i dont understand all this fuss, with some people even going as far as to say some methods are best.

'civilised' people will know that the proper conduct (for a guest) is to graciously adapt to whatever method their host prefers. if an asian host invites you to eat dinner with fork and spoon, do so. if a western host invites you to eat dinner with your hands, do so. if someone invites you to eat using nothing but your elbows, you do so.

the purpose of learning how to use cutlery (or any other method of eating) is for the guest to adapt to the host, not the other way round.