Hahahahaha why compare yourself to this guy who makes you feel bad? "Many girls" is just your stereotype because of 1 case that you know. What about the other 99 couples that you know?

Ever heard of the saying that goes: the best investment you can make is in yourself? So invest in yourself.
What does this mean? Upskill yourself. A man who is knowledgeable or has a variety of skills is charming. This meaning reading books that'll benefit you/ enrolling in courses with things to learn etc. Self improvement is so crucial these days if you're looking for quality lifestyle. People who don't keep up will be left behind. So yeah while looks will probably get that person halfway somewhere but still, if you're looking for long term relationship, personality and the depth of a person's character still matters imo.

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Additional points <<since you were harping about looks>>

- Grooming: Decent haircut which don't even require high expenses. Shave (or not, depending on your preference) if it's neater for you.

- Clothes: Appear neat & tidy. Fashion didn't have to be expensive or overdoing it. When you have the extra budget (ie. from bonus), get yourself some decent top or pants. Even IGR/ Tik Tok has multiple fashion tips on the kind of matching clothes you can play around with.

- Physique: If you think you're overweight, try to reduce some weight so you'll feel better about yourself and gain some confidence.

Also, even if you think you don't look good - it may not be the case for some ladies out there. Perhaps 1 tip that can help... try to enhance your appearance by making sure your face is clear from blemishes/ acne etc. Go to the dermatologist if you have skin issues and get them rectified. The more confident you feel about yourself, the more attractive you'll appear. And seriously, who doesn't like a confident person? (well, don't be overconfident though or that may seem snobbish).

Now ask yourself how much effort you're willing to put in to look better. If you're going to keep using physical trait as an excuse, then you're doomed to fall back into this loop every time you fail to meet someone.

This post has been edited by sweet_pez: Feb 7 2023, 11:41 AM

I like the way you think.
Men who cooks and clean get the upper hand anytime! At least in my books

That's why we have social media!

There's always someone better out there. When you think you've met a beautiful woman, you'll notice there's another better one later on. That is a never ending loop because you'll cross path with many people in this lifetime. It's the same with anybody.

Personally - I've got friends that I feel is doing really well in life, and then I meet others who is even richer and better off. Does that change my perspective? No. To me, that's just another person/ human being. So this boils down to that person's character or personality. Take away his money and looks, is that a person I'll wish to continue associating with? If yes - I'll proceed to keep as a friend. If no, I'll just compartmentalize this person as an associate/ acquaintance and have less contact.

Secondly, you're still looking at something superficial. When you socialize say, with 3 or 4 girls in a group setting, assuming all of them looks similarly good and appears pleasant. There must be something that sets them apart which gives you a certain preference to either 1 or 2 of them. People may say things like "clicking" with someone is too cliché but its still true IMO. How do you even make friends with people you have no common topics or can't click with? Maybe some can, but I find such friendship/ relationship is hard to sustain.

What pool are you looking at? I've never mentioned you're looking at the wrong pool. I guess you're not looking for an average jane but high standard beauties, that's why you kept mentioning money and looks lmao.

TS you've already set your mind so I'll just stop here because I don't see any point in going further. All the best.

This post has been edited by sweet_pez: Feb 9 2023, 04:30 PM