my wife is a gem then.. i dated her when i was broke and i confirm not the handsome type.. u meet me outside more likely u think I'm fierce with mintak penumbuk face.. meanwhile she is petite, cute.. hitam manis kind..

don't give up hope TS.

Like I said before unless you are super confident and Playboy type, don't go for looks. If you go for looks, how many other guys also going for look. She is spoilt for choice. So you will need to stand out in your dating app.

That's why for I don't bother about those with super model looks, or nice makeup. I went for those normal girls without makeup in dating app and all replied to me like normal.

Yes nice to have super beautiful and hot girl but as the saying goes beautiful girl is not your wife and handsome guy is not your husband.

For me, I am just sharing what works for me.

This post has been edited by Ramjade: Feb 1 2023, 07:22 PM

lucky then okay, when both of you can be content
there are many people who are spoilt inside and outside until can't receive objective reality

I saw many rich, fat guy, face like crazy frog music by Axel, the girl beside is so hot.

Not an average hot, is those damn hot.

I wonder why???

Meaning are they gold digger? I only can land hot girl, average looking good girl and decent pretty girl.

I cannot get any of those sexy and damn hot girl.

Please enlighten me.

Ouch...Were the girls whom commented on you being ugly your dates? Being so direct?

Which part of your face do you think is the problem?

At early 40s like everyone, can expect some aging signs like forehead wrinkles and lines around your lower eyelids, which are easily corrected. Even if your face has left-right imbalance, it can still be fixed.

The unfixable ones are skull bone related disalignment, example one eye socket is positioned higher/lower than the other, or jaw malalignment problems like overbite/ underbite or nose deviation.

The ladies have a point i guess. Eveyone loves attractive faces, but the formula for attraction is more than just physical. You don't need to look attracrive but instead you can focus on getting a pleasant look, meaning fixing those that puts people off.

If you got some scars, there are ways to make the skin surface smoother.

If you don't have anything serious, can always try some makeup when you go out on dates. CMB got many ladies who are divorced, and they often don't mention their marital status.

By the way, I thought u had an LDR thing going on?

Paiseh, i thought they said you were ugly, but didn't find that in your post haha 😅

The Bad Boy Syndrome ?

While basic maintenance of looks & relatively stable financial are essential, it's your "inner vibe" that matters most.... your core human values, integrity, your thoughts, your intentions, your beliefs, your soul.

Improve your inner vibes then lucks of romance would surround you.

You listen to girls from dating apps? If they are good then why are they still in the app?

Get some workouts to keep yourself looking strong and good. The girls will come.

The LDR somehow didn't work because of how the girl lead me on to believe it was doable but she didn't want to commit so yeah.

As for the looks wise, well let's just say that I don't look like KPop Boy Band members so I can't attract them good enough.

Positive or Negative vibes, we are looking at the first impression first. If first impression also cannot make it, then how do I continue to show I am good.

Some girls within my range of colleagues did say that for girls to look into my inner vibes and values, the looks must be passable too.

If looks also can't pass, they won't bother looking into your value. Why? Because no matter HOW NORMAL a girl looks, confirm got many guys SIMP for them creating a fake reality where they got lots and lots of choices.

For example, I know of a girl who I think looks very fairly normal BUT there are at least 5-6 guys waiting to shower with attention when needed.

Also from range of ppl around me.

The problem is not your looks or your money. Its your mindset. Your negative mindset gives off negative vibes and women can pick up on it.

I'm short and not good looking, and during my hunting days I wasn't even loaded. Yet, you'd be surprised with the women I managed to pull.

You need to change your perspective on life, and also your views on women in general. If you always think of problems or worry so much about what they think of you, you'll never attract the right person. You'll only attract the very thing you're thinking of; the bad women that will fulfill your prophecies.

Btw is this a Chinese culture thing? Avoiding divorced men.

P/S Im assuming TS is Chinese also.

This post has been edited by Cubalagi: Feb 2 2023, 11:35 AM

divorced doesnt mean its bad
being a former sl*t doesnt mean its bad

It depends on the person whether he or she can be aware for changes

what's traditionalist men or women do is, they judge someone past and have a restricted mindset how to move forward in life

Maybe. I don't know. What I know is in the US, is one of the yellow/ red flags of a female is divorced female. Based off YouTube I watch. But nothing mentioned about divorced men (maybe I didn't search for yellow/red flags in men).

Also when it involved divorce male/female what you are hearing from them is their part of the story. You never hear their the other partner part.

Divorced males in US are almost zero out because the family court system heavily favors the women, thats why they're not often talked about because of guilt and ashamed.

No, it's not a Chinese culture thing. Some women just like to play safe coz there's always a possibility that the divorced men might go back to their ex wives or maybe the guy lies to the potential gf that he's in the midst of getting a divorce. Even if there are 2 sides to a coin, I still don't like to deal with such complications so I'd avoid such men at all costs.

This post has been edited by kitkat86: Feb 2 2023, 01:22 PM

Thats true, ive asked out a girl she didn't mention whether she had legal arrangement with her 'husband' as she still keen to see me, i was cautious as i didnt want to suddenly getting knocked door when i was trying to hook up with her

apply cosmetic, make your face look nicer, change hair style, clothes fashion, apply some fragrance.

and most importantly, you must be funny + suave, if you ugly already， poor somemore + awkward conversations, confirm cannot get.

99.9% on looks. Loaded with money is useless unless you're a billionaire. Honest and loyal means nothing when you can't even attract with looks.

Money only works on sex workers.

I can only answer this from Chinese perspective. I heard the Malay world is more forgiving.

This post has been edited by Skylinestar: Feb 3 2023, 09:29 AM