the sooner he can see improvement. The longer he drags, the more time he will waste in this life.

In the modern day, there is another popular Law's - Wilson's Law : "If you prioritize knowledge and intelligence, money will follow".

A mentally strong man will stand up on his own. If your man is mentally weak, you need to take lead in this.

Thank you for your insights.

Yes you're right. I sense something might have been missing in his journey. In fact he is much clearer than me, after what have just happened.

He's a very strong man who came across other career challenges more than a decade ago, things like including getting looked down by people.

But contrast with his character in handling business world, he is more of an reserved and introvert in terms of relationship, and a little bit more in self ego.

I started to feel something when his main business seems to encounter challenges about 1 month ago.. When I tried to lightly probe into what was happening, he didn't reveal the actual reason. But he mentioned "the changes exceeds the planned"

His style, he doesn't like talking about too much details about things.
He always prefers short and precise sentence types of communication.
And talking about only key points of things.

He doesn't easily open up but when he's in a much relaxed or calmer state, only then he would reveal more.

From his recent words, he shows determination to start all over again.

Just that, I'm also learning what are more other useful ways to let him feel consistent supported mentally so that he could feel to keep the faith.

Don't worry. I am not going anywhere and walk the talk. Then he will feel reassured.

there's a lot of guilts or shame reside that makes him unwilling to share his thoughts esp under the influence of social or work pressure. Even myself i have been ashamed of unable to handle some tricky situation when dealing with difficult people

If your s/o is unwilling to identify and process the sticking point, he will forever being the same attitude, the self sabotage already presented on his career pattern

He once told me, he is a lot much sensitive on the "face" issue, which is his self ego, and a lot of times he might keep things in heart..

And he indeed is.

His previous primary business which often generate 6 to 9 figures for a single order, and had been able to handle well numerous high ticket clients among a few countries , across the past 8 to 9 years..
Whenever he came back from overseas business trip, he would single handedly go thru till late nights each big order documents processed from the office team, to ensure no issues with those orders. As he said need to be responsible to his business partner..

Then again, the manufacturing cost of the business are also big.

It's shocking for me to hear this news. I could deeply feel it's really not easy.

I guess he is figuring out his way to bounce back from this double setbacks.

I would appreciate if any guys or their closed ones who "had been there done that" to share their stories here and what they expect from their significant other, deep inside from the guys heart,





This post has been edited by Life_House: Jan 5 2024, 10:00 PM

There's always a tomorrow.

I stashed 5 mil in crypto currency.

I will use this money to revitalize your business

How I wish I got such big luck 🤣

Unless he specifically asked you input for his problems, don't bother digging into it. You could ask surface level, but if he doesn't go deeper, don't pry. Women instinct is to talk it out, men instinct is to solve.

What he needs is the time and space to think.

You can give him that space.

Not in the sense of leaving him alone. But in the sense of taking care of him so that he can focus 110% on his problem.

not related to TS .

I might have bad day at office.
Getting bad performance review , belittled by boss.
Feeling gonna get sacked soon.
Worried , Anxious and etc.

At this moment , i just wanna rant out .

I can say out and share. but i don't want my partner to join in to make me feel worse.

example : the boss throw me so much work and said im not good enough to complete all.

then partner join in : who ask you didnt plan or put extra effort ?

This i don't want. cause sometimes its the boss issue.

but what i like to hear is :
Its okay dear. Not everyone is perfect. Don't think too much. If anything happened , i can try you at the financial part.

That's good enough. I don't need the finance help but the words make me feel much more better.

This post has been edited by genjo: Jan 12 2024, 05:31 PM

If you are in a relationship of marriage, mostly is about encourage and told him no matter what happen, she will always be there for him and he is a smart guy, she believe he will success again one day. Even maybe know life will be hard, but she will always be there with him.