Since my wife is expected to give birth next year, a major cost and concern is regarding confinement centre or confinement lady.

Those who have gone through this before, please share your experience and cost.

From what I heard mostly is around 10-15k.

On my experience, better go confinement center

Pros
1) more people take care of your wife & baby
2) fixed cost
3) insta worthy food pictures

If you taking confinement lady

Pros
1) stay home

Cons
1) 1 person settle all, she will be very tired and may not give your wife & baby 100% focus
2) variable cost, week week will ask buy this buy that ..
3) if the lady is a creature of habit, then your wife will everyday eat same kind of food until she jelak
4) your house will be dirty unless you got maid or yourself clean the house cos confinement lady wont clean

it is also a gamble sometimes with confinement lady, sometime you get good ones , something nightmare ..

pricing wise, confinement center 10-15k like you said but its all inclusive
confinement lady last year i hire was 6.8k and havent add all the food / herbs / what ever other shit she ask ... it was a nightmare for me, i asked her to leave after 4 days.

Between 6K to 20K depends which centre and package.

If it's your first born and staying with your parents, better go confinement.

Save the hassle, let your wife fully rest and recover. Let the nannies/nurses take care of the baby and pamper your wife.

Mine cost 10k, 2021.

This post has been edited by Michaelbyz23: Jul 22 2022, 11:27 AM

find a good centre, your marriage will survive longer.

Just prepare 15K and you will be fine.

random note, my parents was pushing me again for stuff like having kids so i told them that the cost of having kids mahal, and confinement center was one of the topic

mum was like no need confinement centre la, they tiok money wan. last time we made do without anyway

so... is it true can make do without confinement center? seems like all my other peers who recently have kids paid a huge amount to one (RM10-15k even)

last time people don't need this. ang moh also no need. ask your wife to tough up.

Next month my wife will go confinement centre....around 18k....

The price vary from 15k to 18k depends on the room/package that you choose.....for me yes more worth it to go confinement center rather than hire lady which I saw most ppl had bad experience with it before.....

Confinement center price also vary depends on your location...my friend at negeri sembilan there only cost around 9k to 10k.....my confinement center is at puchong.....

if u can afford it, go center je la

pick a good center with good reviews in your area. and kiss your 8 hours sleep goodbye when they come back from confinement

This post has been edited by DarkAeon: Jul 22 2022, 11:32 AM

7k single room w attached bathroom - 2020

Penang mainland

can do without one, just that nowadays ppl got spoiled.

Nope still got extra to pay such as additional massaging hours, baby souvenirs (maybe centre will do those wax/clay baby hand or leg thingy).
Diapers + milk powder if free ones finished, unless u ownself bring.

Touch wood, if jaundice may need to rent UV light unless u bring go hospital.
other complications for mother and baby may need to go see doctor

u ask ur mom last taim she walk or bicycle nia why now use car?

last taim her mom (ur granny) jaga her now she willing to jaga ur waifu or not?

my baby girl jaundice, stayed 1 more night at gh, next day discharge already dont need keep go and back. rm 5 only for the admission.

besides, gh equipment much better than in confinement center.

ready at least 10k lor.but i prefer if your mum or her mum can cook for, and bath the baby, then better stay home jaga by sendiri punya mum...

but you and wife have to do your part la..takkan everything dump to mum, just need them cook for waifu and bath the baby, other sendiri sacrifice do more lor.

10K Basic.
17K Everything included, hubby can overnight piap piap
Year 2022

Confinement better at least you and Ur wife can rest.

It's worth the cost

can u make do without confinement center?
yes, but u have to do all the work of caring for mom and baby, cooking, cleaning and deal with the sleeplessness and stress associated with it. if u have a large household and have support, this is ok.

and i tell u, if u have not done this before, u will likely be completely overwhelmed if u do this on your own

i was like u last time, save money ma. so the first one we took care of the baby with a confinement lady. my second one, no questions asked, straight to confinement center. we didn't even ask the price, just pay it. but that's just me

true, cause friends of my age (30s) said that theyre kinda being too much of doting parents that theyre spoiling their kids

stuff like kids want new toys? BUY
need stuff for kids that use few times? BUY
and so on...

not until that reasoning la, its more like for her case she said nowadays all tiok so much in terms of cost

so dont need to go to that hassle to go confinement centre, but opt for others like hire maid/stay with parents etc etc

reply back:

old folks cakap leksi (history), we youngster cakap lansi

sorry hijack a bit, did anyone of you have maternity insurance? worth? any recommendation? im getting married next year and plan for children next year.

yah thats how i replied, cause obviously want best for wife after child birth stress. not like we males get long ass paternity leave to take care of other half also

theres only one you, how to juggle time with jaga waifu and work?

some extreme case for 1 child expenses when born.

my koliq, went private for natural born, cannot come out, then c section, this part cost more than 10k already.

then baby ate own faeces, infection masuk nicu, another 10k, and private will send the baby to gh also after that.

then confinement center another 10k.

cost is not in selangor lagi.

so 30k for 1 child at least. she is having another 1 now.

my experience

Before Promotion
10-15k very basic, some single bed, some queen bed not much facilities, very basic room, food can be good
15k-20k, surely queen bed d, room can be nicer and spacious. Food can be same as 10-15k range
20k+, anything beyond this is location, facilities, nurse is real nurse experience, Hotel room standard.

confinement center je

dad and mon can learn how to take care baby using current method
mon can rest well
tips on breastfeeding stuff also

mine 15k on one studio room , so dad can stay 24x7 on couch lol

I got one confinement lady around that cost u mentioned.

Wow she was great. She taught me n wife a lot about taking care of baby.

At that time, when I collected my baby from hospital, i panicked, no manual what to do with baby ? My first struggle was to put the small baby in the car baby seat...hahaha, it was an experience I can never forget. I struggled with the baby seat.

But the confinement lady was quite good, her cooking was really nice, I enjoyed her cooking past 2 months.

Before that she took care of my niece.

sorry if anyone ask, cannot recommend, due to privacy.

my wife last year in little xxxxxxxx.

28k for 28days.

worth or not?

personally feeling worth if you’re first time parent and your parent explicitly told you they won’t help you to take care of the baby lol.

of course next child we will go for cheaper options like 15k to 18k.

wow I had almost same situation.

My baby ate own meconium masuk nicu. Nasib baik, I sempat beli insuran, reduce some of my outlay.
My one had to C section because doctor fear infection due to termakan meconium.

lol this is almost exactly as my friends wife did. apparently gynae said her uterus not stronk enough during pushing so they ended up C-sec her and cost extra few k

dahlah they went to private hospital + hire one of the bigger name doctors lel



but they can afford though so.. biarlah

at this rate im more turned off by having kids ughh, so mahal

dafuq confinement also need 20k at least

wahai saudara sekalian,

do the maths before pancut dalam

else

beli dom dom kan murah

when people getting more lazier, there is always many opportunities arise...

Congrats in advance?

Confinement centre on average is about Rm 10k - 15k

There is another alternative, Confinement lady.

The lady will stay in with you for a month, shower baby and mom, prepare 5-6 meals a day, massage, and other typical confinement activities.

It depends on your budget though. Confinement lady is about Rm 5 - 7k. Of course, you gotta fork out your own money for groceries.

my wife did surgery before to remove fibroid around 7cm in womb which worry it will affect the fetus if pregnant, so the gh doctor straight say week 37 go do c section. inside there she said she saw alot women with difficulty of giving birth. some there hanging 2 days already.

some told her she is lucky to have c section (by right c section is a worse way). my wife on pain killer almost a week after c section.

when both u and your wife aren't getting enough sleep, baby crying every 2 hours, house chores etc etc, u find find both of u highly stressed and arguments isn't uncommon.

if u can afford it, just pay it

right? csec while sounds horrible, its actually one of the faster methods

you want wife stuck in dilation and pain mode for days or csec and suffer surgical pain afterwards? no win situation

just.. dont make waifu laugh after csec, you sure cari mati

kan?

friend said during first 3 months of having child he was zombie mode entire time. waking up every few hrs to tend to baby, sleeping irregular hours, work, do chores etc

then now when baby more stable (theyre training her to sleep same hrs as them, no naps at afternoons), so now theyre more controlled now. and he really appreciate proper sleeping hours liao

Wow 28k. 5 star Hotel standard?

PJ area able to get below 10K, rooms no aircond.

just pay and go

to avoid wife noisy later, say here pain there pain cause no do good confiment

3 kids no confinement lady no confinement centre..i take care my own family.

yes, u won't get more than 2 hours continuous sleep for a few months. if you lucky and your baby is cooperative, u may get longer hours sleep after 3 months but if u unlucky, it may last 6 months or even longer

it's life changing and no amount of advice u receive can prepare u for fatherhood. is it worth it? yes totally. u may not be able to see it at first but over time u will

they actually promoted as 6stars confinement center.

Can share more experience on this issue?

1) When it can happen? Before delivery or after delivery
2) Any prevention method or by pure luck?
How much is the cost if this shit happens?

We are hunting for confinement centre now too. Apparently the cost around 13k-18k depends on how luxury you want it.

Damn so expensive.

Luckily my dotter born during lockdown time. I ownself did everything

i just take care my wife at home.
i do the cooking and house chores.
but i understand other people got other commitments
luckily she giving birth normally no need operation

Be vigil...when your wife reach 8 months, monitor progress, ask doctor to teach her to reach finger feel vagina, to measure how big opening (please check with doctor, don't take my word for it)
read books
can reduce risk but can still happen

go recce the hospitals and check their costs
private ones may be more well prepared
govt hospital, free but be ready to take risks, and probably may have to suffer in long wait...
its around 10k
but those in prince court would like be much higher
again u pay according to the service levels
buy insurance cover for baby (but if nicu, only cover hospital bedding = no of days)

confinement center vs confinement lady

ask around, check internet
I got mine from my sis in law
sometimes close recommendations help, because you know the confinement lady did a good job
about confinement center - i have no experience, i never went through them b4

These days
No have 30k for antenatal care, birth medical fees ( cheap if natural labour or more expensive if C section and depending on the hospital whether branded private or non branded) then the confinement.
Better not pancut dalam.
My two kids, both taken of care by traditional confinement ladies, they cooked and looked after the baby while she rested. We were fortunate to have a maid then so she just cleaned. It was a while back when it only cost 3k for 4 weeks of work.

you yourself have not gone thru it yet

but sounds like you think you already qualified to advised other on what they should do


hire maid for confinement?

do you even know what is maid's responsibility? vs baby sitter vs confinement lady?

you think its all the same thing?

ayam already book CL
day time service only for 30 days
cost: 10k++

use the same CL my sister use before as she having good track record

Early this year. Paid about 8k for 40 days. The confinement lady stay at our home. Jaga baby, prepare pantang foods, kemas rumah, massage, sauna, etc.

This post has been edited by POYOZER: Jul 22 2022, 01:17 PM

then my daughter must be an angle. she gets cranky now only the 2 hours before her sleep then after that will sleep through out the night till morning.. 5th month now.

first 3 month.. totally no crying hysteria crying or what so ever.

Got catalog?

u r lucky then. count your blessings.

mine only stable after 1 year

????

its not even me saying it what?

yah man cause from the description of my colleagues they have sleepless nights and it was hell before their baby got up to a certain age.

at least my wife has a great time taking care of her now.

RM5488 - Johor

Single bed - i bring my own foldable bed there to sleep on floor sometimes.
Shared toilet
5 meals / day

waifu in confinement now.

You ask your parents if they will take care of the confinement or not? If not then STFU

This post has been edited by hteekay: Jul 22 2022, 01:26 PM

if cant afford to pay at least 15k , better not have kids
dont cheap out by asking pa/ma to help
to those who said last time pa/ma dont need, last time ur pa/ma need iphone/bmw/vacation?

yes about 15k for private room. i also surveyed previously.

Having kids is really humblebrag worthy

5sec of orgasm comes with a mountain of debt for next 18yrs... good luck

they dun provide catalog for us

Tenkiut, ill PM 2feyday

2019 - 10k near kuchai lama. Single bed no toilet. Food is nice I would say, weekly hv nurse n doc come over check

u took prubsn or aia one?
I did survey for both insurance
but both only fully cover after 14 days of delivery
the agent told me even took pregnancy's package still not fully covered
example: Jaundice only cover if the reading is more than 300 which kalau ikutkan 200++ pun dah kena hospitalise

I went to PPUM for my baby. That's because let my wife choose between 2.
Either private hospital no confinement center RM 12k(exclude sudden c-Sec cost)
Or Government PPUM with confinement center RM 13k(PPUM RM1k+)

She pick second one. And never regretted it.

Although she told her friends only need to stay 1 or 2 days in hospital why not spend money for the next 28.days in premium care center.

This post has been edited by Red_rustyjelly: Jul 22 2022, 02:21 PM

Respect... I plan do the same.

Only order confinement Food.

I think this should be highlighted more. The toughest time isn't the first month, but the second or third month when the baby starts opening their eyes. Infant GERD, falling sick, phlegm are serious issues that wil completely deplete your mental energy coupled with lack of sleep.

If I were to do it again as a first time parent, I'll go to a cheaper centre but stay for 2-3 months.

yeap covers about just that.

but u buy life/medical insurance for ur kid, start early age also not just for giving birth.

nope mine neither them.

LYC? that one seems popular. Visited there and the facilities seem good.

i was at CC in Feb 2022 - paid RM14k in Kelana Jaya

pros and cons here - https://forum.lowyat.net/index.php?showtopic=5251231&hl=

depends la....some ppl very lucky, got many supportive and young and abled parents, in laws, sisters, brothers , aunties even neighnours to help out...

some ppl very unlucky, either no family member at all (only child, parents super old ) or just hv non helpful family members.......

so if you need help, and have moeny to get help, pls do. post partum depression is no joke. u never know how bad it will be.

u boy or girl ? housewife or / househusband or u work from home?
you hv other family members who can help u ?
u got maid?
i am only asking cos we did try that method with no 1 baby.
after 7 mths, we hv to get maid cos too tired and too many arguments

This post has been edited by roseisrose: Jul 22 2022, 03:13 PM

Don't need it, our generation very strawberry that's all.

My wife first 2 kids no confinement centre/lady. 2nd kid was during MCO too, so couldn't get help even if we wanted to. I've always been WFH, so I can be around to help out. Confinement food can also order (good ones are not cheap). 3rd one otw, this time she is considered confinement centre, just to have the experience

At the end of the day, its all in your mind. If you already keep thinking things will be hard/difficult, it will be.However if you have the mindset of "difficult also can handle" things will proceed much smoother.

list of centres here - https://forum.lowyat.net/topic/5237677

1st kid hire confinement lady to home,insta ragret bcos u will need to do much more homework all the time... exhausted no time to rest.

please send waifu n baby go confinement centre...but prepare the next mth gotta midnight wake up take care of baby.train 1 week before they come back home.

yes , u r so lucky yours is an angel.

You have no idea what it feel to have a family. Maybe you were abandoned long time ago? Friends come and go. But family stay.

paying 12k for confinement imo is damn fucking cheap

it's like staying in hotel for 28 days with all meal + baby care included, each day cost u 400 onli

if ur wife request this and u not willing to pay for it, please try to take care of the baby by urself instead of asking ur wife to do it, cause she's not feeling well and body is weak to do that

for my case, i just give my wife 20k so she do all the decision herself, whether mother take care, confinement lady or confinement centre, so she can't blame me for not respecting her decision

Nope....its Bliss....I do survey both LYC & Bliss....LYC problem is tarak use traditional chinese herbs 1 & also no traditional chinese doctor.....

So thats why I choose Bliss....

actually the most important point is, husband willing to take up the responsibility for house work, and baby care, and u did it which is good

basically i'd say the cost that pay for confinement center is to save up ur time, and some of the confinement center got class for new parents to teach them how to take care of baby (take bath, change cloth, wipe ass, change diaper) so i'd say go ahead if able to afford

Both working..we are used to doing thing ourselves. It fun actually..

WTF, not even one month after give birth you so fast wanna go in? womb also not yet heal

thats how i feel too? it really depends on the situation. if youre office going worker then no choice lo, better go CC since no time. but if youre willing to go through the pain and trouble then no CC it is

its not like back in the days they had any issues with taking care of us without CC. we didnt ended up being on wrong side of kids life or worst case, dead

i am the confinement guy..

i can cook and i can put baby to sleep.

just kidding

Prepare 20k get the best package. Let ur wife syok syok there 24 hrs got ppl jaga. Meanwhile u still can party outside on/off yo

Nice list

It helps that I only require 6 hours of sleep, can get by with 4+1 hours but would be less productive.

Yeap, so its mostly frills. Most confinement practices are pretty stupid anyway, so up to you how you want to go through things. '

That said, if you're worried that raising a kid is expensive (which it is). Its not going to get any cheaper, the cost is also likely to outpace your earnings, so better to start earlier and just plan your finances accordingly. Sometimes the pressure of having a kid will push you (hubby mostly) to earn more.

Year by year, cost of raising kids will get higher. Soon not many people want kids.

If you have your own place to stay without parents, then better to get a confinement lady to stay.
Why u ask? Because no parents/in laws will disturb the lady doing her work, and its more comfortable to be at your own place.

Since your already at home, you already know how to manage the babies things and where to put them accordingly and where to get them, when u come back from confinement home it will not so easy to get adjust back to your home as u will need to organize from the start.

To those saying staying in confinement the wife can rest more, I see no difference cause your wife need to get up every 2 hours to feed and she will be sleep deprive either way.

Park

my waifu today last day at confinement, yeah it's true that her sleep deprived even without housework. no baby need to pump. got baby need to jaga. no time at all.

depending state kot.. Penang here starting from 8k d