May 29 2024, 10:27 AM
QUOTE(Kyoz @ Jul 17 2023, 06:17 PM)
Hi guys, seeking for your advice. following is my story and background.
I proposed to a 6~7 years GF of mine in Dec22, then I got posted to a new job in another country in April 23.
We have always had no issues when the days are good however when argument arise, we are unable to hold back our emotions and often say or do things that will hurt each other.
Im really bad at confrontation but she always pushes me to argue at the heat of the moment.
This has been persistent, we always argue > move on > repeat, and things got worse after I moved to this country.
My job is stressing me out and I often find happiness in drinking with my friends, however this have caused my partner to be even more distressed.
Currently I am thinking of going for marriage counselling since we intended to have our wedding next year.
I do love her but I do not want to live under fear for the rest of my life.
Hope to get some advice here as well on how should I or rather we manage this situation, thank you very much.
The short fused is not changeable.... its in build in both..... what u all need is the openess to mend it and both takes initiative to get each other back on track.....its not easy here as its normally one sided...... norm is the guys that will "tam" back the girls..... so this is also a bad habit as the girl will always assume the guy to "tam" her...... so u need to get a partner that knows when to give and take...... normally if the girls treasure the relationship she will be willing to soften her heart...... but if ur partner is a hard headed and hot fused fella.... then its very difficult to mend things....I proposed to a 6~7 years GF of mine in Dec22, then I got posted to a new job in another country in April 23.
We have always had no issues when the days are good however when argument arise, we are unable to hold back our emotions and often say or do things that will hurt each other.
Im really bad at confrontation but she always pushes me to argue at the heat of the moment.
This has been persistent, we always argue > move on > repeat, and things got worse after I moved to this country.
My job is stressing me out and I often find happiness in drinking with my friends, however this have caused my partner to be even more distressed.
Currently I am thinking of going for marriage counselling since we intended to have our wedding next year.
I do love her but I do not want to live under fear for the rest of my life.
Hope to get some advice here as well on how should I or rather we manage this situation, thank you very much.
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