QUOTE(TearsFromMe @ Mar 9 2023, 10:58 PM)
Wanna ask girl treating as backup is bad or common thing? Because i ask my sis, she also will like that!!...
Ask yourself why do you want to be a backup guy when the girl is obviously not interested in you? What do you wish to achieve?
You want to continue to hope that one day she's going to pick you? If yes, how long do you want to wait? Very important question to ask yourself.
For me, if a girl is keeping me as backup, I will cut all contact with her even if I like her. Cause my time is better spend on girls who treat me as their main guy.
If you did not have the exclusive talk with her (like officially boyfriend and girlfriend) she is entitle to see other guys, meet other guys as you are. Once you have the exclusive talk, there should not be any one other than you in the picture.
Now from your post, I can see you don't have that exclusive talk with her yet, and obviously she is not picking you over the other 2 guys which means you are in 3rd or 4th place. Do you still want to be in 3rd and 4th place,?
Being backup here means if she like this guy A and keeping you around for just in case. If things work out with guy A, you can forget about getting into relationship with her. From your post, after guy A, she still didn't pick you. She went for guy B if I am not mistaken. Them after that guy C. Your post since 2021. Now 2023 already. How long do you want to be spare tyre? 5 years? 10 years. Better for you to find younger girls.
For me, I never treat all girls I meet via dating app as spare tyre. I treat all of them as potential girlfriend material. I vet them all equally, go out talk with them and spend time with them all equally until I decide the one I want to be exclusive with. No special treatment.
Go and watch YouTube on why you should not be treated as spare tyre. I started with Courtney Ryan on red flags in women, what to lookout for and avoid.This post has been edited by Ramjade: Mar 9 2023, 11:36 PM