QUOTE(Zoo Howl @ Nov 12 2022, 10:00 PM)
Why blessings from parents are important? Can get it from temple / mosque / kuil
When I stated the blessing here, it is not religious blessing stuff. It is more like parents / family agreement for you to go ahead with your choice of partner. Their blessing means, they have no objection & the blessing will indirectly translated into necessary family's support when the time of challenge arrive. Time of challenge ? You will know it when you face it. The younger generation will argue, this is between me & my other half, why need my parent/family blessing ? Nothing wrong with that but with the blessing, your marriage will go smoother.
There are basically 2 most major hurdles where the parent / family support will come in great help:-
1st major hurdle - marriage < 30 y.o range. With the stagnant salary median, how do you expect the male to marry the female by saving? We are not talking about the high flyer performers, lets talk about average ordinary ppl. If you really go by saving, probably you will get to marry the girl by mid 30s, can the girl wait ?Is it fair to ask the girl wait? This is where the 1st parent blessing & support comes in. When you become the parent, you will know that, the kids cannot make it on their own by their saving, unless they forgo all the tradition both side, you can control your side but can you control your other half side ?
2nd major hurdle - married young couple with newborn/kids to age 7 y.o. This duration is where majority of the marriage failed. Failed because they are unable to adjust to the parenthood, the child care took so much of their time, at the same time during the late 20s to early 30s, that is the period where they have a lot to prove in their career / corporate ladder. Tied with the busy work schedule + kids attention, it is no brainer that the husband & wife relationship will be subjected to a lot of tests during these period. Thing will be different if there is parent / family support. When you are too tired & busy, if you have parent or sibling who can help to take care your children 2-3 days off once awhile, so that you can have the couple time with your wife, it will make a lot of different vs totally no support. If you are busy during weekend, with family support, your wife can tag along well with your sisters / your mother to go shopping while leaving you busy with your works vs your wife waiting at home with your kids with the mentality that you did not help her at all.
Just some examples.
This post has been edited by nihility: Nov 13 2022, 10:28 AM