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Zoo Howl
post Mar 23 2021, 11:25 PM

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QUOTE(kesvani @ Mar 23 2021, 09:31 PM)
My advice. Settle with foreign GF instead. /K here know me well enough
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Yours is from viet or indo already? Forgotten about your thread
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post Mar 23 2021, 11:48 PM

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QUOTE(Zoo Howl @ Mar 23 2021, 11:25 PM)
Yours is from viet or indo already? Forgotten about your thread
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Walao. Secret lah. I just suggest to TS. Does it really matter where your future wife come from as long as you both true to each other. Luckily mine didnt care i poor. In fact she car sick so my Honda wave is enough to be her transport
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post Mar 24 2021, 12:01 AM

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QUOTE(kesvani @ Mar 23 2021, 11:48 PM)
Walao. Secret lah. I just suggest to TS. Does it really matter where your future wife come from as long as you both true to each other. Luckily mine didnt care i poor. In fact she car sick so my Honda wave is enough to be her transport
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Your family and friend can accept?

Where did u found her? Which dating app?
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post Mar 24 2021, 12:15 AM

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QUOTE(Zoo Howl @ Mar 24 2021, 12:01 AM)
Your family and friend can accept?

Where did u found her? Which dating app?
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I don't care what my family think. They don't like their pasal. Marriage is about 2 people

My ex customer maid. Just straight ajak kahwin literally
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post Mar 24 2021, 12:48 AM

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QUOTE(kesvani @ Mar 24 2021, 12:15 AM)
I don't care what my family think.  They don't like their pasal. Marriage is about 2 people

My ex customer maid. Just straight ajak kahwin literally
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Wow wishing u a happy marriage


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post Mar 24 2021, 03:08 PM

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QUOTE(firagax @ Mar 23 2021, 07:44 PM)
Thanks for the advice! Though I'm a bit curious about the whole "don't invite her out for a movie" part, why is that?

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bcos if u're watching a movie, u cannot really interact with her compared to other better dating activities.
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post Mar 24 2021, 03:26 PM

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QUOTE(firagax @ Mar 23 2021, 07:44 PM)
Been 2 years with such results, I'm also inclined to think that its only for good looking and rich guys. Maybe just being pessimistic here.

One question in general, is it fine to flirt or use pick up lines as an introduction? For some reason I feel its quite cringy at times when I try to type it out but I'm not sure how the receiving side will feel.
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Ive been meeting with almost 150 females in ~10 years time, over 200 dates id guess. You don't need to be extra good looking or rich. If you're rich, why would you on dating sites? You better save time pay for sugar babies instead.

For me, i dont use pickup line. I use observational openers often. It will spike their interest other than the normal, 'hi how are you' which is lame AF ofc you could pull it off if you were celebrity there.
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post Mar 24 2021, 03:26 PM

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Only amateur will bring girl to movie for a date
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post Mar 24 2021, 07:35 PM

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QUOTE(kesvani @ Mar 24 2021, 12:15 AM)
I don't care what my family think.  They don't like their pasal. Marriage is about 2 people

My ex customer maid. Just straight ajak kahwin literally
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Wow, hope I got your courage! Good for you biggrin.gif Wish you all the best


QUOTE(Blofeld @ Mar 24 2021, 03:08 PM)
bcos if u're watching a movie, u cannot really interact with her compared to other better dating activities.
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That's a good tip! Something to keep in mind. Thanks a lot!

QUOTE(-mystery- @ Mar 24 2021, 03:26 PM)
Ive been meeting with almost 150 females in ~10 years time, over 200 dates id guess. You don't need to be extra good looking or rich. If you're rich, why would you on dating sites? You better save time pay for sugar babies instead.

For me, i dont use pickup line. I use observational openers often. It will spike their interest other than the normal, 'hi how are you' which is lame AF ofc you could pull it off if you were celebrity there.
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Wow that's a lot! True on the rich part.

I agree what Takudan mentioned too, to not pretend what I'm not, I find it difficult to try hard and be someone out of character. I'll stick with my own way of conversing then but probably with a few enhancement here and there based on the advice I got here. smile.gif
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post Mar 25 2021, 02:16 PM

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goodness...reach late 20s also TS worry

i know guys who marry in 40s and have kids also can


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post Mar 25 2021, 04:54 PM

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QUOTE(firagax @ Mar 23 2021, 09:46 AM)
Same goes for conversation in app, I normally will go out of character (kind of like to avoid scaring people off) and ask typical stuff that display on their profile (those without description I'd the hardest). Typically those that actually replies only reply at bare minimum, example:
Me: What's your hobby?
Her: Gaming  i will usually unmatch this woman or just move on if she just reply one liner like that... ahha usually woman will follow up whats your hobbies too.. i will continue to msg her, just like what u did if i m very desperate or she very hot , also means i m desperate
Me: Looks like we have something in common smile.gif what game did you play?
Her: Lol
Me: League of Legends?
Her: Yes
Me: Oh I didn't play that one. I heard is not bad.

Then the conversation died because there's no longer a question.

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post Mar 26 2021, 11:31 AM

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My experience, everything is on your pic.

If they likes you, they will chat up with you. Not reply 1 liner. Last time I experience your 1 liner example too. Now as well. But now less cause I don't bother them if they 1 liner me. Unless they are hot. But even that, I can't bring the relationship to next lvl. So usually I ignore them and save few mins from my life.

Nowadays I just say hi lol. Same result, they like you they will reply. Tried cringy opener too but usually will lead to 1 liner. Maybe my text skill not as power as other seasoned daters.

I agree foreign women are somehow easier. Too bad can't travel.



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post Mar 26 2021, 03:16 PM

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post Mar 26 2021, 05:37 PM

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If theres one thing that i learn from online dating, is that the most important factor is your physical appearance.

Your low matches suggests that you aint great in looks department, like i am.

So what i suggest, lowered down your taste. Swipe more those not so good looking girl too. Improve your texting skill. You only have question. Where is the funny witty line? And improve your pic. Includes more outdoor pic that makes you look cool.


Source: few girls teach me on what guy will they swipe right on apps.

This post has been edited by viole: Mar 26 2021, 05:38 PM
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post Mar 26 2021, 06:05 PM

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Go out and talk to some amoi liao..i see a lot credit card agents came out disturbing people in shopping mall already #cmco
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post Mar 27 2021, 04:18 AM

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if you get lesser match, you need to relook on your profile pictures and information. Browse through all the guys instagram whom has alot of followers. see how they dress, how they angle the photoshot. learn, replicate and update. That is how you sell yourself. if a pretty girl doesn't know how to snap a good photo or doesn't make up you will also won't swipe right right?

vibe of a conversation is very important. you're not a police, nor an employer interviewing. the way you ask question is a 1 way direction and its not engaging. Plus, you should not focus too much on yourself. let mystery surrounds you and they will ask you the questions. if they don't, ask a question which they will ask a question to you. how i would change your conversation.

Me: What's your hobby?
Her: Gaming
Me: then you must be very famous?
Her: Lol, why do you say so?
Me: I'm guessing you must be a streamer. are you?
Her: (her yes or no answer doesn't matter)
Me: you must be a pro then, maybe i can learn a few tricks from you.
Her: (most of the time she will deny or being humble, her response doesn't matter)
Me: You're very humble, how about we play together as a team? what games do you normally play?

When you talk to girls, don't talk like you're conversing with your bros. There is another rule. Make sure you read her profile. understand what she has written. Most girls as sensitive esp you don't seem hot. if you're handsome and hot that is an exceptions lah. whatever she has written, make sure you do not questions the same thing again, or she will deem you're not so interested on her and didn't take the effort to read what she has mentioned about herself. it is a turn off for women.

Don't fred. you need to keep talking to girls so that you will slowly improve. learn some joke over the internet. watch youtube videos on how to flirt. improve and practice with the girls matching with you. go with the vibe that you're there to talk, not to be desperate to be a girlfriend or boyfriend. if the conversation is relaxed and fun the girl will continue to talk to you. remember, there are other guys whom are competing with you. she not responding to you means she has gone disinterest and someone else is much more interesting. They have choices, you make yourself seemingly look don't. Make your life purposeful. maybe halfway during the conversation disappear for 30 minutes or longer. then make a come back. (the objective is to create mystery). then when you're back in the conversation, just mentioned you're busy doing something like your hobby in brewing coffee or tea, or working out in the gym or attending muay thai. Let them see your life is interesting. When they feel you're hard to reach, they will chase after you.
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post Mar 27 2021, 04:04 PM

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QUOTE(IpohGuyz @ Mar 26 2021, 11:31 AM)
I agree foreign women are somehow easier. Too bad can't travel.
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Haha as much as i love dating foreign but keep staying alert with some intent 2 break family apart icon_idea.gif icon_idea.gif
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post Mar 27 2021, 11:35 PM

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QUOTE(Danq @ Mar 27 2021, 10:22 PM)
sometime marriage relating 2 families especially when you stay with your mother in law
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I tot nowadays young couple already own a place to stay? Some even rent just to avoid drama with parents in law
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post Mar 28 2021, 02:20 PM

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QUOTE(Danq @ Mar 27 2021, 10:16 PM)
yes sometime we feel demotivate after fail so many times
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Dating Apps will definitely magnify this feeling. The con side of it is that you will be feeling not loveable due to numerous rejections. Well, every guy will get rejections in their romantic quest and this is common. Embrace the fact that not everyone is going to like/love you.
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QUOTE(justapawn @ Mar 28 2021, 02:20 PM)
Dating Apps will definitely magnify this feeling. The con side of it is that you will be feeling not loveable due to numerous rejections. Well, every guy will get rejections in their romantic quest and this is common. Embrace the fact that not everyone is going to like/love you.
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only losers will quit
i already hooked up with few different females on this week
next week will gonna be another two coming

getting rejected by girls already feel painful? then what else you're able to achieve in life as a man.
internet porn welcomes you then rclxm9.gif

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