Hi all, I'm seeing a girl who has ISTP personality. We knew each other due to work few years back but were solely for work purpose until recently where we first met in my office then both of us were positive for meeting up after work. So far we only went out twice for dinner, she's very busy with her job and weekend will be her rest day and family day, so I only got to meet her after work. At first, she was quite attentive to my msg, she even initiated by sending me msg. But after few weeks, thing starts to slow down, she rarely reply and sometimes it takes her 2-3 days to reply to my msg. I understand that she's a workaholic, very busy with her work but I don't see why she could take so long to text back and the thing is she never saw my msg for few days, even during weekend, until the day she replied. It seems like she could be hot and cold at times and this gives me mixed feelings on her.

She is quite cheerful and chatty when we met, but after that she could go MIA for quite long and I'm not sure when should I text her, thinking that it might be disturbing to her. And I am also not sure how much gap should I give her before we meet up again as I understand that she doesn't like too much pressure. She told me that her personality type is ISTP, and I also asked her about her view on marriage where she told me that it's not a necessity for her, if she met the right one then she might, while I myself is looking for marriage and starting a family in future. She doesn't really think too much about her future and prefer less commitment in life. I did some research on ISTP personality and now I have more understanding on her and perhaps it explains why she reacted in this way.

I have been thinking recently about this. I really like her but part of her personality would also make me feel uncomfortable at the same time. I'm not sure whether should I continue or to get out. I never expect her to change anything, but I myself would compromise to suit her. If I were to continue, how should I approach her? Anyone have experience dating girls with similar personality?

My ex was ISTP as well. It lasted up to a year. It's difficult to go on and expecting a permanent relationship.

I feel you bro