Hi folks, I am getting married soon. Would like to check what is the order of sequence for the tea ceremony and church wedding?
Typically when the groom pick the bride from her house, do the groom serve tea to her parents and relatives first, or do with groom side first?

1. Pick up bride
2. Serve tea to her parents and relatives
3. Go to groom's house to serve to groom parents and relatives.

or

1. Pick up bride
2. Go back to groom side and serve tea to groom parents and relatives.
3. Fetch bride back to her house to serve tea to her side.

thanks for the reply. This is the norm now? As I read in articles online, all are saying it's the groom side first.
This has been the point of contention between both parents.

https://www.brides.com/chinese-tea-ceremony-5078037
Today, however, most people see the tea ceremony as a symbol of the families’ welcoming the bride or groom into the family. According to Sharon Au, drinking that tea symbolizes the parents not only recognizing but also accepting a new person into the family. She goes on to note that “this is especially so for the groom’s side of the family.” (As is the case with many Chinese wedding traditions, the groom’s family takes precedence over the bride’s.) It’s also an expression of gratitude from the couple’s part. “It means: ‘I am marrying into this family, I will show my respect by serving tea to the elders,’” adds Au.

https://topictea.com/blogs/tea-blog/chinese...ceremony-guide/
During this tea ceremony, the bride serves tea by holding the teacup with both hands. Tea is served to bride’s parents at home as they wait for the groom to arrive. According to Chinese traditions, this is done out of respect and to show gratitude to the bride’s parents for raising her well. It is not a must for this tea to have dates or lotus seed, and the bride can serve the tea by herself.

After the wedding ceremony, the newly wedded couple serves tea by holding teacups with both hands. During this event, the newlyweds invite the groom elders to drink tea using their formal titles such as third aunt and first uncle.

It is also worth noting that the newlyweds follow a certain protocol when serving tea. They start by serving tea to the groom’s parents then proceed to serve the oldest members of the family to the youngest.
Other than serving tea in order of seniority, the couple should also remember to serve their paternal relatives before the maternal ones.

https://singaporebrides.com/articles/2020/0...ceremony-guide/
The Chinese tea ceremony usually takes place on the day of the wedding in the homes of the bride and groom respectively. The groom’s family should always be served first, so the tea ceremony for his family is usually held in the morning after he has fetched her home. The tea ceremony for the bride’s family will then take place in the afternoon when she has returned home from visiting the groom’s place.

Alternatively, some couples choose to combine both sessions of tea ceremony into one and hold it at a later time at their wedding venue to have more time to themselves in the morning. There is no right or wrong way to conduct your tea ceremony. As long as both families are agreeable and you remember to start with the groom’s family first, both options are acceptable.

This post has been edited by kenloh7: Dec 17 2021, 10:54 AM