May 15 2021, 08:45 PM
QUOTE(hong8888 @ May 15 2021, 06:10 PM)
So let me disclaimer 1st: I am a Chinese myself. So please don't say that I am racist ok.
I grew up in a not-so-typical Chinese household whereby my father was locally English-educated and, my mother, was educated in a Western country until she graduated from University.
Nevertheless I went to an SJK ( C) and went all the way until SMJK whereby I also took my Chinese in SPM and got an A for it.
And now I am working in a medium-sized audit firm (already 2yrs+), whereby my colleagues are 80~90% Chinese (and majority of them are from TARC, UTAR etc. I myself went to a local government uni though).
Throughout my student life and also my working life, I've witnessed how hardworking are these Chinese-educated Chinese (despite I myself being one of them).
Dang, the amount they put into studies and also their work ethics is so.....beyond me. Very hardworking and competitive indeed. At the same time, very materialistic too.
But it really does create a mental stress to me when looking at them being so competitive and hardworking.
Sometime I wonder, is it me who has personality / attitude issues?
I admit that I was blessed with certain level of intellect whereby I could just slack through my way, and still got Full As in my SPM, and lucky enough to be accepted into a Matrikulasi, and went to a local government uni, and again, fortunate enough to got my 1st class by slacking through my degree.
I've never understood why they had to be this hardworking and competitive, when, at the end of the day, they might end up with same position as me, or perhaps end up to be at a lil better position than me. What's the whole point?
And I noticed that sometimes its like ingrained into their DNA you know? Like hardworking is the only way to achieve success. Not to mention on how they actually measure success - which is solely by your wealth.
It seems that the Chinese society doesn't let you say that "I'm not so into high salaries, if huge sacrifices needs to be made. I rather take care of my health, my happiness, etc.". It seems that the moment you say this kind of statement, you are automatically a loser (well, 1st hand experience from myself).
Until this day I still failed to figure out the reason. Could this be due to upbringing / family culture problem?
As explained earlier, due to my parents background, they were really not typically Chinese minded. I also always failed to understand all the stories which my peers / friends would say, like how their parents would force them to study, ask about their grades, how their relatives will gossip about your grades and also, your salary. They all never happened to me. My parents / relatives just didnt gave a single f**k. Just be a good person, take care of yourself and that's it.
Whereas for typically Chinese minded parents it seems that they want their children to be "dragon / phoenix among the people" (人中之龍 / 人中之鳳). And everything revolves around money, material success. IIRC comedian Ronny Cheng once said "Do you know what does Chinese wish each other in CNY? Gong Xi Fa Cai (May you get rich) ! Not Happy New Year."
The question is, why?
Seriously, I admire the Malay working culture more because they are generally more relaxed. Whereas most of the Chinese I know would label it with negative connotations such as "lazy", "unmotivated", "easily satisfied and no dreams in life". Well, what if my dream is to live a happy, normal life?
I don't think you're a chinese when you have such thought.I grew up in a not-so-typical Chinese household whereby my father was locally English-educated and, my mother, was educated in a Western country until she graduated from University.
Nevertheless I went to an SJK ( C) and went all the way until SMJK whereby I also took my Chinese in SPM and got an A for it.
And now I am working in a medium-sized audit firm (already 2yrs+), whereby my colleagues are 80~90% Chinese (and majority of them are from TARC, UTAR etc. I myself went to a local government uni though).
Throughout my student life and also my working life, I've witnessed how hardworking are these Chinese-educated Chinese (despite I myself being one of them).
Dang, the amount they put into studies and also their work ethics is so.....beyond me. Very hardworking and competitive indeed. At the same time, very materialistic too.
But it really does create a mental stress to me when looking at them being so competitive and hardworking.
Sometime I wonder, is it me who has personality / attitude issues?
I admit that I was blessed with certain level of intellect whereby I could just slack through my way, and still got Full As in my SPM, and lucky enough to be accepted into a Matrikulasi, and went to a local government uni, and again, fortunate enough to got my 1st class by slacking through my degree.
I've never understood why they had to be this hardworking and competitive, when, at the end of the day, they might end up with same position as me, or perhaps end up to be at a lil better position than me. What's the whole point?
And I noticed that sometimes its like ingrained into their DNA you know? Like hardworking is the only way to achieve success. Not to mention on how they actually measure success - which is solely by your wealth.
It seems that the Chinese society doesn't let you say that "I'm not so into high salaries, if huge sacrifices needs to be made. I rather take care of my health, my happiness, etc.". It seems that the moment you say this kind of statement, you are automatically a loser (well, 1st hand experience from myself).
Until this day I still failed to figure out the reason. Could this be due to upbringing / family culture problem?
As explained earlier, due to my parents background, they were really not typically Chinese minded. I also always failed to understand all the stories which my peers / friends would say, like how their parents would force them to study, ask about their grades, how their relatives will gossip about your grades and also, your salary. They all never happened to me. My parents / relatives just didnt gave a single f**k. Just be a good person, take care of yourself and that's it.
Whereas for typically Chinese minded parents it seems that they want their children to be "dragon / phoenix among the people" (人中之龍 / 人中之鳳). And everything revolves around money, material success. IIRC comedian Ronny Cheng once said "Do you know what does Chinese wish each other in CNY? Gong Xi Fa Cai (May you get rich) ! Not Happy New Year."
The question is, why?
Seriously, I admire the Malay working culture more because they are generally more relaxed. Whereas most of the Chinese I know would label it with negative connotations such as "lazy", "unmotivated", "easily satisfied and no dreams in life". Well, what if my dream is to live a happy, normal life?
Don't pretend to be chinese!!.
We all know why we need to be hardworking and earn our money.
We know why me must be better than others to lives and survive on our own.
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