I remember you were super negative

Sounds like you've gotten past that stage? Is life getting better for you now?


This bugger (nick vujicic), no limbs also can get pretty wife and now 4 kids I think... what f`king excuse the guys in here have?
No, its charm and having a good reputation.

Women's perception of you is heavily biased by your social reputation. Which is why apps suck, cause that signal is typically missing.

So if her circle of friends think positively of you, your attraction factor goes up. If you are respected by your peers, then that factor increases as well.

Can't forever be negative, right? Since regardless of what, life continues to move on, might as well live life with positivity.

I would advise people not too fixated on the black dots and been oblivious to all the rest. Sometimes the problem is actually within our mind and that's what we can control.

Can't forever be negative, right? Since regardless of what, life continues to move on, might as well live life with positivity.

I would advise people not too fixated on the black dots and been oblivious to all the rest. Sometimes the problem is actually within our mind and that's what we can control.

Most people would rather stay with mediocrity than trying to restart again because they are afraid to be hurt and rejected again. This applies to people with getting older age because life circumstances hardened their perspectives in life that brought them to unwillingness for changes. Which leads to 'less efforts, more outcomes' mentality while themselves may not acquired abundant mindset and resources. They use money as clutch for successes.

When it comes to mindset, it is either they see it or they don’t see it. If see it and desperate enough, then one will get out of comfort zone to go extra miles to achieve their life goals.

Just, it is very important to put less priority on girls and only focus on own life goals and hobbies. Putting girls as priority is the biggest mistake that one can make… yes you still need to put in efforts to woo girls but that shall not be the sole and main mission.

If you want to display your inner beauty, you need a lot of time exposure. A lot of time exposure means your potential candidate can only comes from the places you appear daily - like work places, your living community / neighbors , religious house, hobby club, etc. Anything outside of this, you will not get your time exposure &  you will not be able to display the inner beauty.

So after so much bickering in Dating Apps and real life experiences, I have come to 1 conclusion,

GIRLS AT ANY AGE GROUP WILL FOCUS MORE ON LOOKS AND IF NO LOOKS, THE GUY MUST BE LOADED.

And when I mean Looks, I mean the born good looking ones. Even if you not good looking but you buff up / gym up, it's not gonna work (especially at the 30s).

Why I said so above? A few girls told me directly even if I became buff up, my face still cannot so they may not date me (means won't la) and they also said that even if the guy isn't buff or slim but got good looks, even chubby all they can accept.

So it goes down to, what is left for people like me? Where do I find girls now?

invest for your future etc) and enjoying your life while making more friends with girls, eventually you'll find one.

I can get the idea of socializing but spending money on open bottles try to impress peers/girls bringing them for food escapades that can easily out of their normal spending or buying unnecessary stuffs is waste of money

id say majority of youngsters do not have the concept, they like living in the moment

Where did he mention open bottles to impress peers/girls?

Where did he mention open bottles to impress peers/girls?

My friend if u have no looks then compensate with money
Girls will kangkang for u if u open wallet show few k and credit card and what not

Its a materialistic world we live in. If u poor but hand some they wouldnt even consider if they are ready for marriage etc

Actually TS didn't answer my question, why does he want to get into a relationship?

Companionship I guess, and hopefully someday it’ll translate into something more meaningful. Isn’t that the usual thing?