Bored to tears. In fact I get bored easily after working at the same company for 2 years. Been trying to look for a new job but the salaries offered by other companies are low AF. Like TS, I'm losing my direction in life too 😔

Do whatever you like, enjoy, most important.

I think most of us that with family commitment have the same issue. Have lost passion and hard to get the "ohm".

Now step in 9 years in the same company, have been struggling few times and try to find the passion i looking for. However, the company management have their own plan.

I can't change/control others, but i can made changes on myself. This year, I have try setup different plan such as pickup the sport passion and look for new opportunity.

Good luck everyone and happy CNY for those celebrate it.

you aren't alone, lol.
alot of no direction but happy people here in this country but there will be ppl that feel otherwise.
tech sector dude here, cant find any decent paying job that doesnt warrant me inheriting a pile of technical debt and solo fix

Wish I could be that bright eyed fresh graduate who's already happy to hold a job again.

Well mine midlife crisis is different I’m 44, my single mom have to be admitted in back in hometown. Didn’t expect her dementia condition to happened way much earlier. I was expecting about 10 (nearing my retirement age) more years so I can retire n stay with her back hometown, but oh well, things don’t go as planned. If she is still ok today, I would still be working in this non profit as I like my colleagues and the work I do into foreseeable future n wages is not priority

Now it really shaken me up, coz nursing home is not cheap and the cost of elderly care will just go up in the future. I have to find another higher paying job to cater for this eventuality.

And yes , looking at the Jobstreet postings, it’s very intimidating & terrifying reading the JD , as I’m IT mgr for 18 years here but also does the works of Marcom/finance/admins/operations/etc. it’s very depressing & having anxiety

This post has been edited by jinaun: Feb 25 2024, 01:28 PM

I am sorry to hear about your mom. I hope that she gets good care in the nursing home.

Bro, 44 is still young! Keep your spirit up!

Don't feel depress and anxiety. 18 years as an IT manager, you are jewel to many other companies.
Have a quiet, alone time in an area that will spark your energy. For example, quiet book shop with good ambience, or even your comfy space at home.
Turn off the tv or music or screen.
Sit down and think through your strengths for the many years of work experiences.
What are your IT skills that you are very good and confident at and follow by other skills that you know.
List down your certifications, etc., projects that made you feel good, achievements and so on.
Put them into your CV, update them, and last but not least, make use of AI to enhance your CV languages/grammar etc.

You will do great bro!

Do things that you enjoy bro, life is too short to give it away.

If we focus too much on money (although it pays the bill), we will be lost eventually.

i think everyone in their 30/40s have already felt the same, getting up early to work daily and going home late in the evening, the same old damn routine. i wish i can retire at the age of 50. start doing things i wanna do

In most cases, pursuing our passions doesn't necessarily help us to pay the bills.

jokes aside, in my company, those in their 40s and 50s, especially M and SM, start picking up hobbies like cars and golf, and trying to score young, attractive staff and interns

XD

Hence why I’m so grateful that my passion pays the bills

You are fine as you are already Mgr level, find another same level role or above at 40s is normal.
Unless you are looking at ground level IT roles like me which is very hard at mid age.

Most will instantly think you are not competent/something is wrong with you or downright discriminate on Age.

Not sure if you know, but the job market isn't exactly rosy at the moment bro...

Of coz I'm aware of this. However it doesn't affect me much as I've been actively attending interviews this year. Just taking my sweet time to choose the company that suits me best.

Good luck bro.

hey guys, just wanted to drop by and say hi.
how's things going?

Actually, quite enjoying semi-retirement. Off to Sydney again for a month and a half to enjoy an early spring.

Hi there,

38 and will be 39 in 6 months time. Been working in construction industry as QS since 2010, but have to learn the rope of being a project manager under a new company i went into this year.

The whole experience makes me feel futile as my salary still remain the same since 2016, as I tried my best to learn and explore.

Got let go on 2021 due to my incompetency despite the company promised to teach me as i said i was willing to learn, then i walked into a company that the boss promised all the benefits but never delivered due to his own hubris, and he still owe me half a month salary and one year worth of EPF.

Now under new company, i feel like i never progress at all salary wise, I feel stagnated despite jumped ships for past 8 years. I am burnt out, and I have no where to go cause these QS knowledge is all I have.

The shame of still being single and still living with my parents haunting me everyday, and i make sure i do my parts by helping buying stuff when requested by my parents.

I am thinking of migrating down KL to look for work, but my father already transferred the house ownership to me, moreover, my parents are already in their early 70s, can't leave them alone.

I feel the urge to go solo, as I am planning to start small construction/renovation as side income to supplement my current salary, and hopefully grow from there. I am planning to find small projects via my limited networks that i have with some sub-cons.

I am just tired of fighting and trying to survive. I feel like I have become more whiny, more sensitive, and more stubborn, I don't remember I that negative, I just overall feel jaded and I just want to fade away into anonymity.

This post has been edited by Fatimus: Sep 29 2024, 07:44 AM

I can feel your pain there.
To share experiences, I have also been to company where the boss made all these statements and "promises" that didn't come true. It took me a while to let go of the hatred and move on with life.

I believe you could live at where you are living now. It's a blessing that you can live together with your parents and taking care of them. I am sure God (or other religion you believe in) has a place for you in live and will provide guidance for you.

Since you mentioned starting a small construction/renovation, execute it. Take small steps at a time.

Take a break at times. Stay strong, never give up.