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hksgmy
post Jun 15 2024, 08:45 PM

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QUOTE(-mystery- @ Jun 15 2024, 08:27 PM)
the ability to be interesting and interested is a skillset
not just making money and be a work slave
find a life balance
Im sure you dont want all your attention put onto kids only
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Ah, the presumptuous mind of an immature thinker.

Who said anything about needing to be a work slave to make the kind of money I am making or talking about?

And so many other incorrect assumptions of an inept mind of an incompetent man…
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post Jun 15 2024, 11:23 PM

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QUOTE(hksgmy @ Jun 15 2024, 08:45 PM)
Ah, the presumptuous mind of an immature thinker.

Who said anything about needing to be a work slave to make the kind of money I am making or talking about?

And so many other incorrect assumptions of an inept mind of an incompetent man…
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very sien have to repeat myself to this kind of rigid old man
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post Jun 15 2024, 11:24 PM

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QUOTE(-mystery- @ Jun 15 2024, 08:04 PM)
deviate based on own age and experiences
if a guy is in his early 20s, of course going out every single day, no problem if you able to manage time properly

the worse thing is to sit at home and cry about why most women wouldnt fuck you
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Somehow you did not answer my question on the choice of which resources to better focus on in building up a skillset.

Each path of mastery required time and effort, you cant be good with women or earn money in your 30s/40s without first focusing your energy and time building up your skillset during the 20s.

Its not like you play the field and go pick up girls every weekend during your 20s and by the time you hit 30s you suddenly say ok im done and you want build up your career or a business with your approaching women skill that you learn earlier. Unless your career is open a pua academy or recruit women for of /porn.

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post Jun 15 2024, 11:25 PM

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QUOTE(-mystery- @ Jun 15 2024, 11:23 PM)
very sien have to repeat myself to this kind of rigid old man
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Oh, there’s no need for you to keep singing the same song. Because the more you try to explain yourself or your ‘philosophy’, the more it sounds like you’re trying to convince yourself.

But I appreciate the civility and the evenhanded response you’ve shown so far. It’s a good start to meaningful discourse.
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post Jun 15 2024, 11:50 PM

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QUOTE(ChAOoz @ Jun 15 2024, 11:24 PM)
Somehow you did not answer my question on the choice of which resources to better focus on in building up a skillset.

Each path of mastery required time and effort, you cant be good with women or earn money in your 30s/40s without first focusing your energy and time building up your skillset during the 20s.

Its not like you play the field and go pick up girls every weekend during your 20s and by the time you hit 30s you suddenly say ok im done and you want build up your career or a business with your approaching women skill that you learn earlier. Unless your career is open a pua academy or recruit women for of /porn.
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Everybody can do sales, but can they sleep with tons and quality of females if you put two guys with similar 'hard' values together. Of course skills do matter when it comes to leverage

If sales did not work, you market yourself blindly also useless.
Most human beings are susceptible to manipulation and temptation no matter how intelligent and logical he or she is.

This post has been edited by -mystery-: Jun 15 2024, 11:51 PM
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post Jun 16 2024, 12:19 AM

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What did I just read above?!?!
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post Jun 16 2024, 02:32 AM

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QUOTE(ChAOoz @ Jun 15 2024, 11:24 PM)
Somehow you did not answer my question on the choice of which resources to better focus on in building up a skillset.

Each path of mastery required time and effort, you cant be good with women or earn money in your 30s/40s without first focusing your energy and time building up your skillset during the 20s.

Its not like you play the field and go pick up girls every weekend during your 20s and by the time you hit 30s you suddenly say ok im done and you want build up your career or a business with your approaching women skill that you learn earlier. Unless your career is open a pua academy or recruit women for of /porn.
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Personally, I think you should balance both.

Building your career is important for your future, with or without a partner. Along the way, surely you work with people, so take the opportunity to mingle with colleagues and befriend those you click with. I found it easier to befriend non-single opposite gender to understand them better + practise talking to them, without getting into any awkward misunderstanding/mixed signals.

Whenever you have the spare energy, then find your date outside work and hope for the best meanwhile learn about yourself.

If your work isn't giving you any opportunity to hone your social skills, then consider changing job to work with people. Socialising is an improve-able skillset and will rust if you don't train your brain to read situations and people.

As for doing the deed to gain experience... Well, personally I think saving it to do it with someone who really matters is beautiful in a way. You'll both fumble and it'll be awkward but at least you'll both want to improve for the sake of the other, you'll talk and work it out together.
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post Jun 16 2024, 09:56 AM

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I got my then classmate, later girlfriend and now long suffering wife interested because I was the apparently the brightest bulb in the box back at school.

She was apparently the second brightest, so it wasn’t enough with mere appearances since all of us could break a buffet spread and not gain an ounce at that age, and certainly wasn’t about the money since all of us were as broke as we were skinny as students.

After all these years, we still find ourselves engaging in intellectual discourse and philosophical discussions over local and international affairs.

And we still enjoy it.

Sapiosexuals are a rare breed, but that’s what made us click.
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post Jun 16 2024, 03:35 PM

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QUOTE(Takudan @ Jun 16 2024, 02:32 AM)
Personally, I think you should balance both.

Building your career is important for your future, with or without a partner. Along the way, surely you work with people, so take the opportunity to mingle with colleagues and befriend those you click with. I found it easier to befriend non-single opposite gender to understand them better + practise talking to them, without getting into any awkward misunderstanding/mixed signals.

Whenever you have the spare energy, then find your date outside work and hope for the best meanwhile learn about yourself.

If your work isn't giving you any opportunity to hone your social skills, then consider changing job to work with people. Socialising is an improve-able skillset and will rust if you don't train your brain to read situations and people.

As for doing the deed to gain experience... Well, personally I think saving it to do it with someone who really matters is beautiful in a way. You'll both fumble and it'll be awkward but at least you'll both want to improve for the sake of the other, you'll talk and work it out together.
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This is sound advice for the average person, but Im asking him cause i want to understand his thought process.

From earlier replies it seemed he placed ability in mastering girls / body count supersede all else and even financial resource become negligible.

But i do think an all well rounder approach is still the best, but those kind of advice might be labelled sjw or blue pilled.

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post Jun 16 2024, 04:17 PM

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QUOTE(ChAOoz @ Jun 16 2024, 03:35 PM)
This is sound advice for the average person, but Im asking him cause i want to understand his thought process.

From earlier replies it seemed he placed ability in mastering girls /  body count supersede all else and even financial resource become negligible.

But i do think an all well rounder approach is still the best, but those kind of advice might be labelled sjw or blue pilled.
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...Oh. Yeah well I think you're one of us now, fellow "SJW" tongue.gif

I guess he's lost it when he said
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Everybody can do sales, but can they sleep with tons and quality of females if you put two guys with similar 'hard' values together

The more he tries to justify himself, the worse it looks for him in a subforum that isn't about body counting 🤷‍♀️

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post Jun 16 2024, 04:47 PM

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QUOTE(Takudan @ Jun 16 2024, 04:17 PM)
...Oh. Yeah well I think you're one of us now, fellow "SJW" tongue.gif

I guess he's lost it when he said

The more he tries to justify himself, the worse it looks for him in a subforum that isn't about body counting 🤷‍♀️
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Couldn't have said it any better ... like I said, the more he tries to explain/justify, the more it seems he's trying hard to convince himself that somehow, somewhere, what he does and how he does it inexplicably carries some unfathomable meaning for him.

Because it certainly doesn't for me.

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