im not living with them, and even my future in-law visit me after my confinement period in the future, i will make sure all things still goes my ways (but first , you need to express your needs and you pantang-larang bout people and so on) and all the things bout baby's well-being expecially all the old people remedy to cure the Jaundice , dont let them try anything except science，both of you and your hubby must stand strong against all remedies that "un-science" but sound do-able. and bout the food (if you are chinese la, ) communicate, not so much of oily soup with sesame oil (it will clog the milk duct),

another word, use your hubby as the communication bridge, let their son to say no on behalf of you , or you going to have a hard time. all you and your hubby must bulat suara and decide who is the one to rule and making decision for the kid' education


This post has been edited by hotNcool: Oct 25 2022, 04:33 PM

so you all live together?

you husband must be keras bout this, or else you and your confinement months is about non-stop nagging, i dislike all those keras kepala old people, all think their words and thoughts are rightful

if you kesian your husband , who the one to kesian you? definitely not your husband and in-laws

how bout you tell him what to do (soft way, pls dont get into argument) and make your point right that you're the baby bearer and you are the mother whom will never harm your baby, if use your mother's solution to take care of the baby or yourself, who are responsible for all the unwanted thing when occurs ?

explain to in-laws will not work out if she or he just one -way communication bout him or herself,
confinement is about good rest and free from all nags, if like this, just go book a confinement center for peace of mind, say that the center strictly dont allow visiting
but if you live together, then i guess nags wont stop even if you manage get yourself confinement package
sometimes, someone need to be a lil immoral to make him or herself feels better, and stop caring too much about others, if do so will make yourself suffer, no point right

This post has been edited by hotNcool: Oct 28 2022, 12:02 PM

wrong post, slah tekan

This post has been edited by hotNcool: Oct 28 2022, 12:01 PM

this is for sure, but newbie daddy and mummy really need this kind of help,
but really depends, i knew a kid in his early secondary school still always stay with his nanny and her family in his free time , not his mum, this shows how close they are.

for most of the case, in laws are way too bossy, someone pls stop them!
different story when you really get a super duper nice and caring in laws