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TSSmlj96
post May 20 2023, 01:10 AM, updated 11 months ago

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I am married with kids. Being close with my sister in law who is single and sometimes I feel like I have feelings for her and it saddens me when I saw she hang out or chat with other guy. I know is not fair for her and my wife and I still love my wife. Now I am feeling confused with my feeling of wanting to be together with the both of them.
TSSmlj96
post May 26 2023, 02:34 AM

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QUOTE(AbbyCom @ May 20 2023, 01:30 AM)
It's normal, that's the reason/need for the marriage vows, to ensure commitment because the human heart is prone to go wayward, to provide stability to the family unit and kids. Marriage need hard work and sacrifice (of what you feel).

It is almost guaranteed you will find someone younger better, more beautiful/handsome, more suitable, more compatible with you AFTER you got married. Perhaps the new target is more easily manipulated, which makes that person more desirable.

It's human nature to be greedy and ask why not have both, but the risks could be you lose it all yo, even if you're Muslim and have quota for 4.

Tahan, stay away, wait till your sis-in-law finds her life-partner and you hopefully can then be happy for her and let her go.
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QUOTE(ZZR-Pilot @ May 23 2023, 11:24 AM)
Sorry, but if you don't get your shit together you'll be heading down the worst path there is coz you damn well know there is absolutely no future in it. You can never have her simply because she is your wife's sister. It's an effing disaster on an epic scale coz it'll wreck her entire family too.

Give yourself a tight slap whenever the feelings enter your head. Keep that shit bottled up tight, coz if one word of it slips out of your mouth then the trouble begins.
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QUOTE(sikongma @ May 24 2023, 04:43 PM)
You are just having a crush, it will pass if you don't keep thinking about her. Focus on your wife as well as get a hobby or something. If possible avoid seeing/meeting your sister in law. Hope you get through this infatuation without further incident.
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Yeah I agreed with what you said. Is just that sometimes my mind goes wild in the middle of the night when I thought about it.

QUOTE(SuperTuhan @ May 20 2023, 04:43 AM)
I bet that’s your younger sis in law rite ?

You’re just being horny

Do nothing , don’t try to sleep her or confess to her , there’s nothing to be confuse , keep finding more money n maintain a happy family

I think you’re trolling btw
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Yes.Why would I be trolling here? Just finding some place to vent out.

QUOTE(AbbyCom @ May 20 2023, 11:55 PM)
This tered triggered another thought https://forum.lowyat.net/topic/5380800

You are not the only person that can have feelings for someone else, your wife could have wandering thoughts too, imagine she tells you she have fantasy for another guy (worse still, it's someone very close to you) and she wanted to share you with the new guy, she also confused, she love both of you.

How does that sound?
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I thought of this too. Is bad I know but it's hard to control how I feel for the both of them

QUOTE(kesvani @ May 23 2023, 10:43 PM)
If got chance just tap your sister in law but make sure both know it is with out any committment
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Nah. Is easier to say than done.





 

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