Go alone. Settle down first, do your studies, then decide to bring your family along.

I got my job in SG and I went alone. Obviously, not an expat package as well. Realized that as a foreigner, everything is expensive - especially education without the government subsidy. I ended up staying in SG alone, while the family remain in KL.

For over US$10K/pm, you must be in high demand. SG has a higher standard of living and such salary (> S$16K) is not easy to come by.