even just hang out as a friend, the fact you hang out with expat girls will make other girls be curious 'who's this guy?', this is esp true if you work or study overseas with some white chicks as an asian guy

with some confidence this is doable
I wish i was ballsier in my early 20s

This is why my advice for single guys is continue to date girls even tho they are not "the one" (ie meet all your criteria). This will make you more desirable to "the one" when you come across her.

Dating takes a lot of time or effort esp if the guy doesnt know what he's doing, thats why most people would rather be a simp taking their time to spend mkney than refine social skills and charisma

I'm all for striving to be better. Get to know the ladies and hang out with them, that's all a good thing to improve yourself for the next and maybe the one.

But if you're going to get into a committed relationships with someone you dislike, just to bring your own value up, it speaks volumes about your narcissism. You also end up hurting someone in the process. Is it worth it?

Be better by yourself, for yourself.

Most women talk about building a future with a man ... but actually spend their time on the finish line waiting for the winner

A woman who didn't want you when you were younger ... doesn't deserve your attention or compensation when she is older

We don't know whether you spent your time doing the same thing you now criticise others for, so we don't know whether being pure, naive and trusting works.

On the other hand how many good guys are married to attractive women?

And on the other hand, what makes you say that is something a regular man shouldn't get?

As for being a stepping stone for someone else, well, have all your relationships started from nothing and you didn't know the person beforehand?

First of all, lemme clarify about the video itself:
I actually agree with what the guy says, just not the woman in the first minute (obnoxious voice aside, a short statement with no explanation is meaningless to me) - however, I understand that he's trying to appeal to struggling men so I suppose starting with a "dumb statement" would attract them.

He brought up good points about surrounding oneself with women: good relationship with sisters and mother, platonic relationships with other ladies shows that you treat ladies well so you're more likely to be safe to be around. In fact, I lowered my guard down a lot when I was talking to my now-bf on dating app and learned that his sister went to the same school as I did - he's the brother to our ex-head prefect, he has to be normal!

Now to reply...
I have shared my opinions and experiences in my past posts. If you really want to scrutinise me, be my guest - I'll be happy to debate as long as you keep an open mind with me, instead of constantly degrading and generalising against one gender all the time I never asked to be naive ya, being naive is no good because you still must protect yourself, the world won't be kind to you all the time.

Tbh I don't understand your questions fully but I'll try:
I don't label anyone as a "stepping stone" but I'll use your language here... I assume by "relationship" you meant committed/bf-gf relationship, then no, there's no way I can start an official relationship without getting to know the person enough to know if I wanna try things out, and that I think is totally fine: talk to the opposite gender and treat them like human, learn more about them.
- does that mean they become your stepping stones? Again by your words, yes... Because every interaction with another person hones your social skills - it's like learning a language: you'll get better at it with practice. You also see more types of ladies, so you'll learn more about what you (don't) want.
- if you got to know them then decided they're not your type, so you stop engaging, does that mean you hurt them? Not necessarily, but potentially yes. For example, I had my fair share of rejections in the phase of getting to know someone. In every rejection, I felt hurt because my interest was not reciprocated, but it's not them who intentionally hurt me so I don't blame them, and I'm thankful that they didn't take advantage of me. Do I regret any of it? Not at all, I learned what (not) to do next time, and sometimes there are just things you cannot control.

My point is, there is a clear distinction between an official, committed relationship, versus one where you're just getting to know someone, whether you start from scratch (dating apps / mutual friend intro) or as friends/colleagues/acquaintance. I'm NOT okay with someone who would get into a committed relationship with someone s/he already determined to be NOT interested in, all for the sake of this topic - to gain more attraction points.

At least here I can agree with -mystery-: guys who spend their money on KipasSahaja or BukuGula instead of trying to get out there to know someone, deserve their failures at getting the girl.... "Simps".

There are only 2 real problems with relationships:

1)Guys say ... "I can't meet women"

2)Women say ... "The man I'm with won't commit"

So talking about "cheating in a deeply committed official relationship" ... simply means the high value guy doesn't commit officially, and chooses from among the girls interested in him.

OnlyFans and SugarBabies are just one part of the issue ... but remember that men more than women are likely to have the guts and drive to pay for it.

Until the selection process of women changes towards guys that are loyal, women will simply keep picking the in-demand ones and get hurt.

As long as the last guy figures this out he can not be the ultimate simp - married to someone that chose him last.

Maybe it's not the answer you wanted, but it's the answer you're going to get as I have other things to do in my day

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