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News [SF🍓] Suicide in front of dad on April fools day., Tạm biệt

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cursetheroad01
post Apr 2 2022, 05:27 PM

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QUOTE(wilsonjay @ Apr 2 2022, 10:59 AM)
Kesian..

Seems like asian parents still don't understand that education is not everything, i have friends who did so badly in secondary school but they end up being more successful than those with high academic results
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I would argue academic is still important
Its just that Asian parents don't know how to learn/work efficiently and effectively.
Thinking long hours is productive
cursetheroad01
post Apr 2 2022, 05:40 PM

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QUOTE(Blofeld @ Apr 2 2022, 10:59 AM)
+1

That's why those who chose suicide due to academic pressure is just silly.

if due to sickness like cancer, understandable la but academic pressure, come onnnn

it just reflects the laziness of the person.
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You lack empathy
Ones action is always relative to their experience, which differs from everybody else
To a high schooler that has an overbearing parents, likely his life only revolves around his academic
Even if we were going to lazily assume his only hardship is long study hours with constant monitoring and maybe some physical and verbal abuses sprinkled in, to this boy, that might have been enough to suck out all sense of hope.
And let's assume even more that this boy might be having a hard time with his exam to warrant such forced study hours by his parents.
This compounds the effect of flawed study methods ingrained by clueless parents.
Imagine not being good enough even after all that work, which to his mind, should at least appease his parents.

To you and me, his hardship is a walk in a park

To be this thoughtless is lazy
cursetheroad01
post Apr 2 2022, 05:46 PM

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QUOTE(~min~ @ Apr 2 2022, 11:48 AM)
Still a strawberry, cant stand parents then go out ler, go live on your own, see how world function. Taking own life like a true strawberry
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You think a kid with parents that overbearing knows about that?
Its hard to look out when the abusers are your providers.
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post Apr 3 2022, 06:29 AM

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QUOTE(Blofeld @ Apr 3 2022, 03:00 AM)
I have been through that. Suicidal intention, extreme sadness, crying for no reason, leaning on a balcony, you name it, that was when i was much younger.

I sought help from counsellors.

Now thinking back, for a person to give up without seeking help first is just plain selfish. 

Or even without trying to work through the problem, or even without attempting to brace through challenges.

School counsellors, friends, teachers, befrienders are there for you. One should take effort to speak to them.

That's the reason why I need to share this. From my experience, I have seen others out there who have suffered much more worst (those things that are truly beyond their control) than this 'academic pressure'. To chose suicide over academic pressure is just selfish.

Also, i have seen cases (on students) over the years who chose video games/entertainment over studies, then they complained they are depressed for not being able to score. In campus, you can see them not even attempting to help themselves.

Empathy? I have seen others who suffered worst and yet they brace through. Those kind of cases where if you listen to their entire story, tears can really drop from your own eyes because it's truly traumatic and beyond their control. And yet they brace through it.
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Exactly
You have experienced hardship and managed to see through it
You have seen others hardship and see how they managed through it

You have experienced more
You have more points of data to compare to and conclude that this much of hardship is just at this level

But maybe not to this kid
Being young, he did not experience enough to know bigger hardship
To him, at that moment, he was at his lowest
That is over his perspective

Perspective is relative

If only he had a more sensitive parents
If only he had the help survivors like me and you had

 

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