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bobowyc
post Oct 13 2021, 12:26 AM

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Sorry to chip in, i dont have exp with kids, but i think maybe its best to talk to him now and ask what frustrates him or is there something bothering him. instead of sending him to therapy. and also explain that therapy will help him in the future, but you will also guide him properly. things and issues need to be explained properly for kids.
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post Oct 13 2021, 07:31 AM

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QUOTE(bobowyc @ Oct 13 2021, 12:26 AM)
Sorry to chip in, i dont have exp with kids, but i think maybe its best to talk to him now and ask what frustrates him or is there something bothering him. instead of sending him to therapy. and also explain that therapy will help him in the future, but you will also guide him properly. things and issues need to be explained properly for kids.
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done talking. my wife and i feel he needs external help in which my wife and i are not equipped to handle.

we are not chucking the problem to other people, just that we feel properly train therapist are able to handle better.

even my wife is seeing counsellor which her company assign to staff.

yes we explain to him why he is seeing therapist, is to help him.

he took it quite well. anyway the 6 session has run it course last week.
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post Oct 13 2021, 08:49 AM

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QUOTE(bengang14 @ Oct 13 2021, 12:25 AM)
well i am already encourage. i know my situation is not as bad as it sounds. i know there are a lot of parents that had it worse. this thread is not just about me but also to all parents out there struggling with this WFH and SFH.

its not easy really. Just the other day the teacher text the parents not withhold christmas present on kids that are slacking in their homework.

this morning my boy was doing his online maths quiz. he took it like a formula one race.  rclxub.gif  rclxub.gif  rclxub.gif  rclxub.gif simply tembak. i have to sit down with him to do the quiz once more.Hopefully its not cheating. lol

i also wonder how much can they learn online. at year 3 he is still learning addition and subtraction.
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I started off with similar situation, sitting beside them to guide them through as it is a new situation for both them and myself as well. The online quiz with a timeline and optional helpline are not something that my younger daughter pick up fast with. I am just glad she got used to the entire SFH program. One thing you can help them with is to get a laptop (larger screen) to ease their learning experience as all of my children agreed that it is easier to work with the online prog via a laptop com than the ipad.
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post Oct 13 2021, 09:44 AM

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QUOTE(random.heart @ Oct 13 2021, 08:49 AM)
I started off with similar situation, sitting beside them to guide them through as it is a new situation for both them and myself as well. The online quiz with a timeline and optional helpline are not something that my younger daughter pick up fast with. I am just glad she got used to the entire SFH program. One thing you can help them with is to get a laptop (larger screen) to ease their learning experience as all of my children agreed that it is easier to work with the online prog via a laptop com than the ipad.
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Perviously he was using window laptop. punch the screen..have to replace
Got him a MacBook. he paid half of it with the hope that he will learn from past experience. guess what, he punch spoil it again. barely 1 month old
now he use the MacBook and its beam on a external LCD.

He is ok with SFH, just that when it triggers him he basically cannot shift his focus on that problem.

anyway i also think kids needs to socialise. it pains me to see he is always alone. would really be nice if he can somehow meet this peers.

i think this applies to all kids now
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post Oct 13 2021, 09:55 PM

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QUOTE(bengang14 @ Oct 13 2021, 07:31 AM)
done talking. my wife and i feel he needs external help in which my wife and i are not equipped to handle.

we are not chucking the problem to other people, just that we feel properly train therapist are able to handle better.

even my wife is seeing counsellor which her company assign to staff.

yes we explain to him why he is seeing therapist, is to help him.

he took it quite well. anyway the 6 session has run it course last week.
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Ah, thats a positive feedback from him too. Maybe he knows there's something not right also. But keep giving him positive encouragement. So far my experience only with my nieces and nephew, all below 7 years old. xD haha.. Hence those cheeky kids. haha..
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post Oct 13 2021, 10:52 PM

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QUOTE(bengang14 @ Oct 13 2021, 12:25 AM)
well i am already encourage. i know my situation is not as bad as it sounds. i know there are a lot of parents that had it worse. this thread is not just about me but also to all parents out there struggling with this WFH and SFH.

its not easy really. Just the other day the teacher text the parents not withhold christmas present on kids that are slacking in their homework.

this morning my boy was doing his online maths quiz. he took it like a formula one race.  rclxub.gif  rclxub.gif  rclxub.gif  rclxub.gif simply tembak. i have to sit down with him to do the quiz once more.Hopefully its not cheating. lol

i also wonder how much can they learn online. at year 3 he is still learning addition and subtraction.
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I was worrying at one point and finally realized that whatever they learn throughout the pandemic, it is what they can managed and life is just too short to be fussing over them for not going ahead and be superb in learning. All that I ask from them is to respect the teachers who are also struggling by attending classes and pay as much attention as possible. Just be present, understand stuff or not, we work it out slowly. So now que sera sera, let the kids be kids and survive the pandemic with a sane mind. console.gif

Whatever they missed surely can catch up sooner or later. Maybe my thoughts and approaches are rubbish, but honestly, these are all I have left and I have nothing else to work on. sad.gif
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post Oct 18 2021, 04:51 PM

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QUOTE(bobowyc @ Oct 13 2021, 09:55 PM)
Ah, thats a positive feedback from him too. Maybe he knows there's something not right also. But keep giving him positive encouragement. So far my experience only with my nieces and nephew, all below 7 years old. xD haha.. Hence those cheeky kids. haha..
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lol. how come you are surfing around parents sub session? going to be one yourself?
i can see that you like kids


QUOTE(LordPennDragon @ Oct 13 2021, 10:52 PM)
I was worrying at one point and finally realized that whatever they learn throughout the pandemic, it is what they can managed and life is just too short to be fussing over them for not going ahead and be superb in learning.  All that I ask from them is to respect the teachers who are also struggling by attending classes and pay as much attention as possible. Just be present, understand stuff or not, we work it out slowly. So now que sera sera, let the kids be kids and survive the pandemic with a sane mind.  console.gif

Whatever they missed surely can catch up sooner or later. Maybe my thoughts and approaches are rubbish, but honestly, these are all I have left and I have nothing else to work on. sad.gif
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its true. respect goes a long way. if possible health , character , studies in that order. off late i can see some improvement in him.

2 weeks back i was very specific and stern with him on what is important what is not important.

for him when something goes wrong with this class its always top top urgent important to the extend everyone have to stop their work for him.

so i told him something like this:

Printing issue-> not important
Safari cannot minimise -> not important
fire -> important
Baby fall down -> important

i also realise as parents i often want to shape him to the way i think which might not be ideal. they are bought up with youtube, twitter, content creator, pewdipie where as, me and my wife shun all this.



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post Oct 18 2021, 07:10 PM

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QUOTE(bengang14 @ Oct 18 2021, 04:51 PM)
lol. how come you are surfing around parents sub session? going to be one yourself?
i can see that you like kids
its true. respect goes a long way. if possible health , character , studies in that order. off late i can see some improvement in him.

2 weeks back i was very specific and stern with him on what is important what is not important.

for him when something goes wrong with this class its always top top urgent important to the extend everyone have to stop their work for him.

so i told him something like this:

Printing issue-> not important
Safari cannot minimise -> not important
fire -> important
Baby fall down -> important

i also realise as parents i often want to shape him to the way i think which might not be ideal. they are bought up with youtube, twitter, content creator, pewdipie where as, me and my wife shun all this.
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haha. stumbled on it at active threads. lol so just browse and read lo.. xD hahaha.. didnt know its under parenting till i replied hahaha nah, not married yet, but soon to be. that also first kid maybe 2 years later. now with covid hard to save money. not really like la. haha. im just okay with kids, also learn a lot from my nieces and nephews when they are here. xD

 

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