Question for TS - how long have you been in the same kind of role?

Definitely look for other companies or roles to challenge yourself and keep the "new" feel going.

I'm not so much of a set up own business kinda guy, so makan gaji with different types of roles.

I can relate, get bored every couple of years. LOL

When you hit 40s... you tend to contemplate your life much more and prioritize balance more than work itself. meeting up with people and spending more time with family and doing the things you like .

The age old questions comes into play askin' yourself : If you were to die tomorrow, do you have any regrets?...

If you feel reluctant, that means you have not resolved your inner peace of doing what you want or have unsettled things that needed to be done but you do not have it yet.

Work is end of the day, a means for you to save up , put a shelter n food on the table along with giving you time for planning your final phases in life. Some people start thinking about it at mid 30s what they wanna do when their old. Some might rather do the job they do not really like but the pay is good just to save enough to move on to the next phase of life faster.

If you're burned up from work, take some extended leave or sabbatical. last 3 years has been tough for everyone... with covid and lockdowns..,. companies has pressure to push everyone to work harder to make up for lost income cutting headcounts at the same time so at the same time we employees being squeezed more.

End of the day all of us have a choice, we might not know what is right or wrong in making the choice. But we definitely would know what makes us happy. Making a choice that leans towards that is never wrong...

Boredom could be due to being in comfort zone for a long time. 

Try to push or stretch yourself to the next level.

Try to change jobs or company

comfort zone too long..

Or, create a midlife crisis and pull the trigger on that dream sport car. That’ll give you a reason to want to drive to work everyday…

Actually no. If I had my way, I’d work for as long as I can (but then I work as a physician in my own medical practice), but I’m now semi-retired at 50 because my wife wants to slow down and enjoy life… and I want to do that with her.

Unfortunately, it doesn't work that way. My patients have repeatedly and decisively made their preference clear in the past - they're not interested in seeing a replacement doctor, as I don't run a general practice. And in the past, I used to accede to their request as I felt responsible for their wellbeing. Well, a lot of things changed thanks to COVID, and also personal health isn't as good as it was say, 20 years ago (after all, I'm no spring chicken anymore), and so another mindset slowly crept into play: "I'm not going to be of any use to anybody if I'm sick, or worse, dead".

That mean giving permission to myself to take more time off, as I need, and also to scale back at work.

I've not made any active attempts to grow my practice - I've restricted the number of new patients I wish to take in daily, even my Indonesian and other ASEAN country patients (where as in the past, I'd run down and get the surgery open even if they flew in on one of my rest days!), and I take a month off on alternate months to return to Australia, where I keep my MID LIFE CRISES in Sydney.

I find this has helped me reduce my own boredom at work (as exciting as medicine is, human beings are such that we'll fall into a routine and get bored at times).

I'm not advocating that you adopt the same approach, but perhaps vary your routine on & off work - take a longer drive in your BMW to work, drive a different route, find the enjoyment in the journey - all this to charge you up BEFORE you start the day, and then discover new things about your colleagues while at work, make friends with the barista at your favourite cafe and have a bit of a chin wag with him or her at lunch, whatever it take, to keep things fresh and get you looking forward to getting to work.

Just some random ideas tossed over your side for your consideration - I've just turned 50, so I can safely say I've been there, done that and bought the T-shirt, insofar as where you're coming from

Good luck!

I didn't ask whether you're married - I assume you are, and with kids?

If so, then my advise wouldn't be complete without mentioning the same variation of routine with the family members that mean the most to you.

In my case, it's just my wife and I, so we incorporate a lot of activities with our classmates (primarily in Australia, where I spent a lot of time studying) and also with our favourite nieces and nephews. Luckily for us, they are all of different ages, so it's like a never-ending sushi train of variety. AND, the best thing is that I get to live out my childhood (which was obviously a lot less fortunate than theirs) through presents and toys that I get to buy for the younger ones!

These things, as seemingly irrelevant as they may read on the surface, actually help with how I perceive work too - a life outside of work that is fresh and exciting keeps me energized for the tedium that invariably comes with the routine of work.

I also feel kinda mundane with my job. Earlier i though change of environment will be good and i jump 2 company.

Got the raise but after a while feel empty again. Am not sure if its just pure lazyness setting or taking things for granted. Went on a few holidays but still feeling meh

Still finding my purpose in life. Trying to change to things im passionate about but no idea to start where yet

45 now - long way to go before retirement due to commitment and young kids.

feeling the same too - hopefully a change of job might give it a last push towards 50s.

I can feel you, but i'm currently in between jobs. I was mentally exhausted + anxiety due to toxic work environment.

Been in this state for months, I've attended few interviews only since earlier of this year due to my job is very niche..rejected 1 job offer.. I can feel the passion is no longer there, but I know I could not stay like this forever still i feel kinda lost.

is it a good idea to pursue postgraduate study locally/oversea while looking for job that sparks my interest?

Wow found this interesting  topic middle age crisis mostly 40+++
Bravo everyone at least we all still surviving man. From my point of view get retrenchment  is actually good option you know at least worth the compensation  package especially  those work more than 10 years and above .

Don't be afraid to keep looking up for new job because our long accumulated experience not something easy can be replaced by youngster

I see many youngster they actually no idea what they doing just purely execute base on instruction or the maturities is not there so many boss out there still looking up age 40 +++ to fill up the position and they not expecting people to leave after 2 or 3 years

Conclusion 40++ still high demand in the market. Hope this help and keep fighting everyone and thanks

Hey, glad to know I'm not alone with these feelings. I'm 40+, married with a child still studying in primary school. Started to save for retirement fund....
That feeling like lost of passion/getting bored at work kicks in since last year....
hmmm.... still trying to figure things out like how/what could make things better/improving????

Hi,

Just want to drop hello here to all those who are in 40s and still working....I am in my mid 40s and going to be 50s soon..The nature of my job is quite technical. I have been asked if I want to become peoples manager before and I flatly said No...I have never been interested in managing other ppl....I rather be a technical SME than ppls manager...Surprisingly my brain is still active..I still can absorbed technical knowledge rapidly and I am still taking certification, upgrading my knowledge over these years...I do sit for at least 2 exam papers every year for the past 4 - 5 years...

Hi,

Changing job is never easy as you hit 40s...I have experienced it several times...Anxiety and lack of self confidence can wreck havoc..

To avoid feeling lost, stop thinking about yr job after work..Go play tennis, badminton or do something that makes you forget yr work for a few hours...

I myself is feeling the blues all the time...

Hotel should be better play to sleep or maybe our life is different.