I think you have passed the point of diminishing returns. Now you have to decide how much is enough for you to cut your losses before this mess swallows you whole.

TBH, I've been in your shoes. Just trying to keep the relationship alive became something that consumed all of my time, effort and resources. So this highlighted statement of yours had memories come flooding back coz I did the same exact thing. Eventually it came to a point where she started sleeping with a friend and even then I still clung on, refusing to 'lose' to the other jerk, until one day she delivered the coup de grace which devastated me and left me teetering on the edge. Years later, I looked back and realized my weakness was being too blind to set a cut-off point because I was too invested in bailing out a sinking ship that wasn't even worth saving.

Eventually I found someone else with whom I could enjoy an almost effortless relationship, who saw fit to help pull me out of that deep, dark shithole I was in.

You know what they say about what goes around comes around? That guy whom she was banging did to her what she did to me just 3 years later. Last I heard, she hadn't quite managed to climb out of her own deep, dark shithole yet... but what the f**k do I care, eh?

Bottom line, you already know where you're headed with her and you also would have known by now whether or not you actually have a future with her. Sure, every guy thinks he's the hero who could tame a raging fire but is she really worth suffering 3rd degree burns for?

Clear your head then decide. And stick to your decision.

This post has been edited by ZZR-Pilot: Feb 14 2023, 10:42 PM