Different genders can be good friends, For example, I travelled to Singapore and slept over at a close guy friend's house, and I also informed my bf beforehand so that he's aware. But of course, my friend's then-gf-now-wife was there and they do have a spare bedroom, so that made it possible we also hung out together ok je.

Of course, it takes two responsible adults to keep a clear line drawn. If my friend's wife wasn't around, then I wouldn't have asked to stay there, because even if we keep it clear, our respective partners would not be comfortable with that. Hanging out 1:1 in public places is fine, but two opposite genders in the same house overnight is something that would raise many's eyebrows.

TS, your gf decided to lie is a red flag. If she really had nothing to hide, she shouldn't have lied. You also crossed the line when you checked her phone, so I guess the relationship is over unless you both are willing to fix the broken trust together - this will take a long time plus a lot of conscious decisions by both to continue respecting each other despite past mistakes. Good luck.

This post has been edited by Takudan: Nov 30 2023, 12:05 PM

It's okay. She wanna go crazy then let her lah, she lied to begin with. You're also not without any fault because you checked her phone without permission - own that up but stand your ground, she lied. Tell us the outcome later!