Yes you are right. Marriages are down in numbers everywhere in the world.

Don’t get me wrong, I love my wife even after 30 plus years, but who knows, if I were to do it all over again….

… oh, in my case, I’d probably still end up with her hahahaha.

I am here and for me, my main drive is I just like to have someone to accompany me like real companionship. Many places don't welcome alone peeps like going for Korean BBQ buffet, min 2 pax and etc etc. So I want to have someone accompany me and do stuffs together.

Easier to get a like-minded friend to tag along no?

If that’s your primary concern then a friend would serve your purposes just fine without the baggage.

A friend can't be a person to share feelings, stuffs with each other everyday. If I had a female friend who I can share everything with and she shares with me everything, that's gonna go somewhere else.

Then, don't just say all you want is to share feelings and stuff la... you're obviously hoping for something more Good luck !

A friend cant compare with a girlfriend. Hope u get a good GF soon.

On looks and money, you can work on both and improve yourself.

Or TS could subscribe to dodgy philosophy like some here and just work on TS’ smooth operator skills, to heck with either looks or money….


… according to some, that is sure win method?

Thats also one way.

But for sure win..looks, money and being smooth..do all.

Hehe. Life is very, shall I say, materialistic…. At the end of the day, when all is said and done, money talks and you know what walks.

Say a girl and she is considering/being pursued by 2 guys, say A and B. And A is wealthier than B. Will the girl pick A for certain?

I will say the certainty is none at all.

I would say B has a pretty decent chance if B is better looking or smoother, and an even better chance if he has both.

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No certain outcome in the game of life or love, but advantages can be stacked in favour of those with the resources.

A wealthier person has the ability to draw upon his internal confidence - if he made it via his work, business or investment, he can use those same lessons to make it elsewhere - hence the saying success breeds success and money makes more money.

Personally I find it distasteful because it takes away the meritocratic element of fairness, but you only need to look at real life where the datuks and the tan sris strutting about with their trophy wives or girlfriends to know that, sadly, this is how the real world works.

I don’t like it, I don’t think it’s inherently fair and I still believe that hard work and character should account for something, but I fear that is just my wishful and wistful thinking.

What do you think?

No doubt wealth is an advantage in the dating market, but its only one of several attributes that attract a woman.

If wealth is the only thing a man has going for him, he will be attracting the wrong type of girls or as u said may not able to keep a girl.

Btw many of these Datuks are players. They are not just wealthy but very smooth with women. Some are not even very wealthy lol.

Maybe the Datuks took lessons from our resident /k playa… hahaha

some girls prefer looks > money, some prefer money > looks. If get looks+money, that's a jackpot.

you dare to say is there any property or smartphone that can fulfill all buyers wishes? Absolutely not. Even if there were inventions done, the market would still hold it just to stir up consumer hunger and buying appetite

In other words, there's no singular product or a person that can fulfill all your romantic/sexual needs. Hence, monogamy is a fucking lie

Some of us prefer not to give in to base instincts

I have a theory, girls can smell your genes from miles away, if you are inferior then there is absolutely nothing you can do about it

I invested 140k in an European car to give girls good impression when pick them up. It’s ineffective, so the money part isn’t valid. Give someone with inferior gene money, girls will still run away from inferior gene, not literally smelling the bad gene but I believe it’s revealed through how you carry yourself, perhaps women sixth sense

Sorry for the negativity but I genuinely believe this to be the truth, that’s how the gene pool evolves

RM140k… what car did you buy?

True, I liked that meritocratic element of fairness part. As for tan sri part, there is a saying, "born rich men got pretty wives, self-made rich men got ugly wives". Says something about wealth preservation eh