The problem about women = blame game and only blame game.
I pretty sure you see this reply you also trigger.

I m not defending your husband, he made mistake. and maybe hurt your feeling.

But so far what i know was, as long as husband made mistake, Wife auto = Blame Game Trigger Mode.

If you unable to solve this problem with "Positive" method.
You are adding more hurt into this relationship.

I found woman today are very judgemental to their partner.