Hi guys, seeking for your advice. following is my story and background.

I proposed to a 6~7 years GF of mine in Dec22, then I got posted to a new job in another country in April 23.

We have always had no issues when the days are good however when argument arise, we are unable to hold back our emotions and often say or do things that will hurt each other.

Im really bad at confrontation but she always pushes me to argue at the heat of the moment.

This has been persistent, we always argue > move on > repeat, and things got worse after I moved to this country.

My job is stressing me out and I often find happiness in drinking with my friends, however this have caused my partner to be even more distressed.

Currently I am thinking of going for marriage counselling since we intended to have our wedding next year.

I do love her but I do not want to live under fear for the rest of my life.

Hope to get some advice here as well on how should I or rather we manage this situation, thank you very much.

thanks for the reply guys, really helped me to condensate my thoughts.

managed to find an article that i can well relate to

https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-he...ng-a-narcissist

have suggested her that we should see pre marriage counselling but she insists that i am the one with problem and i should be seeking help instead.

i ll try to meet a psychologist tomorrow to validate my feelings, sincerely thank everyone for giving your input in this