Ha! I have 2 boys and 1 daughter. 

Haaaih...TS.....time to sort your thoughts. Talking to your ex gf friend is fine. Talk aje......

As for your old age plans, you wanna be alone OR with someone.

One my my friends now age 50 regret not having anyone now. Younger days playing the field. Now rasa liao........

So you too better sort your thoughts. No point regretting later.

You dont derive your sense of worth of external things like money or women even a family. You just enjoy those and view it from god perspective and have an objective view of anything in life. You're not completely carried away by temptations

If he's feeling lonely, he's trapped in low paradigm for long time

Each individual is just playing their own character to the max
as ive covered numerous points in the previous thread

amoi crave a sense of male stability
that stability doesnt need to come from money
but your ability to be indifferent when she or life gives you shit tests, will stand out from most guys out there

cause u have been there
and your aura cannot be faked if a person communicates with you longer time

I like where you're going 👀 Well, from woman perspective looking into long term relationship, I fully agree that financial stability is a factor. Let's not kid ourselves: money can't buy all happiness but it sure buys many! We don't need to look for loaded rich man, but a bum/NEET would be very undesirable.

I've heard of this relationship advice, "don't find someone to complete yourself; complete yourself to find someone." It makes sense to me because burden is unattractive, like duh?

That said, onto the topic of long term vs short, the dynamic is very different.... Who cares if you're poor, if all I want is to have fun? Be it physical intimacy, or companionship, or platonic friendship .... Knowing you're not my future, I don't need to know your financial standing to enjoy short flings with you. It's never about money determining status, but more about the future of a couple.

amoi crave a sense of male stability
that stability doesnt need to come from money

don't forget about cultural differences

while i'm aware and I have experienced it myself with heartache on 'ada wang, ada amoi' (this is really true, even my wife said it), one should not overlook the cultural factors in play.

in some other cultures, you can clearly see couples getting married despite the husband holding improper jobs or those 3D jobs. If you speak to them, financial stability is not the most important trait to them.

And some women are clearly charmed by the wits of men who are good in sweet talking despite holding improper jobs.

whereas in some specific culture, the daily life revolves around money, money, and money, for example, attending a wedding involves giving away money, attending funeral also involves giving away money, even attending birthday celebrations also involves giving away money.

Most females want to have fun (assuming if they make enough money for themselves), they're also girls who outright rejecting a guy based on his Instagram profile, I've fucked hot girls who seldom on social media and I was very poor that time there are many factors that can hold the attraction period

Money is not the sole factor
as I said, if a man has gone out to experience women a lot, he knows what I'm talking about

thats what a sjw does

just focus being a good family man then
why waste your time to reply?

Just as it's presumptuous of us to say you will want a long term relationship, it is also presumptuous of you to think "most women want to have fun".

Remember that this topic is about readiness for marriage. What you're telling me from your statement of bedding many hot girls, is not that you're a good boyfriend or husband, but more like you're good at bed... which, I guess that's true if you're not ghosted after first time, but I don't want to know anyway).

You may be right when it comes to initial attraction, that money isn't the main point (heck, anyone who talks about money on first date would be a red flag). However, all that amounts to nothing when it comes to marriage or along the lines of long term commitments. Anyhow, I guess you helped other readers who agree with you that they are also as unprepared for marriage as you.

the ability to be interesting and interested is a skillset
not just making money and be a work slave
find a life balance
Im sure you dont want all your attention put onto kids only

very sien have to repeat myself to this kind of rigid old man

...Oh. Yeah well I think you're one of us now, fellow "SJW"

I guess he's lost it when he said

The more he tries to justify himself, the worse it looks for him in a subforum that isn't about body counting 🤷‍♀️