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So this girl find me back on last year September because she already broke up around July 2022 i think, so she ask me want to go to her state and "try" with her (Try means chase her)...

I said ok because i still like her, i will go there May this year... So last year Christmas, New year 2023 and this year Valentine we celebrate together (I went to her state to celebrate with her 3 times), so far quite well and text with her everyday with some phone call. One of the phone call, we talk about like if dating how long then marriage? So far looks good... And i also got ask her in phone, is it you like want to find a someone better than me? She said no lah...

But last 2 week she seems cold to me but still got reply me lah and i found out some of her fb story that set me cant see (I use another fb to see her story). Got one story is her photo with a man, not sure they are old friend or what lah but why set me cant see?

Is she hiding from me or she just dont want me to ask if i can see it???

I think i need to prepare the sadness incoming... Damn she already hurt me once and now she wanna hurt me again???!!!

IF she really hurt me again i think i will not reply to her anymore!

move on bro... like a spare tyre for backup plan

she cute or ugly?

Yup now i also felt like i am just a backup...
Now just see how it goes... I dont put my hope high liao

6.5/10 Cute

Bro sorry to hear that but i think you already know why she hides the story from you. Time to move on.

This one no point, move on

Move on bro, this is already a sign for you to let you know ur just a backup in her life, no point giving up the whole forest just because of one tree.

Dont be sad, pm me i can offer you free daygame coaching

The question to ask is... why are you even letting her hurt you?

Why are you willingly putting yourself in a position to be hurt by her one more time?

If you see pain coming, why hang around waiting for it to hit you again?

Walk away, move on.

If you don't, your getting hurt won't be her fault.

You are not exclusive enough, your availability is too damn high. That's why you ended up in sparetyre position.

And you took so long to seal a deal. She asked you to chase her, first 2 dates , did you sense any opportunity to seal the deal? You drag long enough, then other people will snatch her instead.

She already asked you to try chase her, what's holding on you to not act fast within first 2 dates?

Yes is my fault to gave her the chance to hurt me again but that time before she ask me to chase her, she told me she was so sorry for treating me bad last time, maybe my heart is so soft so i gave her the chance...

I was trying to settle my stuff at her state first then seal the deal because she mentioned she dont like ldr...

Now i dont really know is it too late or what, this matter made me cant sleep today...

Is ok. Take your time to depressed over this. Then slowly stand back up but stronger.

To get a girl, everyone know we need to market ourselves. So this marketing is to create attraction from the opposite gender.

Now try to take your time to slowly move out and slowly figure out what is your selling points, and how can you improve your selling points.

And most importantly, be selfish. To improve yourself. You think for yourself..

move on

You are her spare tire. Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me. Just cut all connections with her and start life fresh. Don't continue to be a simp.

This post has been edited by Ramjade: Mar 5 2023, 10:14 AM

dont date one girl only

date as many girls as possible

have choices in life

Have u had sex with her yet? Like during those Christmas, New Year, Valentines dates?

I don't believe girls will easily have sex with a guy even if they are officially boyfriend and girlfriend. I prefer it my girl don't. I am ok with just holding hands and maybe maximum kissing.

This post has been edited by Ramjade: Mar 5 2023, 11:00 PM

back in those days i was like you crying over 1 girl

i learnt to get a life, build a career, fund a hobby. looking back i felt kinda stupid to have done that crying over 1 girl. once you have value in your life, many girls will come queuing to date you

by then, your this girl you once cried for before will feel regretted and cut you off instead. you don't have to cut her, just mute her off social media

This post has been edited by Chaud: Mar 6 2023, 05:17 AM

this

ts dont put all egg in 1 basket

try court others while dating this girl

then u wont feel sad

i think the girl also doing the same , thats why she been cold to you, she already find a better man

She is plainly cheating on you & stringing you along whenever it doesn't work with someone else she prefers.

You are being used as backup option until she finds another better potential. Move on dude, don't be her backup. Or worse be the one she would settle if she runs out of options. Go for girls that appreciate or if better worship on the ground you walk on.

Don't take her back. Consider this as an experience to not repeat the same thing in the future

This post has been edited by Dr.Drool: Mar 6 2023, 11:31 AM