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Takudan
post Jan 27 2022, 03:37 AM

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I don't believe in "settling". Or at least, not in the way most people do.

To me, finding someone means to find the other half who:
- can put up with your bullshit
- you can put up with their bullshit
- is good enough for you
- you're good enough for them

So whoever that comes along and makes you question hard enough, by all means you should try your best to answer all the questions you have...
Any deal breaker or red flag?
Is she doing something about her problems?
How is she taking in the bad things, be it criticisms, misunderstanding, unfortunate events etc?

That person may not be "hot/handsome", but if they turn you on, why not?
That person may be earning less, but if they're financially responsible and still striving for more, why not?

So, yes, don't settle for crazy/"whoever", but average is great.
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post Jan 29 2022, 12:37 AM

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QUOTE(flying_manatee @ Jan 28 2022, 08:51 PM)
I guess yes but what if the level I have to settle for by then will be someone who doesn't turn me on, has no good qualities whatsoever etc. as by that time I'm too old already. The thought is rather horrifying.
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"Horrifying" sounds just the right word to describe a situation of being with the wrong person long term, draining your sanity daily. Yes, it'd be better if you're alone for life, that's why don't settle for "less" i.e. what you can't handle.

Keep trying and hope for the best, I might sound obnoxiously optimistic, but well it's because it has so far worked out for me! I didn't believe in online dating, but tried it anyway, probably had 30 matches but less than 5 made it to meet ups, and only one worked out so far. Great for me, cuz one is all I need for now haha.

I'm not so optimistic for ladies especially if one approaches menopausal age, because that's when the "crazy old bitch" gets a lot of emotional outbursts. However for men, you guys are luckier in the hormones department, you'll age steadily and heck, you can still look good with wrinkles. So don't worry about your age and enjoy your time with her!
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post Feb 21 2022, 09:07 PM

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QUOTE(christ14 @ Feb 20 2022, 11:20 PM)
i just resonated with this... and it seems like all 4 need to click. just had 2 shot off recently
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Unfortunately we cannot control how others think of us, but I think you can better your chances by working on yourself:
- fix your own bullshit. It can be your temper, bad habit or whatever it's been bugging yourself but you were too lazy to do something about.
- fix your expectations... by lowering it to a more realistic level, if applicable. For example, a girl with flawless face without any makeup on is extremely rare, if at all! Most ladies I know in my life has something on their face lol, all it takes is one hot day outdoors, or some stressful days at work, or hormonal changes. I just find that the typical beauties you see a lot on socmeds, scam dating profiles, porn, whatever else out there in the public, they are very much beautified to an unrealistic standard. If anything, I find ladies who can make stupid/ugly faces much more genuine and fun to be with.

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