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 Bored at work after 30/40s

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hksgmy
post Jul 16 2023, 07:07 AM

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QUOTE(HappyA_Q @ Jul 12 2023, 03:02 PM)
Anyone in their 30s or 40s feel the same here?
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Actually no. If I had my way, I’d work for as long as I can (but then I work as a physician in my own medical practice), but I’m now semi-retired at 50 because my wife wants to slow down and enjoy life… and I want to do that with her.
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post Jul 16 2023, 07:19 AM

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QUOTE(HappyA_Q @ Jul 12 2023, 03:02 PM)
Anyone in their 30s or 40s feel the same here?
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Excitement is short term, stability is long term. Do try and get yourself involved in other short term task/s within your existing company (if it is allowed). That way you get the best of both worlds, new experience and getting recognition by your boss/es (that will earn you stability).
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post Jul 17 2023, 05:35 AM

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QUOTE(hksgmy @ Jul 16 2023, 07:04 AM)
Or, create a midlife crisis and pull the trigger on that dream sport car. That’ll give you a reason to want to drive to work everyday…
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In fact, I have just done that last year by buying a BMW 3 series M-sports.
It is really fun driving everyday, but still I think I need to do something about my career/job.

I need to tell myself to stay positive, and be blessed and happy that I am employed as there are a lot of retrenchment in the IT industry these days!
I also schedule myself to travel outstations to meet up with customers etc. Keep myself busy
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post Jul 17 2023, 05:42 AM

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Actually no. If I had my way, I’d work for as long as I can (but then I work as a physician in my own medical practice), but I’m now semi-retired at 50 because my wife wants to slow down and enjoy life… and I want to do that with her.
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That's awesome! Also since you run your own medical practice, you don't have to be there full-time as can hire other GPs.
Then, you get more time to spend with wife.

If you have kids, I guess they would be in university soon or have graduated and started working.

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post Jul 17 2023, 06:07 AM

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QUOTE(HappyA_Q @ Jul 17 2023, 05:42 AM)
That's awesome! Also since you run your own medical practice, you don't have to be there full-time as can hire other GPs.
Then, you get more time to spend with wife.

If you have kids, I guess they would be in university soon or have graduated and started working.
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Unfortunately, it doesn't work that way. My patients have repeatedly and decisively made their preference clear in the past - they're not interested in seeing a replacement doctor, as I don't run a general practice. And in the past, I used to accede to their request as I felt responsible for their wellbeing. Well, a lot of things changed thanks to COVID, and also personal health isn't as good as it was say, 20 years ago (after all, I'm no spring chicken anymore), and so another mindset slowly crept into play: "I'm not going to be of any use to anybody if I'm sick, or worse, dead".

That mean giving permission to myself to take more time off, as I need, and also to scale back at work.

I've not made any active attempts to grow my practice - I've restricted the number of new patients I wish to take in daily, even my Indonesian and other ASEAN country patients (where as in the past, I'd run down and get the surgery open even if they flew in on one of my rest days!), and I take a month off on alternate months to return to Australia, where I keep my MID LIFE CRISES in Sydney.

I find this has helped me reduce my own boredom at work (as exciting as medicine is, human beings are such that we'll fall into a routine and get bored at times).

I'm not advocating that you adopt the same approach, but perhaps vary your routine on & off work - take a longer drive in your BMW to work, drive a different route, find the enjoyment in the journey - all this to charge you up BEFORE you start the day, and then discover new things about your colleagues while at work, make friends with the barista at your favourite cafe and have a bit of a chin wag with him or her at lunch, whatever it take, to keep things fresh and get you looking forward to getting to work.

Just some random ideas tossed over your side for your consideration - I've just turned 50, so I can safely say I've been there, done that and bought the T-shirt, insofar as where you're coming from smile.gif

Good luck!
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post Jul 17 2023, 06:13 AM

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QUOTE(HappyA_Q @ Jul 17 2023, 05:35 AM)
In fact, I have just done that last year by buying a BMW 3 series M-sports.
It is really fun driving everyday, but still I think I need to do something about my career/job.

I need to tell myself to stay positive, and be blessed and happy that I am employed as there are a lot of retrenchment in the IT industry these days!
I also schedule myself to travel outstations to meet up with customers etc. Keep myself busy
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I didn't ask whether you're married - I assume you are, and with kids?

If so, then my advise wouldn't be complete without mentioning the same variation of routine with the family members that mean the most to you.

In my case, it's just my wife and I, so we incorporate a lot of activities with our classmates (primarily in Australia, where I spent a lot of time studying) and also with our favourite nieces and nephews. Luckily for us, they are all of different ages, so it's like a never-ending sushi train of variety. AND, the best thing is that I get to live out my childhood (which was obviously a lot less fortunate than theirs) through presents and toys that I get to buy for the younger ones!

These things, as seemingly irrelevant as they may read on the surface, actually help with how I perceive work too - a life outside of work that is fresh and exciting keeps me energized for the tedium that invariably comes with the routine of work.
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post Jul 17 2023, 10:27 AM

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QUOTE(hksgmy @ Jul 17 2023, 06:07 AM)
Unfortunately, it doesn't work that way. My patients have repeatedly and decisively made their preference clear in the past - they're not interested in seeing a replacement doctor, as I don't run a general practice. And in the past, I used to accede to their request as I felt responsible for their wellbeing. Well, a lot of things changed thanks to COVID, and also personal health isn't as good as it was say, 20 years ago (after all, I'm no spring chicken anymore), and so another mindset slowly crept into play: "I'm not going to be of any use to anybody if I'm sick, or worse, dead".

That mean giving permission to myself to take more time off, as I need, and also to scale back at work.

I've not made any active attempts to grow my practice - I've restricted the number of new patients I wish to take in daily, even my Indonesian and other ASEAN country patients (where as in the past, I'd run down and get the surgery open even if they flew in on one of my rest days!), and I take a month off on alternate months to return to Australia, where I keep my MID LIFE CRISES in Sydney.

I find this has helped me reduce my own boredom at work (as exciting as medicine is, human beings are such that we'll fall into a routine and get bored at times).

I'm not advocating that you adopt the same approach, but perhaps vary your routine on & off work - take a longer drive in your BMW to work, drive a different route, find the enjoyment in the journey - all this to charge you up BEFORE you start the day, and then discover new things about your colleagues while at work, make friends with the barista at your favourite cafe and have a bit of a chin wag with him or her at lunch, whatever it take, to keep things fresh and get you looking forward to getting to work.

Just some random ideas tossed over your side for your consideration - I've just turned 50, so I can safely say I've been there, done that and bought the T-shirt, insofar as where you're coming from smile.gif

Good luck!
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Nice 911! I love Cayenne shape.
You're right bout the routine, sort of bored of routine if doing the same thing again and again.



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post Jul 17 2023, 10:35 AM

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QUOTE(hksgmy @ Jul 17 2023, 06:13 AM)
I didn't ask whether you're married - I assume you are, and with kids?

If so, then my advise wouldn't be complete without mentioning the same variation of routine with the family members that mean the most to you.

In my case, it's just my wife and I, so we incorporate a lot of activities with our classmates (primarily in Australia, where I spent a lot of time studying) and also with our favourite nieces and nephews. Luckily for us, they are all of different ages, so it's like a never-ending sushi train of variety. AND, the best thing is that I get to live out my childhood (which was obviously a lot less fortunate than theirs) through presents and toys that I get to buy for the younger ones!

These things, as seemingly irrelevant as they may read on the surface, actually help with how I perceive work too - a life outside of work that is fresh and exciting keeps me energized for the tedium that invariably comes with the routine of work.
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Yeah married and have 2 kids - one in primary and another in intermediate.
Target to fully retire once both kids started working which will be another 10-15 years to go.

Hopefully can live in both Auckland and KL by then, and possibly Australia! :-D

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post Jul 17 2023, 10:42 AM

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Trying to build up retirement fund, hope to retire early.
Not thinking of changing career or jobs anymore.
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post Jul 17 2023, 10:50 AM

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QUOTE(HappyA_Q @ Jul 17 2023, 10:35 AM)
Yeah married and have 2 kids - one in primary and another in intermediate.
Target to fully retire once both kids started working which will be another 10-15 years to go.

Hopefully can live in both Auckland and KL by then, and possibly Australia! :-D
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The kids will definitely keep you busy and on your toes, bro! And, as someone else said, you can focus on the "greater goal" of a tidy retirement nest for you and your wife to enjoy once the kids are finally out of your hair. That's gotta be a strong motivator at work!

If you end up in Auckland, by all means, hop across the puddle that's the Tasman and we'll have a get together Down Under!
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Trying to build up retirement fund, hope to retire early.
Not thinking of changing career or jobs anymore.
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Yes, money can be a very strong and powerful motivator smile.gif
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post Jul 17 2023, 11:16 AM

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I also feel kinda mundane with my job. Earlier i though change of environment will be good and i jump 2 company.

Got the raise but after a while feel empty again. Am not sure if its just pure lazyness setting or taking things for granted. Went on a few holidays but still feeling meh

Still finding my purpose in life. Trying to change to things im passionate about but no idea to start where yet
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post Jul 18 2023, 01:40 PM

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QUOTE(Roadwarrior1337 @ Jul 17 2023, 11:16 AM)
I also feel kinda mundane with my job. Earlier i though change of environment will be good and i jump 2 company.

Got the raise but after a while feel empty again. Am not sure if its just pure lazyness setting or taking things for granted. Went on a few holidays but still feeling meh

Still finding my purpose in life. Trying to change to things im passionate about but no idea to start where yet
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After you have read this thread, you will find out you're not alone!

I am trying a few things here as some forumers mentioned. Just to list out mine:-
1) Engage in sports activities, for me, it's badminton.
2) Engage with family friends, or kids' family, have some gatherings
3) Try to do different things at work, talk to more colleagues, engage with more customers, make new friends
4) Get into building passive income/retirement funds thinking mode.
5) Set a goal - can be health, wealth, family, travel any goals.
6) If you are a religious person, can seek answer on life purpose in your religion.

Hope this helps
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QUOTE(HappyA_Q @ Jun 22 2023, 07:12 AM)
Anyone here feel bored working after 30s/40s?
Not that excited or passionate after working for over 15+ years.
Not the same as back in the 20s where everything seems fresh and new, and earning money is exciting.

At the same time, blessed that I still have a job given that there's a lot of retrenchment out there.

So question here is how do you guys keep yourself passionate, keen and all excited?
Do you set yourself a further goal? What goals do you set?
Have you thought about starting own business instead?
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Yes.
Going to be 40 next year.
Bored with work, yup, got this kind of feeling, but then work nature, co-workers, projects/tasks still need me.
Company not toxic, no politic in my dept (thank god!), just not close to co-workers, not even hi/morning/bye greetings, just rather neutral.
I can still see that my role can be replaced by others should I choose to jump ship but for company to find a replacement and do my job, it's going to be hard and also the KT process is tedious though not impossible.
Still blessed with a job and getting paid on time, retrenchment not happening in my dept but others kena. I just in the comfort-zone now and hope nothing bad will happen in next 10 years... touch wood
For me, I'm kinda goal-less in life, just felt it is same old routine day-in day-out, be it at work or otherwise.

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45 now - long way to go before retirement due to commitment and young kids.

feeling the same too - hopefully a change of job might give it a last push towards 50s.
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post Jul 20 2023, 04:24 PM

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QUOTE(mainboard @ Jul 18 2023, 03:01 PM)
45 now - long way to go before retirement due to commitment and young kids.

feeling the same too - hopefully a change of job might give it a last push towards 50s.
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Perhaps reduce your commitment will be more relaxing, and allow you to retire earlier


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post Jul 24 2023, 10:31 AM

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I have just considering the earliest retirement age by calculating all my commitments and savings. I can semi retire at 50 years old (which is 13 years later) or fully retired at 55 years old.
My current role is kinda work life balance, although I have to endure heavy jam to travel to/from work. Colleagues and boss are good too. However, I still feel bored and somehow dissatisfied. But if I asked myself further, probably I just lost interest or no purpose in life.

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Yeah burn out issues i need to change environment
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post Jul 24 2023, 01:50 PM

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yes burn out is the main issue. for example, our engineer who went to intel decided to return to us due to burnout. Now they are very happy with us. Sometimes, working environment is way important than anything. You are paying your health for the wealth if you in the wrong place.
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post Jul 24 2023, 03:28 PM

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After this post, I have a couple of things to make me feel excited and not bored. Hence sharing here too

1) Meet more customers, help them resolve their problems - this helps to make me feel valuable and can provide values to customers.
2) Help colleagues - again this help provide values to teammates
3) Plan financially - like what other forumers mentioned, plan for retirement.
4) Leisure travel plans - have just done local trip and planning overseas trip
5) Hobby - play badminton competitively as a team. You can also do sports or hobbies you like. I am thinking of picking up Gundam model building again
6) Spend time on taking care of my own health

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