QUOTE(Sasuke95 @ Jun 24 2021, 01:53 PM)
Just an example, my experience mostly don't have materialistic girls, they were more wealthy than me to begin with and don't seem to care about money. They already knew im driving local brand car previously and accepted to be with me, so there's no question here.
If I know she's materialistic, I wouldn't go for it in the first place, i know I can't sustain it. I'll strictly limit myself to be their friend, they're good friends, they buy expensive stuffs from me, probably using their wealthy bf money.
Problem is, despite not being materialistic, they have other issues. When i say i can still lose to deep pockets, not because they bribe her with expensive stuffs, but because they're wealthy enough to be no longer need to work, have too much free time to commit and impress her using sweet ways. Also, sweet ways to impress costs money too while doesn't seem to look materialistic.
You just can't compete with people like that, they will silently compare your efforts to theirs, given enough time she'll eventually leaning towards accepting that better deal and leave you. Everyone is looking for easy way out.
One of my good friends got the money too, but the downside is his business is costing him a lot of time, but he's trying his very very best to squeeze every ounce of time available for her during off days. And it is never enough. She left for someone who have too much time, holding a camera, that can be there for her all the time and taking photos for her. I once had a gf snatched by photographer too.
Girls desire change all the time, very fickle. One moment she's very into you, once that attraction quickly wears off she'll look for the next thrill, doesn't have to be deep pockets, it could be ANY thing.
EDIT : don't you try to say "then don't chase these fickle type of girls", i will never know who they truly are until they show it. During the process she'll present herself to be your ideal type, very thoughtful, very rational, seems like the girl you'll want to seal the deal with. End up just an illusion, and happened too many times.
From all the posts that you have, can feel that you have lost faith to be in relationship and proposed single is the best way to be.If I know she's materialistic, I wouldn't go for it in the first place, i know I can't sustain it. I'll strictly limit myself to be their friend, they're good friends, they buy expensive stuffs from me, probably using their wealthy bf money.
Problem is, despite not being materialistic, they have other issues. When i say i can still lose to deep pockets, not because they bribe her with expensive stuffs, but because they're wealthy enough to be no longer need to work, have too much free time to commit and impress her using sweet ways. Also, sweet ways to impress costs money too while doesn't seem to look materialistic.
You just can't compete with people like that, they will silently compare your efforts to theirs, given enough time she'll eventually leaning towards accepting that better deal and leave you. Everyone is looking for easy way out.
One of my good friends got the money too, but the downside is his business is costing him a lot of time, but he's trying his very very best to squeeze every ounce of time available for her during off days. And it is never enough. She left for someone who have too much time, holding a camera, that can be there for her all the time and taking photos for her. I once had a gf snatched by photographer too.
Girls desire change all the time, very fickle. One moment she's very into you, once that attraction quickly wears off she'll look for the next thrill, doesn't have to be deep pockets, it could be ANY thing.
EDIT : don't you try to say "then don't chase these fickle type of girls", i will never know who they truly are until they show it. During the process she'll present herself to be your ideal type, very thoughtful, very rational, seems like the girl you'll want to seal the deal with. End up just an illusion, and happened too many times.
while you are keep on facing the same problem that having the girls left for something "better", although at the beginning they didn't shows any symptoms at the materialistic type - people will start to tell you stop chasing the same type of girls and you defends yourself that you will not know until they show their real face.
IDK, for me you are keep on searching in the same pool again and again because some how all these girls have some common characteristic that attract you at the beginning.
Yes I do agree some how girls change they mind all the time - BUT when about relationship, I believe most decent girls out there will not easily think of leaving unless something happened that is really broke their heart. We don't know what efforts that you have done so far, but real question is - are you doing the correct effort? is that the things that they really needs? not just because you think that is good for her? (except those who are looking for deep pocket)